Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Have a story to share with the peeps in here. A few months ago I was contacted by a woman from Florida, she showed high interest, but I dismissed the whole thing based on the distance thing. She was relatively attractive, a 7 on my scale, 5 years older than me, divorced mom. She messaged me on PoF for a few weeks. Most of the time I didn't and couldn't respond, based on my low interest, based on distance and logistics. We exchanged numbers, and a few weeks, after me not calling her at all, me not initiating anything , me not making an effort, a couple of months passed, and she called me. I didn't hear her message until about a week later, so I texted her.
To make a long story short, by text, she wanted me to go visit her in Florida. I told her I just couldn't justify flying all the way there for a meet and greet. She told me she could take a week off, to be open minded, etc. I told her if I was Mr. Gates, I could just hop on a plane or my jet, and meet her for coffee; but since that wasn't the case, I just don't do dates that are not within short driving distance. She wanted me to go meet her. She liked me, based on my profile.
She finally got me to give it a serious consideration after she said if I went to her, I could stay in her house; as I wasn't going to drop a gran flying and spending money on a hotel, just for a "date" or meet and greet. After a couple more weeks of "negotiating", basically she selling me on going over, she said she would pay my departure flight. I had something to work with. She emailed me my flight info.
She kept telling me how nervous she was, as this was totaly out of her confort zone, to invite someone over, and taking the chance at there being no attraction, or in person chemistry. So she booked activities for each of the 4 days of my stay. She paid for Universal Studios, kayaking at the beach, we split the cost for a concert, and kept asking me about clothes size, as she was shopping for me.
She went to pick me up at a different city 1.5 hours away, just so I could save on my plane ticket. So I meet up with her, and I am pleasantly surprised. I see a hottie, MILF, 5'7" 125, green-eyed blondie, with the body of a stripper. She had told me she looked better in person. She was right. Solid 8.5 in person, mainly due to her face looking her age. Instant attraction, from my part at least. Well, the chemistry was there from her end too. Things happen the very first night. So it was 4 days of bliss. Turns out she is a financial analyst for a major corporation, has a huge 2 story home in a good area, a great cook. She is also a very nice, well adjusted, attractive women who has her choice of men; most importantly, she has a great attitude. All throughout the weekend, I made sure we talked about all the AFC's that hit on her everywhere, and she told me how she is very selective and didn't like anybody.
I ate good all weekend; 4 days of hot monkey love, and her telling me how attracted she was to me, from the moment she saw me. She said she wanted to fvck me as soon as she saw me. She was just worried I wouldn't be into her. That is why she wanted to keep me busy with activities, in case one or both wasn't interested.
Among the highlights, 4 days of great, hot sex. She's a total giver, in and out of bed. We made a video together. Yes, one of those. And she agreed to a threesome, as soon as either of us finds a third girl. I don't believe this one yet, but she said she would. They all agree to these things when they are attracted to you at the start, then they take it back when they want you for themselves. Had it happen a few times.
The frame on this so far is we are having great sex, and even though she says I am perfect for her, she knows the distance thing will be a challenge. She has offered me to move in, etc. She now wants to come over to visit me in LA in November, and wants to buy me a ticket to go during Christmass time. The higher their interest, the
Anyway, I don't share this to brag, but to give you an example of what actually happens in the dating world, not just online. The key to this is to not go in with high expectations. It is and it will always be a numbers game. When your game is tight, your profile is tight, and you have great pictures, you will catch some fish with your bait; the fish that are attracted to what you are offering. I am willing to bet that the men on this forum who are consistently successful, have had hot women contact them out of the blue, and it has led to whatever they wanted out of the relationship.
I am always asking questions and trying to learn from all of my interactions, dates, meetings with women, which adds to my skills. These are some of the things I learned during the weekend, just by inquiring:
She said had she known we'd both be so attracted to eachother right from the start, we would have gotten it on as soon as we got home, and she woldn't have planned all those activities and spend more time in bed.
When they are attracted toyou enough, women are thinking like you are, and are ready to drop the whole social conditioning that tells them to delay sex.
She thought I was walking like I was very vain, when she met me at the airport, so she got insecure about her own looks and wondered if I would be into her. She got nervous.
Seems this happens to us guys more often. Realize women are feeling it too. So carry yourself with confidence.
She told me that I am the first guy who doesn't respond to every phone call/text. She is always the one who doens't seem to have time for guys.
Let them earn your affection/time.
I am the only guy who hasn't tried to get into her pants as soon as we were alone. She wasn't sure if I was into her; this as I was slowly escalating.
Stay cool in the presense of sexy women. Behave like a man in control; one who has plenty of options.
She told me how she liked that I was low maintenance and easy to please ($hit, she gave me great sex and great food, I can't complain). This means to me that she was doing what AFCs always do, try to impress me, without realizing I was already into her.
There is no need to buy a woman's affection. Always go for women who already have very high interest in you.
After 4 straight days with one person, I needed my space, so I was getting a little testy. I was a little bit moody, and distant at times during teh last day; she aimed to please, and to seem more of my approval.
Guys, give women their space, and they will come back running to you.
The higher the interest, the more flexible and accomodating a woman will be; the easier she will make things for you. Do not put too much emphasis on a particular outcome. What you call success can be different things, depending on your expectations. Once you are ok with this, you will meet women who will want just sex, women who will want a relationship, and women who are open to anything. The key is you being open minded to any of the scenarios, and always control the frame.
To make a long story short, by text, she wanted me to go visit her in Florida. I told her I just couldn't justify flying all the way there for a meet and greet. She told me she could take a week off, to be open minded, etc. I told her if I was Mr. Gates, I could just hop on a plane or my jet, and meet her for coffee; but since that wasn't the case, I just don't do dates that are not within short driving distance. She wanted me to go meet her. She liked me, based on my profile.
She finally got me to give it a serious consideration after she said if I went to her, I could stay in her house; as I wasn't going to drop a gran flying and spending money on a hotel, just for a "date" or meet and greet. After a couple more weeks of "negotiating", basically she selling me on going over, she said she would pay my departure flight. I had something to work with. She emailed me my flight info.
She kept telling me how nervous she was, as this was totaly out of her confort zone, to invite someone over, and taking the chance at there being no attraction, or in person chemistry. So she booked activities for each of the 4 days of my stay. She paid for Universal Studios, kayaking at the beach, we split the cost for a concert, and kept asking me about clothes size, as she was shopping for me.
She went to pick me up at a different city 1.5 hours away, just so I could save on my plane ticket. So I meet up with her, and I am pleasantly surprised. I see a hottie, MILF, 5'7" 125, green-eyed blondie, with the body of a stripper. She had told me she looked better in person. She was right. Solid 8.5 in person, mainly due to her face looking her age. Instant attraction, from my part at least. Well, the chemistry was there from her end too. Things happen the very first night. So it was 4 days of bliss. Turns out she is a financial analyst for a major corporation, has a huge 2 story home in a good area, a great cook. She is also a very nice, well adjusted, attractive women who has her choice of men; most importantly, she has a great attitude. All throughout the weekend, I made sure we talked about all the AFC's that hit on her everywhere, and she told me how she is very selective and didn't like anybody.
I ate good all weekend; 4 days of hot monkey love, and her telling me how attracted she was to me, from the moment she saw me. She said she wanted to fvck me as soon as she saw me. She was just worried I wouldn't be into her. That is why she wanted to keep me busy with activities, in case one or both wasn't interested.
Among the highlights, 4 days of great, hot sex. She's a total giver, in and out of bed. We made a video together. Yes, one of those. And she agreed to a threesome, as soon as either of us finds a third girl. I don't believe this one yet, but she said she would. They all agree to these things when they are attracted to you at the start, then they take it back when they want you for themselves. Had it happen a few times.
The frame on this so far is we are having great sex, and even though she says I am perfect for her, she knows the distance thing will be a challenge. She has offered me to move in, etc. She now wants to come over to visit me in LA in November, and wants to buy me a ticket to go during Christmass time. The higher their interest, the
Anyway, I don't share this to brag, but to give you an example of what actually happens in the dating world, not just online. The key to this is to not go in with high expectations. It is and it will always be a numbers game. When your game is tight, your profile is tight, and you have great pictures, you will catch some fish with your bait; the fish that are attracted to what you are offering. I am willing to bet that the men on this forum who are consistently successful, have had hot women contact them out of the blue, and it has led to whatever they wanted out of the relationship.
I am always asking questions and trying to learn from all of my interactions, dates, meetings with women, which adds to my skills. These are some of the things I learned during the weekend, just by inquiring:
She said had she known we'd both be so attracted to eachother right from the start, we would have gotten it on as soon as we got home, and she woldn't have planned all those activities and spend more time in bed.
When they are attracted toyou enough, women are thinking like you are, and are ready to drop the whole social conditioning that tells them to delay sex.
She thought I was walking like I was very vain, when she met me at the airport, so she got insecure about her own looks and wondered if I would be into her. She got nervous.
Seems this happens to us guys more often. Realize women are feeling it too. So carry yourself with confidence.
She told me that I am the first guy who doesn't respond to every phone call/text. She is always the one who doens't seem to have time for guys.
Let them earn your affection/time.
I am the only guy who hasn't tried to get into her pants as soon as we were alone. She wasn't sure if I was into her; this as I was slowly escalating.
Stay cool in the presense of sexy women. Behave like a man in control; one who has plenty of options.
She told me how she liked that I was low maintenance and easy to please ($hit, she gave me great sex and great food, I can't complain). This means to me that she was doing what AFCs always do, try to impress me, without realizing I was already into her.
There is no need to buy a woman's affection. Always go for women who already have very high interest in you.
After 4 straight days with one person, I needed my space, so I was getting a little testy. I was a little bit moody, and distant at times during teh last day; she aimed to please, and to seem more of my approval.
Guys, give women their space, and they will come back running to you.
The higher the interest, the more flexible and accomodating a woman will be; the easier she will make things for you. Do not put too much emphasis on a particular outcome. What you call success can be different things, depending on your expectations. Once you are ok with this, you will meet women who will want just sex, women who will want a relationship, and women who are open to anything. The key is you being open minded to any of the scenarios, and always control the frame.
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