POF girl deletes her pics after our date

[zinc4]

I just noticed that a pof chick I banged this weekend took down her pics on Sunday.....kind of odd like she is already thinking of me as exclusive....I am not sure what to make of it. I feel a little pressured.

 

[Tomthebomb]

You're pressured at the possibility that she's not sexing other blokes while she's dating you? Sounds pretty gay.

 

[Fatal Jay]

You're pressured at the possibility that she's not sexing other blokes while she's dating you? Sounds pretty gay.

lol for real

 

[zinc4]

No...it was just a little fast feeling when i first saw it...i actually do like her and think there is some real potential there...i just have a problem with relationships in general and commitment in general and was a little flustered when i first saw it because we never talked about anything serious...but like i said, i like her...

Update: I called her tonight and i am meeting her and her GFs for their girl's night out this Saturday night (we originally planned this as our first date but move it up one week) then she asks me where i am staying because i am coming from out of town....i tell her a hotel again and she informs me that she is staying with her friends one of their houses and honestly i am quite surprised...and my voice tone is probably noticeably a little different...

i was shocked to be honest...didn't see it coming....i agree to it on the phone trying to play it off and she asks if i am sure it's ok...and asks if i am ok...and then she says if you don't want to still go just let me know....this was surprising as well...i am usually the one saying stuff like this...

Right after we hang up i decide to write a text message saying actually, it does feel a bit strange to me... i had a good time meeting you but we both shouldn't waste our time with this...good luck meeting other guys....

Because honestly, i was ready to cut it off and meet other women Saturday night...no sleeping together 2nd date after 1st date sex...never happened to me ever before...felt like a slap in the face...just as i was about to press the send button i get a message from her

Hi Zinc, i had a great night and I really enjoyed it, but I don't like that type of hotel at all....or we can go back to your place? Too far?

I called her back really quick and told her it was ok...

Still seems a bit weird to me...maybe the hotel makes her feel cheap or something...it's a pretty low budget hotel....kind of a love motel type deal...

Anyone else have this type of thing happen before....i have to admit she has me guessing a little...usually i feel much more sure of things after first meeting a girl and post sex...she has my hamster spinning a little so to speak...,,,at first i thought her IL was sky high and now i am not so sure...

 

[Fatal Jay]

^
You setting yourself up if you going out with her gfs, and your the only guy that will be there, you better bring a wingman.

 

[zinc4]

well, like i said, she has had this thing planned for a few weeks now with her GFs supposedly...she even mentioned it to me as our first date a few weeks back.....used to i would have been weary, but my confidence has been pretty high lately and i thought little of it...could you elaborate...i don't have any solid wingmans here...my friends here are all mostly married....and i no that i will indeed get AMOGGed....screw it..maybe it would be better to drop this one and go find new chicks at another club...seems too complicated already...

Edit: she just sent me a message asking if i am on facebook.....

 

[cordoncordon]

I guess I am confused as to why you would possibly, remotely, even give one fleeting moments thought to going out with her and her gf's on 'girls night out'.

You are breaking rule #1, which is when a girl says she is having a girls night out, you say "have a great time!" and go hang out with your friends.

I cannot imagine sitting there with a girl and her friends having to listen to their incessant chit chat for hours.

No thanks Jeff.

 

[cordoncordon]

No...it was just a little fast feeling when i first saw it...i actually do like her and think there is some real potential there...i just have a problem with relationships in general and commitment in general and was a little flustered when i first saw it because we never talked about anything serious...but like i said, i like her...

Update: I called her tonight and i am meeting her and her GFs for their girl's night out this Saturday night (we originally planned this as our first date but move it up one week) then she asks me where i am staying because i am coming from out of town....i tell her a hotel again and she informs me that she is staying with her friends one of their houses and honestly i am quite surprised...and my voice tone is probably noticeably a little different...

i was shocked to be honest...didn't see it coming....i agree to it on the phone trying to play it off and she asks if i am sure it's ok...and asks if i am ok...and then she says if you don't want to still go just let me know....this was surprising as well...i am usually the one saying stuff like this...

Right after we hang up i decide to write a text message saying actually, it does feel a bit strange to me... i had a good time meeting you but we both shouldn't waste our time with this...good luck meeting other guys....

Because honestly, i was ready to cut it off and meet other women Saturday night...no sleeping together 2nd date after 1st date sex...never happened to me ever before...felt like a slap in the face...just as i was about to press the send button i get a message from her

Hi Zinc, i had a great night and I really enjoyed it, but I don't like that type of hotel at all....or we can go back to your place? Too far?

I called her back really quick and told her it was ok...

Still seems a bit weird to me...maybe the hotel makes her feel cheap or something...it's a pretty low budget hotel....kind of a love motel type deal...

Anyone else have this type of thing happen before....i have to admit she has me guessing a little...usually i feel much more sure of things after first meeting a girl and post sex...she has my hamster spinning a little so to speak...,,,at first i thought her IL was sky high and now i am not so sure...

OK where is Zinc and who is this creature that is posting as him now?

Because you acting strange. First you are considering going out with a girl on 'girls night out'.....which is bad enough, but to top it off you are acting very emo and butt hurt all because a girl might not be able to have sex with you on the 2nd date because she is with her friends? You are acting like a novice who has no other options. A guy who never gets laid and who if you don't get things exactly your way, will take your ball and go home.

Stop acting like this. Is it your time of the month? Did your gf break up with you and therefore your confidence is shot? I don't get it.

Wish her a fun time with her friends, tell her you both can meet up a day or two after, and go out and meet some other girls. And that is exactly the advice you would have given yourself a month ago.

Cmon man.

 

[zinc4]

yeah, i guess i am acting strange...something this one did must have gotten in my head somehow...thanks for pointing this out...you are right...i would never typically even agree to girls night out and i usually don't care about stuff like this....

no my Gf didn't break up with me...we are on a mutual break......i think i am just getting really homesick over here...my energy seems to be draining somehow

 

[cordoncordon]

yeah, i guess i am acting strange...something this one did must have gotten in my head somehow...thanks for pointing this out...you are right...i would never typically even agree to girls night out and i usually don't care about stuff like this....

no my Gf didn't break up with me...we are on a mutual break......i think i am just getting really homesick over here...my energy seems to be draining somehow

Well personally what I would do in a case like this, where you are weakened both mentally and spiritually, is just take a break from girls all together. I realize that you are over in a foreign country and may not have a ton of guy friends there, but I believe you said you are coming back to the USA soon anyway right? So just forget about girls for a while. I think you are starting to understand what I talked to you about a while ago. Dating multiple girls and sluuuuts for long periods of time can be exhausting and a rather unfulfilling way to live. It's great short term, but long term it gets old, very fast. It seems as if you are dating all of these different girls just to try and fill a void that you are experiencing in your life right now. That never works. I've tried it brah, it just doesn't.

So anyway, concentrate on your karate or whatever it is you do over there, work out, explore the city...freshen up in all ways. So that way when you come back here to the USA, your mind is in the right place for whatever it is you want to do with your life.

 

[CaConfused]

yeah, i guess i am acting strange...something this one did must have gotten in my head somehow...thanks for pointing this out...you are right...i would never typically even agree to girls night out and i usually don't care about stuff like this....

no my Gf didn't break up with me...we are on a mutual break......i think i am just getting really homesick over here...my energy seems to be draining somehow

It definitely shows you where her head is at. I've had this happen before. In a way I thought of it as a badge of honor because they are going all-in so quickly! Check out my post about one-night stands.

 

[zinc4]

Well personally what I would do in a case like this, where you are weakened both mentally and spiritually, is just take a break from girls all together. I realize that you are over in a foreign country and may not have a ton of guy friends there, but I believe you said you are coming back to the USA soon anyway right? So just forget about girls for a while. I think you are starting to understand what I talked to you about a while ago. Dating multiple girls and sluuuuts for long periods of time can be exhausting and a rather unfulfilling way to live. It's great short term, but long term it gets old, very fast. It seems as if you are dating all of these different girls just to try and fill a void that you are experiencing in your life right now. That never works. I've tried it brah, it just doesn't.

So anyway, concentrate on your karate or whatever it is you do over there, work out, explore the city...freshen up in all ways. So that way when you come back here to the USA, your mind is in the right place for whatever it is you want to do with your life.

Kungfu.....i am fine...i think i am just missing my family and friends back home and it is creating some kind of void...i come from a very tight nit family...and it is getting old banging randoms, though...but it's always so tempting when i see a new hot chick.....i want to squash the feeling of that temptation before i ever get back into a relationship again by going out with as many new ones as possible this time until i get completely sick of it...

And this girl, i am only planning on seeing one or two more times total...usually 2 times is my cut off limit with these new chicks or 3 times....my sexual IL tends to drop off a cliff after the 2nd and particularly 3rd meeting....and there is another chick who i work with..she just signed on with our company and is a legit 8.5 and has been flirting with me who i am going to ask out this weekend as well....i don't care if i will be banging someone at work at this point because i am leaving in a few weeks...

Update: she sent me a message asking if i was on facebook and i said no, i don't use it anymore i only use skype

Then she sends me a message saying but i found you!

And i do have an active profile...but i never gave her my email....but i figured it would be possible as she knows my last name....i then send a message saying it's old and i prefer not to use it and am breaking away from it....

She sends a messaging laughing saying she was only joking and wanted to see if i really had one or not...and then she goes on about how funny it is...

So a little annoyed at that point i sent her a message saying : you little facebook stalker

 

[zinc4]

what is a good way to play off the whole facebook thing if you don't want someone new looking at it? i feel like i look like i have something to hide at this point

 

[The Duke]

I just noticed that a pof chick I banged this weekend took down her pics on Sunday.....kind of odd like she is already thinking of me as exclusive....I am not sure what to make of it. I feel a little pressured.

I wouldn't assume this. Its very possible she just got tired of all the dumbazz messages guys send her and felt beat down by it all.