I really need your help here guys... this dilemma has been killling me. Okay so, I've been with this girl for almost 6 months now. Our relationship is no different than a boyfriend/girlfriend one, but we're not officially "dating" eachother. Early on when we first started talking to eachother she mentioned that she didn't want to date me because she was already dating someone. She already has a boyfriend who is studying in another country and won't return for a couple years. I kind of ignored it but as time went on she would talk about him more and more and try to make me jealous by bringing **** up about him, and obviously it worked. Well about a month ago she really started acting cold to me and treating me differently. It wasn't like she was trying to cut off all connections with me, but she would refuse to kiss me or do things normally (but I still banged her, and still am), yet she still wants to talk and hang out.
So a couple weeks ago I'm talkling to her friend and I find out that her boyfriend is back home, and he's been back for a month now... I'm not even gonna lie, but I was crushed. Of course I yelled at her, then we had a long talk and she said something about how their relationship isn't the same anymore, this and that. I couldn't understand how she still likes him so much and after all this time with me she hadn't changed her mind by now, but she told me that, this whole time she didn't want to like me. I'm confused about this, I don't think you can control whether or not you like someone if you see them everday. The thing that kills me is that I know her heart is still with the other bastard. She's never cried for me or over something i've said to her or when i've yelled at her, but the other day she called me crying on the phone and I knew automatically it was over her boyfriend.
I really want to be with this girl... but the situation i'm in hurts like a *****. Her boyfriend is apparently cheating onher yet she still wants to be with him. I don't want to treat her wounds and cater to her and cheer her up because I don't want to become her AFC friend, yet i'm afraid that if I try to push her away too much she'll forget about me and get with him. basically, what can I do to be with her??? I need your advice guys!
So a couple weeks ago I'm talkling to her friend and I find out that her boyfriend is back home, and he's been back for a month now... I'm not even gonna lie, but I was crushed. Of course I yelled at her, then we had a long talk and she said something about how their relationship isn't the same anymore, this and that. I couldn't understand how she still likes him so much and after all this time with me she hadn't changed her mind by now, but she told me that, this whole time she didn't want to like me. I'm confused about this, I don't think you can control whether or not you like someone if you see them everday. The thing that kills me is that I know her heart is still with the other bastard. She's never cried for me or over something i've said to her or when i've yelled at her, but the other day she called me crying on the phone and I knew automatically it was over her boyfriend.
I really want to be with this girl... but the situation i'm in hurts like a *****. Her boyfriend is apparently cheating onher yet she still wants to be with him. I don't want to treat her wounds and cater to her and cheer her up because I don't want to become her AFC friend, yet i'm afraid that if I try to push her away too much she'll forget about me and get with him. basically, what can I do to be with her??? I need your advice guys!