I claim that I have a men's version of PMS when I get crabby with women. "Oh, sorry about that, I'm on the rag." But that's just for fun.
I've experienced the emotional rollercoaster of the PMS phenomenon plenty of times with plenty of women. It does indeed vary from one woman to the next, and each woman's control usually depends on their age. The younger women get out of control whereas the older women tend to have a better handle on their emotions during that time. It stands to reason: more experience.
The way I see it, when I'm victim of "PMS bidginess" it's because I'm causing the woman to feel emotions. These emotions that she feels aren't typically drastic, but due to jacked-up hormone levels during the PMS week, these emotions are magnified or amplified. I don't blame the woman for freaking out, I understand her hormones are whacked and write it off. I've learned to be bland during PMS week and not stir any emotions in the women during that time. I don't bring it (What's wrong? PMS?) up as an issue, I just "know what's going on" and exercise some extra patience. I avoid touchy subjects and sidestep disagreements.
Sure, I "poo-poo" to a certain extent, but it's best for both parties - it's not entirely for her sake. If I don't rile a woman up, then I don't have to deal with fits of rage, snappiness, or "bitschy" behavior in general. A little flexibility during PMS time affords me some comfort. Like the rap lyrics: "Don't start no stuff, won' be no stuff."
An example:
During a recent encounter, I was in a conversation with a woman and she got riled and made some "bitschy" comments. I haven't experienced her PMS rage yet, and hadn't been with her long enough to know her cycle, but her comments struck me as out of her character. Directly after her comments, I did not reply. I merely shut up, shut down the conversation, and did something else - like pay attention to the TV or went in the other room to do something. Later, she came to me and apologized:
HB: "I'm sorry I was being a b!tch earlier, I'm PMSing. You're not mad at me are you?"
V: "Naw, I'm not mad. I figured you were up to something." *points at crotch*
HB: "I'm glad you aren't mad. You just got all quiet. I didn't mean to be like that."
V: "Thank you for being aware of it."
Where this chick was aware and diplomatic about the situation, I know that some women aren't. Many women don't have any remorse for unleashing their PMS fury on men or the man in their lives. THAT says something about their personality and character. If they don't feel poorly for behaving poorly, PMS or not, that definitely shows you something about how much respect they have for you. Indeed, PMS is not a free pass for being a b!tch.
PMS time is an excellent time for takeaways: by withdrawing attention/affection, it turns her thoughts inward to how she's behaving that would cause the withdrawal. I found this to be my best (and only) defense against PMS.
In the bible and in other places here, it is written that a DJ should not associate themselves with negativity in a woman's life. Since PMS is a "negative" time, interactions should be fewer, and the subject should be avoided. By being more "friendly" or "passive" than normal during PMS, you set up the "Push". Then, when bitschiness is encountered, you withdraw. This effectively "Pulls" (if or when a woman realizes that they are causiing the withdrawal). When properly played, much attraction can be generated and interest levels can be boosted quite easily. One can actually use a woman's PMS to their own advantage.
