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[jafyk]

Are they right? Am I wrong? POF Profile analysis pls

Ok, this is not to bore you but to give you some sort of background info with regards to what I'm about to ask.
Background
I am one of those guys who wants to someday get settled down with a wife and kids while pursuing some of my passions and hobbies on the side. However, with that said as of today I am not in a position to settle down and marry someone. Mostly due to finances, currently pursuing an education and still feel like I'm in mid level on my journey to DJ kingdom. So, when it comes to dating the ONS doesn't appeal to me. I'd rather be active with someone with whom I can see again and have something meaningful with (even if casual) besides sex because eventually for me the "hi, fvck and goodbye" routine bores me. So, when it comes to dating I try to cast my net wide to reel in different kinds of women. Recently what is important to me first is if I can get laid from the encounter. If in the process I find this lady a high quality woman then I can start thinking of a serious future with her; if she meets certain standards I have.

The Purpose of this post
While I try to meet women in different real life situations I use Plenty of Fish as supplement to improve my chances. In the process I've encountered a few girls that said that I have too many pictures of women in my profile images. Some say it turns women off, others say it makes me look like a player. The most recent lady whom I had messaged said she had by passed my profile a lot of times because of that. She specifically said that the pics of me at parties and clubs gives a woman who wants to settle down a bad impression. Despite these complaints/misconceptions by these ladies I actually dated one of them for close to 2 months and have had a few dates with some others.

Why Do I Have Those Pics Up?
Well, I've read mostly from this site that 1) women find men who have women around them attractive (2) We should include pictures that show us having fun and doing things we enjoy as opposed to just a face shot or pics of one just by himself.
So, now that you have a clear understanding of the situation that I need your help with. My question is 1) are the criticisms of my profile pics by these ladies valid? (Considering that a lot of times it is said do the opposite of what a woman says and women don't know what they want etc) (2) Would you please take a look at my profile below and tell me if it's a bit too much and if there's anything I can do to fix it and make it more appealing. Thank you. http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=17581494

 

[FairShake]

One picture with women is great. Too many pictures with women is too try hard. And yes, they would like to think you won't be fvcking other women while they're with you. But they would like to think you COULD be fvcking other women while they're with you but won't. Hence the beauty of one picture.

(3) I really do speak my mind be it seriously or in terms of humor (4)I try to be open minded and not see everything as black and white.

As an aside these two RARELY go together. People who like to brag about speaking their mind are usually people who like to fight. And are stubborn and don't listen. Now women will often say they are both open-minded AND blunt truth tellers so maybe they won't mind. I just don't think those two go together.

 

[r0cky]

Looks good to me. I like the humor, but then again I'm a guy.

 

[jafyk]

Thanks I appreciate the input. It used to be much worse, lol.

 

[Rogue]

The display of your potency with the ladies is subtle. Your photos are mixed between different contexts and mixed companies. You're just a brother who keeps it real and enjoys the company of ordinary people.

In the process I've encountered a few girls that said that I have too many pictures of women in my profile images. Some say it turns women off, others say it makes me look like a player. The most recent lady whom I had messaged said she had by passed my profile a lot of times because of that. She specifically said that the pics of me at parties and clubs gives a woman who wants to settle down a bad impression. Despite these complaints/misconceptions by these ladies I actually dated one of them for close to 2 months and have had a few dates with some others.

There are three things to note:

1. I'm guessing the "most recent lady" is an older woman. She's shaming your subtle display of suave ways with the ladies, subtlety shaming the young girls in the pictures, and you call her a lady. The important thing to understand is the power dynamics in her life have shifted and she knows her mileage is being replaced by newer models every month.

2. She "passed by" your profile multiple times. If you had less pictures of less chicks, she wouldn't have looked at your profile more than once and she wouldn't have remembered you. There are magnitudes more profiles of guys than chicks and chicks are bombarded by attention on the nuclear scale.

3. The problem is not with your game but with Plenty of Fish and the dynamics of internet dating.

Curiously, it has been scientifically discovered, as explained by British psychologist Richard Wiseman in his book Quirkology, men are very good at predicting which personal ads will be successful but women cannot.

 

[SecondHalf]

Lose the chic pics.

"I enjoy art, theater or anything else creative" rather than ... "2) I'm into the arts"

Punctuate that profile.

Make it witty and intelligent (it's not bad in that fashion).
When you describe what you want to do, describe things that they can visualize and would want to be a part of.

Don't tell the chunkies to pass you by, it comes off as negative. Just ignore 'em. The old and heavy are always going to try.
You might say to help you filter ... "I enjoy an active lifestyle and seek someone who can run the road less traveled with me" (or some such nonsense ).

SH

 

[DJ Logic]

UGH.. POF is such a huge waste of time. Nothing but psychos and 6's who think they are dime pieces. Anyways I could not resist lending you a hand because your profile needs some work.

Ways to improve the profile

The photos are great. Perfect blend of friends, family and chicks to spark that competition. The written part needs work though:

I would eliminate all the lols - makes you look like a spazzed out teenager. You are also trying too hard to be witty and not cutting to the chase quick enough. Remember these b-tches look at hundred of profiles. You have to stand out! Also talk less about yourself and more about your qualifications.
Gah, fukkit - here you go man:

My name is Albie and I love to socialize and have fun. I'm an open-minded fella who digs artists and people who generally speak their minds with total honesty. I'm interested in a lady (no girls please) who has a sense of humor and some depth to her as well, someone respectable but not too stuck up to have a good time.

While I consider myself a deep person I recognize that attraction is not a choice and we all have preferences so it will probably save us all time to mention that I am not interested in heavy set women (plump, voluptuous, full-figured, big-boned need not apply either) Let's put it this way if you think you are bigger than Sara Ramirez (Callie Torres) on Grey's anatomy http://www.imdb.com/media/rm613192704/nm0708381 I'm not interested. It's nothing personal, I just know what turns me on, and that's women who value themselves enough to live a healthy lifestyle. (An ass that doesn't look like clumps of cottage cheese that were tossed on a ceiling by chimpanzees on crack also helps)

What would I do for a first date? There is only one way to find out. Do you like surprises? Do you like to laugh? I can say that it will be different, memorable and a welcome escape from the mundane pace of life. I'm not the perfect man for everyone - only the adventurous and free-spirited will appreciate what I have to offer. Do you have what it takes? Then take my hand and we'll go places you've never imagined. I hope you like anal.

Haha you can delete the last sentence. Was just having a bit of fun there.

Dealing with complaints of too many women
Your response should be casual and dismissive.

Damn we are not even dating yet and you are already trying to control my social circle? That's a huge red flag - you just lost a lot of points right now. Seriously though, these girls are all just friends, despite your impressions I am VERY selective about who I get involved with romantically. This would be a given if you got to know me as a person instead of judging me by my pics. Just sayin.

When they try to call you a player

I'm sorry but the word player implies that I am into games and nothing is further from the truth - which is that I get off on sincerity, and the reason I am not involved with all these girls is that they can't handle the truth (though some have tried). My life is pretty full and interesting as it is. I don't need a woman to make me happy so that grants me the luxury of being picky. If you feel threatened by this, or by other women who find me attractive then that says more about you than me.

 

[Solomon]

Great advice by the previous two posters, yeah bruh, one pic of you and chick(2) is enough I personally only have one pic up. Your profile is really dry mate, where is your humor? When women hit me up they always say how my profile is funny even though its semi-serious, I still am able to be infuse some humor in it

 

[jafyk]

Ha ha DJ Logic I like what you've written. I will revamp my profile pic. Is there any particular pic that should go guys? Are the amount of pics I have there just alright...too few or too many?

 

[Rogue]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=108317

The fun starts at post #19.

 

[jafyk]

This is funny. Thanks for sharing it.

 

[iqqi]

That picture of you doing the heart thing with your hands is super, duper, gay.

 

[jafyk]

That picture of you doing the heart thing with your hands is super, duper, gay.

But then again so many things in America are considered gay. For example if you say another guy is good looking; even though it's just an opinion. Anyway, I guess if more people share your view on this then I have something to think about with regards to the said pic. Thanks for your input though.

 

[Desdinova]

Cross posting is not allowed on the forum. Threads merged.

 

[DJ Logic]

One more thought - your opening pic is probably not going to help you much. It's cool to have pics of you having fun with women, but to have that as your default could be a huge turn-off. The opening pic needs to be strong and show your best features. If it was me I'd have a photographer friend take some nice, artsy looking pictures (try black and white shots too) choose the best one and have that as your default. Feel free to dress up for the occasion, or just do some headshots. Play around with it.

At the end of the day you want their reaction to be "Ohh, who's THIS??" not "Huh? What is he doing with that skank?"

 

[jafyk]

Cross posting is not allowed on the forum. Threads merged.

My apologies. Where can I find all the rules for this site? Send me a link pls.

 

[jafyk]

One more thought - your opening pic is probably not going to help you much. It's cool to have pics of you having fun with women, but to have that as your default could be a huge turn-off. The opening pic needs to be strong and show your best features. If it was me I'd have a photographer friend take some nice, artsy looking pictures (try black and white shots too) choose the best one and have that as your default. Feel free to dress up for the occasion, or just do some headshots. Play around with it.

At the end of the day you want their reaction to be "Ohh, who's THIS??" not "Huh? What is he doing with that skank?"

Ok, thanks for the insight I will wait a bit for more inputs and then apply necessary changes based on the advice I've received from you guys.