POF is NOT as easy as it used to be

[Jariel]

is that all your profile says?

Pretty much, although I have got an added rant about fakes and liars.

 

[Solomon]

Let me start off by saying that POF, while full of hogs, daddy seekers, seperated women, women looking just for the hell of it, etc, you could still at least occasionally meet a decent/hot looking girl to bang. boy how times have changed! this is my second time on the site and what worked before ain't working now! i could send out message after message and get a return rate of 75% at the LEAST. i'd get so many replies that i didn't have time to write them all back. nowdays it seems that for every 10 messages i send out, 5 are read and never responded to, 3 are read and deleted, and one gets unread and deleted for God sakes! the one that DOES respond does so half assily, or either they will respond once or twice more and never respond again. you send them a quick follow up email a week or so later saying something like "so, already ignoring me now huh?" and you get blocked! they used to respond to that sh!t everytime and more times then not offer their number to you and gave some lame excuse as to why they didnt respond. you didnt ask for the number, they just gave it!
I use to get shyt tons of dates on Pof and numbers as well. I think I was going on a new date every 2 weeks or so. Now It's far and few in between
the other thing i've noticed is unless you have time to sit in front of a computer all day and email these b!tches back and forth all day long, you will be forgotten very quickly. if you email a girl and she seems interested, you better not let your job, exams, etc get in the way because if you respond two days later guess what, shes moved on or has a chip on her shoulder because you took 2 days to write back. now she goes to ignoring you.lol
Women lose interest really fast cause their so many "thristy" guys trying to talk to them. I have had that happen were I was talking to a chick then all of a sudden its radio silence. Just keeping it moving, something that has helped me with a couple chicks is hollaring again at a later date
then there are the times they do give you their number, everything seems to be going smoothly. you talk to them once, maybe twice and never hear from them again.

this sh!t is way harder then it use to be on this site and seems to be more trouble then its worth. anyone else having as bad of an experience as i am? like i said, this is my second time on there and my golden ways of old arent working for sh!t now. whats changed???

POF IMO isn't worth the effort, maybe one hour a day max while your doing other things, its filled with fatties and single mothers. I don't use POF as nothing more then to break out of a slump

 

[omkara]

I haven't used online dating for like a few weeks, and I have no prospects right now. As was said earlier, it takes away focus and dilutes your sense of purpose.

Although it is validating to have conversations and dates with girls, it also makes me feel worse when I get burned. It's like a drug. When I started acting desperate and not getting replies, I knew it was time to take a break.

So far, I have just tried to make peace with being alone and I have started to come up with ideas to be social in the real world. I have looked into hiking groups, soccer groups, and have been meaning to start a new band for several months. That may sound weak, but the seeds have been planted and it's only a matter of time until I put them into action. There's a lot of other stuff that goes into that that I'm not even going to attempt to go in to here.

 

[Wilko]

Just so happens I was cleaning out my inbox today and came across some e-mails (with some very dirty souvenir pics attached) from some girls I was "involved" with a few years ago, good times Looking back on it as objectively as I can the online game really did seem easier back then (2007-ish); I was never more than a month away from having a new and attractive F-buddy.

Fast-forward to 2011 and it feels like I'm working two, three times as hard to get similar results, and that's with my game being as good as it ever has been. Hmmm, so what gives?

I think Squirrels is all over it...

PoF is like an Internet nightclub. If you're just signing up NOW, then you're too late. The women are already bailing on that turd and looking for the next website where they can discreetly find decent guys to f**k.

Nailed it man.

Need to find myself a nice little unexploited niche somewhere.

 

[bigneil]

male over population is such that many females dont take men seriously until they want or need something .. its not their fault its just a male over load..

This is true - especially for men born between 1965 and 1980 in the US. The Baby Boomers had lots of women, and Generation X had relatively few. The Baby Boomer men (who also hit their prime in 1972 - the peak of the US Inflation adjusted Dollar) had easier access to money, so they cherry picked the women from our generation (pardon the pun).

I read there are about 6 single men for every single woman!

Lots of women were born in the 1980's so it's catching up, but if you're 35+ you're sort of out of luck. There's no question that a man has it 10 times harder than a woman who is of the same physical attractiveness. But that only means you have to be closer to perfect - not a bad thing.

But it's way harder than it should be. I'm tall, make 100K per year and am good looking. Only 1 in 500 men has all 3 - and even I have slumps and couldn't score an 8+ on POF (unlike 5 years ago when I met a few).

Glad to hear Jariel is doing so well on POF but he is in the UK. Location is the #1 factor for male/female ratio. Some cities are just easier. Plus he has a great write-up and is probably very good looking.