No contradiction here - you just confirmed my point. In a pageant, you can fancy candidate A based on personal taste, but the panel of judges vote and B wins. That actually means B > A.
Now apply that to real life. You may bang a girl that you consider a 9. Great. However, she is 29 years old, has never been married, has never even dated a high status man, has no modeling or acting contracts. These facts about her are a better overall reflection of her true SMV. She may be a 9 to you, but not others. There’s nothing wrong with dating this girl, she’s just not actually a 9.