So we were supposed to go out ten pin bolwing Sat night - she cancels as she's "out with the family and won't be back until later, but you are welocme to come over".
Then later that evening get another text "Not feeling well so going straight to bed when I get home, but do you still want to do something tomorrow?".
Next day get a text: "Still feeling unwell - lets do something next weekend, and I can come in for lunch next week perhaps?"
This is when I decided enough is enough.
So I confronted her about her being actively online - (I made up a story about how a mate of mine saw she had been online a number of days this week)
Her reply was that "in the 2 years on POF I have made friends from all around the world - I don't have to explanation anything to you, if you have trust issues thats your problem".
So I replied not to paint herself as the victim here, that rather than accuse me of trust issues, its about respect. I advised her that you can hide your online status, change your relationship status, and also asked how come if she is just on that site to make "friends around the world" that she has her mail settings as "must live in New Zealand" - because that means only guys in New Zealand can contact her.....if she wants to advertise herself as single and be active in POF online searches then I am not comfortable with that.
Heres my take: This woman wants her cake and eat it too, is probably addicted to attention whoring on POF.
To me POF is a pure pick up joint, a dry singles bar or whatever you want to call it.
I have no doubt she has been flirting with other guys - call me old fashioned - but to me its no different than the girl you are going out with going off to a singles bar without you and seeking attention from single guys - why the need to do that if she is with me?
I've been through some good times with this woman this past month, but it is pretty much over.
Again - the dangers of investing and believing in one woman. Time to spin plates.
Then later that evening get another text "Not feeling well so going straight to bed when I get home, but do you still want to do something tomorrow?".
Next day get a text: "Still feeling unwell - lets do something next weekend, and I can come in for lunch next week perhaps?"
This is when I decided enough is enough.
So I confronted her about her being actively online - (I made up a story about how a mate of mine saw she had been online a number of days this week)
Her reply was that "in the 2 years on POF I have made friends from all around the world - I don't have to explanation anything to you, if you have trust issues thats your problem".
So I replied not to paint herself as the victim here, that rather than accuse me of trust issues, its about respect. I advised her that you can hide your online status, change your relationship status, and also asked how come if she is just on that site to make "friends around the world" that she has her mail settings as "must live in New Zealand" - because that means only guys in New Zealand can contact her.....if she wants to advertise herself as single and be active in POF online searches then I am not comfortable with that.
Heres my take: This woman wants her cake and eat it too, is probably addicted to attention whoring on POF.
To me POF is a pure pick up joint, a dry singles bar or whatever you want to call it.
I have no doubt she has been flirting with other guys - call me old fashioned - but to me its no different than the girl you are going out with going off to a singles bar without you and seeking attention from single guys - why the need to do that if she is with me?
I've been through some good times with this woman this past month, but it is pretty much over.
Again - the dangers of investing and believing in one woman. Time to spin plates.
