please, urgent advice needed, girl is going away!

[F!DELITY]

Hi Guys,

really need some advice in preparation for tomorrow night.

Basically come to the end of my college course. A girl is having a party - birthday drinks round her crib, and a few of us are going.

The girl I like is the birthday girls real close friend. (I know them both well, cos we have had same classes for 2 years.)

I know the girl I like has been interested in me on a couple of occasions, she has confessed this to other people, and we used to flirt etc. - I think I played it WAY too cool, and never acted upon it, but truly, I have rarely been around her socially to make a move.

Also, I really didn't like the idea of dating a girl in my classes at college....and so sometimes we have had awkward moments especially more recently, (ever since it was known that she kinda had a thing for me.....although things might have changed, and she might be over me now!!)

ANYWAY, - summer is here, she is going back home in a week (like a 9hr drive from me) for the summer (for 4months roughly).....but she will be coming back after that to where I live!!

Basically - I want to do something, but I don't know what to do!!!...I was thinking that when I get to the party (before I get drunk), I will tell her I always liked/fancied her, and wanted to take her out - but the right time just never presented itself!??????

what do you guys make of that? - the key thing is, I want to say to her before im drunk so that it is sincere..

Because she is going away it makes it awkward, so I think it is best to put the ball in her court....if she wanted to start something despite going away, GREAT, if not, fair enough...

or should I be more determined to get what I want????

please guys give me your advice on this one...im struggling with that to do.

Thanks in advance

 

[iliketennis]

what's the point in explaining why you didn't ask her out? you're basically apologizing. don't do that

just talk to her at the party. flirt with her. get her number whatever

 

[dj_china]

just be chill
you know she is interested in you so you can just talk to her about anything
kino her during the conversation and drive the conversation towards increasingly sexual topics

if you can, ask her to go dance and eventually go for the close

game can't get any easier when you KNOW the girl is into you, because you can get away with ridiculously brash moves. good luck

 

[Huffman]

I will tell her I always liked/fancied her, and wanted to take her out - but the right time just never presented itself!??????

It is good that you asked. DONT do this!

"I always liked you" -> I'm easy to get and have low status
"Right time never presented itself" -> I never had the balls to go for you (and I still don't, since I am telling you)

You're basically pleading with the girl and hoping that she makes a move on you. The world doesn't work this way. You must make the moves yourself. And an apologetic conversation is definitely NOT sexy! Never tell a girl that you can't get girls. Figures, doesn't it?

Otherwise, what everyone else has said. The right time is presenting itself right in front of your nose! You can get her hot just by flirting... and dancing... and touching... RAWR!
Afterwards, she will think about you all the time. And when she is back, you strike. That would be your best chance I guess.

 

[F!DELITY]

Thanks for the advice guys.

So, should I try and go home with her tonight and sleep with her??

That would be the ideal scenario, however, a friend of mine (who is a guy from outta town, total afc, is crashing at hers....he does this a lot when there is parties.......I get the feelin that could hinder me going back with her -cos I know they have slept in same bed before) - no threat at all though, total afc!!!

Ideally, I would like to be involved with her before she goes back, otherwise its game over!!! - thats the way I see things!!

Thanks

 

[Huffman]

I don't want to give any definite advice on this, because it's up to you.

I would say you must flirt with her, touch her, etc., and get her to want you that evening! If she gives all the green lights, you may even be able to have sex the same night.

If you can't have sex but she's still into you then you can leave her wondering about (and hopefully wanting) you. Implying that when she gets back, you can warm it up again.