polishing a diamond in the rough

[pornstar88]

have you guys ever polished a diamond in the rough? I mean take a girl that could look good if she knew how to dress and do her hair . I know this is possible because most popular females dont look very good in the face or with thier body. THey just know how to do thier hair and dress. But thier are some bomb girls that dont care to do that so thus they arent popular or girlfriend material. And they are overlooked. However I wanna start from scratch with a gurl that has mad potential and I wanna build her up but I dont know how i should do it. Should I buy her clothes and should i be brutally honest about how i want her to look I just am not sure how I should do it any tips.

 

[sexxyback]

this sounds like too much work. the guy shouldn't be the one to worry about hair and clothes.

 

[DJsomeday]

my brother made her gf improve like hell, like he made her wear contacts, dress well and do her hair right i'm gonna tell him how he said things to her! wait for my answer

 

[Mjazz]

How about this, you just bang her.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I polishing my LTR right now.

When I met her, for some reason, her gay brother had done her make up and clothes so she looked good.

After a few dates I was really digging her and felt a huge shock when I found out she normaly doesn't wear makeup and sometimes goes out with uncombed hair and and wearing glasses. On a normal bases she didn't put much effort in her appearance.

I like girly, hight maintnance types. She was the opposite but has the best personality and is the most datable girl I've ever been with. Problem is I'm just not attracted to her in her (old) normal state.

All that has changed and is getting better.

She now get's her nails and hair done. She is in the gym more than me and eats WAY cleaner (and I eat clean). And wears make-up and contacts 99% of the time.

She is definatley getting polished and has major potential.

I was simply upfront and told her my expectations. I gave her a speech about value and how looks play a part. I told her the importance of physical appearance when it comes to sexual desire and how important that is for a good relationship.

I told her I put alot of effort into working out, not only for me, but for my girl and I expect the same from her.

I gave her a speech about fat/ugly/unappealing couples and how they have to settle for each other but will always wish they could get somebody better.

I told her I work hard on myself. I strive to be the best in every way. I refuse to be with someone who is content being average or not their best.

I always use tact and am honest but am never mean or tease her about it. I use positive reinforcement and reward her for good work. I am honest and am not afraid to criticise her in a tactful manner.

She knows she has a choice. She can work hard on herself and have the reward of self-improvement as well as have a guy who strives to be excellent or she can sit around and be lazy and settle for whatever desperate guy will take her. This is my frame and I have made it her frame.

She tells me since we've been going out she feels so much better about herself, both mentally and physically.

The plus side is she acts like the perfect girlfriend. Something I've noticed is inversely porportional to the hotness of a girl.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I made this as a new post because I feel it is important.

If you yourself don't have value DO NOT expect for her to improve for you.

If you do have value then she should realize (after you tell her) that self-improvement is the way to keep you.

 

[pornstar88]

Damn thats what im gonna do with my girl now you should defineatley make a good post about how to do this. Cuz my current gurl has a pretty face but she is about 20 pounds over weight. I dont know how to tell her to lose the weight but I know she could look beautiful if she did.

 

[john_1234]

Damn thats what im gonna do with my girl now you should defineatley make a good post about how to do this. Cuz my current gurl has a pretty face but she is about 20 pounds over weight. I dont know how to tell her to lose the weight but I know she could look beautiful if she did.

Yep, I felt the exact same way with this one girl. She had tits and ass but was a little on the chunky side. She would have been fine had she toned up. I never told her straight up, but I did eat healthy and work out on a consistent basis thinking that she'd probably follow. When it comes down to it, we shouldn't force anything on others. They have to want to change for themselves. If your girl seems lazy and unmotivated to lose the pounds (like being carefree and eating whatever, not watching what she eats, no exercise), she's not going to lose weight anytime soon. Anyways, this was about almost ten years ago. I looked her up on Myspace and unfortunately for her, she is now a confirmed fattie.

 

[pornstar88]

damn thats what i dont want i dont wanna have a kid with this girl or marry her if she is gonna be a fatty. My dad was lookn over my shoulder and saw my girl and called fat and now im not as attracted anymore. So anyway this is what I said too her on myspace.

"im starting to work out again and get into shape, u should too. Its fun and easy and will make ya feel better about yourself. I work out and try to look and feel my best so I think my girl should too. You have to care about yourself enough to keep in shape and stay healthy. Its about caring about yourself. I expect you to look as good as possible and you should expect that of me. If you want a slob then you have to be a slob. If you want someone excellent then you should be excellent. I piss excellents so thats what I expect. U should work out about 4 times a week. Cuz thats what I do. U should join track cuz Im joinin track. Just to stay in shape and have a little bit of fun on the way. I would like to see you get in better shape and take care of your self by getting excersise."

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I think your message was a bad idea.
There is nothing wrong with being up front but not in that way.

Why should she work out just cause you are?

Somethings to keep in mind:

Don't even bother trying to get her to change if she's not worth it. Just accept is until you are ready to next and find somebody else.

Don't just assume she cares about keeping you enough to go through the work of changing. She might think, "whatever, I'll just find a new guy who's to pus$y (afc) to care"

In my situation I have enough value for my girl to know she has to do certain things for us to be together. If I didn't have this value to her I know she would tell me to f^ck off (maybe not anymore now that she is becoming used to the lifestyle).

That's what it really all boils down to. What is your girl wiling to do to keep you. And what are willing to accept.

I absolutley will not accept a fat wife. I will not accept a wife who does not work out. I will not accept a wife who eats like crap.

My GF knows this. She knows that at this point in my life I won't be exclusive with somebody I wouldn't marry. She wants to be exclusive so therefor she need to be marriage material. She know I won't hesitate to walk if she don't meet my criteria (just like I tell her to walk if I don't meet hers) no matter how much I love her.

She also now that we are getting a prenup if we get married so she can't just get sloppy once we are married tinking she already has me.

 

[pornstar88]

read from the bottom too the top. And I dont know how she is gonna take this. But i hope she starts becoming a fitness queen

me:

Good cuz i know you can do this
her:

YES!!! I WANT TO..LOL & Y NOT?? ITS HARD KUS THERE ADDICTING.....=-/

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From:me
Date: Feb 11, 2007 8:11 PM


thats good. Im goin to start watching what i eat do you wanna do that. Damn dont get anymore damnit

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From:her
Date: 11 Feb 2007, 20:09



yep i do
& on my chest
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From: me
Date: Feb 11, 2007 8:08 PM


I ran and i played alot of bball. But i ran on the treadmill and im starting wieght training tommorow. Do you wanna get in shape.Where at.

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From: her
Date: 11 Feb 2007, 20:06



yea wat u do? weights or wat? & i got a paw print like the 1 lil kim has.
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From:me
Date: Feb 11, 2007 8:05 PM


what is it of. And i work out, to make myself feel better. I did it today ( should too) and i am going to do it tommorow

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From: her
Date: 11 Feb 2007, 20:04



oooooh yea tru tru oh & i got the new tatoo done
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From: me
Date: Feb 11, 2007 8:02 PM


its easy to get an aerobic tape here and there and just do it like 7 minutes a day. Youll lose mad wieght i seen is happen my mom did it

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From: her
Date: 11 Feb 2007, 18:11


ooooooooooooooh ok.damn that was hella long!! but ok yea i agree even tho i think u already look good..umm ok i play soccer so yea.thats wat imma do wen i go bak to mesa if i make it in time.

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: me
Date: Feb 11, 2007 12:23 PM


im starting to work out again and get into shape, u should too. Its fun and easy and will make ya feel better about yourself. I work out and try to look and feel my best so I think my girl should too. You have to care about yourself enough to keep in shape and stay healthy. Its about caring about yourself. I expect you to look as good as possible and you should expect that of me. If you want a slob then you have to be a slob. If you want someone excellent then you should be excellent. I piss excellents so thats what I expect. U should work out about 4 times a week. Cuz thats what I do. U should join track cuz Im joinin track. Just to stay in shape and have a little bit of fun on the way. I would like to see you get in better shape and take care of your self by getting excersise.

 

[Kev07]

i tried to polish my prom date, she was fat, invited her to jog with me... didn't work well. meh fat girls stay fat, at least she takes care of my one fat girl dated requirement for a lifetime.

 

[Styles]

How about this, you just bang her.

lmao