Harvey_Poon
Don Juan
Victor, you sure are a glutton for punishment aren't you?
Let's take a step back and look at this thing through clear eyes and with a rational mind. Ok?
This woman embarrassed you and made you feel very foolish. She made you feel that there was something more between you two than there ever was. Just because you had a good time with her and felt that there was something more, doesn't mean that she felt the same towards you. You are obviously still hung up on her even after this whole experience. You can see now that she does not have the same feelings towards you from the way she treated you.
Your mistake was booking a trip after you came back home. You should of waited until later to do that to see if there was any connection between you two. I still say you kept in poor contact with her during these last few months. Otherwise you would of known how she was really feeling towards you. You could of gauged her attitude and her behavior towards you. You could tell if she responded well to you or was lukewarm in your conversations She would of been bringing up the trip to you in conversations if she had a strong interest in you. She wouldn't of blown you off right before this thing was about to take place. That shows you that her interest was never that high at all like you thought it was.
This is the risk you run with long distance relationships, or in your case an acquaintance, especially with a huge time gap between the next meeting. Even women that have boyfriends cheat on them because they are not around often. She is exposed to many different men everyday. She could hang out and be in a relationship with any guy she wants. She is not going to wait to hang out with you or give you preference because it was never that serious. You say you had a handful of women as well. What if you became involved with one of these women in a relationship? The trip to see her would of never occurred either. See what I mean? That is why it was foolish of you to hastily book a trip that many months far in advance. You should of flown to see her earlier if you wanted to meet up with her again. 5 months later is too long to wait despite what she was telling you or not. She was wrong for what she did as well. But when you step back and look at this thing with clear eyes and a rational mind, you know that it was foolish to partake in this little endeavor.
You indicated that "I am not infatuated by her she was a fun girl to hang out with and I enjoyed myself." Which confuses me to as why you would spend so much money to see a woman that you weren't that serious about .Especially during the holidays when she could get other offers from other men. It's great you had fun with her but there is no reason to spend that much money to see someone that you are not serious about. Unless you have a lot of money to burn, but still, you could of used it for someone else that was serious and was more serious about you. I spent time with a couple of girls in Daytona Beach during spring break. I had fun with both of them. I didn't rush home to book a trip to see them months later because it wasn't serious. I had my fun with them and that was that. Next time don't make plans or book a trip unless you know it is serious or if the thing is even going to take place
Why the hell would you even respond to her message? What purpose does it serve? She showed you
her true feelings in that cold message. Which was none. She blew you off with no regard for you at all. Why on earth would you want to continue to embarrass yourself even more with her? You sat there at home for all these months expecting a fun filled New Year's trip to go see her and she treats you this way. She didn't even have the decency to call you earlier so you could cancel the trip. Her excuse sounds made up to me now that I think about it. But that doesn't matter. The bottom line is that she made a fool out of you. She strung you along with great expectations of a trip that she had no intentions of ever having.
No, you are not going to convince her to reconsider so that is why there is no need to even contact her. Why would you want to acknowledge the fact to her once again that she made a fool out of you? All she is going to do is continue to make you feel worse about the whole thing. She doesn't care about you. You shouldn't even give her the satisfaction that you do.
Chalk this up as a valuable and expensive lesson. Next time don't make hasty decisions like this in the future. I still say you should take someone along with you because it beats going alone. You will have a better time than going by yourself. Hope you have a great time on your trip. Forget about this woman because she isn't worth the bother.
May your days be filled with much greatness and plenty of poon.
Dr. Harvey Poon
Let's take a step back and look at this thing through clear eyes and with a rational mind. Ok?
This woman embarrassed you and made you feel very foolish. She made you feel that there was something more between you two than there ever was. Just because you had a good time with her and felt that there was something more, doesn't mean that she felt the same towards you. You are obviously still hung up on her even after this whole experience. You can see now that she does not have the same feelings towards you from the way she treated you.
Your mistake was booking a trip after you came back home. You should of waited until later to do that to see if there was any connection between you two. I still say you kept in poor contact with her during these last few months. Otherwise you would of known how she was really feeling towards you. You could of gauged her attitude and her behavior towards you. You could tell if she responded well to you or was lukewarm in your conversations She would of been bringing up the trip to you in conversations if she had a strong interest in you. She wouldn't of blown you off right before this thing was about to take place. That shows you that her interest was never that high at all like you thought it was.
This is the risk you run with long distance relationships, or in your case an acquaintance, especially with a huge time gap between the next meeting. Even women that have boyfriends cheat on them because they are not around often. She is exposed to many different men everyday. She could hang out and be in a relationship with any guy she wants. She is not going to wait to hang out with you or give you preference because it was never that serious. You say you had a handful of women as well. What if you became involved with one of these women in a relationship? The trip to see her would of never occurred either. See what I mean? That is why it was foolish of you to hastily book a trip that many months far in advance. You should of flown to see her earlier if you wanted to meet up with her again. 5 months later is too long to wait despite what she was telling you or not. She was wrong for what she did as well. But when you step back and look at this thing with clear eyes and a rational mind, you know that it was foolish to partake in this little endeavor.
You indicated that "I am not infatuated by her she was a fun girl to hang out with and I enjoyed myself." Which confuses me to as why you would spend so much money to see a woman that you weren't that serious about .Especially during the holidays when she could get other offers from other men. It's great you had fun with her but there is no reason to spend that much money to see someone that you are not serious about. Unless you have a lot of money to burn, but still, you could of used it for someone else that was serious and was more serious about you. I spent time with a couple of girls in Daytona Beach during spring break. I had fun with both of them. I didn't rush home to book a trip to see them months later because it wasn't serious. I had my fun with them and that was that. Next time don't make plans or book a trip unless you know it is serious or if the thing is even going to take place
Why the hell would you even respond to her message? What purpose does it serve? She showed you
her true feelings in that cold message. Which was none. She blew you off with no regard for you at all. Why on earth would you want to continue to embarrass yourself even more with her? You sat there at home for all these months expecting a fun filled New Year's trip to go see her and she treats you this way. She didn't even have the decency to call you earlier so you could cancel the trip. Her excuse sounds made up to me now that I think about it. But that doesn't matter. The bottom line is that she made a fool out of you. She strung you along with great expectations of a trip that she had no intentions of ever having.
No, you are not going to convince her to reconsider so that is why there is no need to even contact her. Why would you want to acknowledge the fact to her once again that she made a fool out of you? All she is going to do is continue to make you feel worse about the whole thing. She doesn't care about you. You shouldn't even give her the satisfaction that you do.
Chalk this up as a valuable and expensive lesson. Next time don't make hasty decisions like this in the future. I still say you should take someone along with you because it beats going alone. You will have a better time than going by yourself. Hope you have a great time on your trip. Forget about this woman because she isn't worth the bother.
May your days be filled with much greatness and plenty of poon.
Dr. Harvey Poon
