OK, just to introduce myself first.. I'm an Asian guy attending a decent university in the nation. My parents, having come from China, have been very strict with me during the teen years about dating, girlfriends, or even associating with girls too much. I basically was barred from dating and obeidiently adhered to it without question.
When I left for college, I decided to throw this "rule" out the window (while keeping my life in reasonable order of course.) I had been "locked" away all those years and could only dream of the things I could do to women as I looked at their erotic pictures. I was totally obsessed in my mind, yet when I saw a cute girl, I'd freeze dead in my tracks if I had any intention of approaching her. I'd start sweating and my heart would be pounding as I contemplate talking with her. On occasion, I manage to overcome this, either through pure luck or sheer willpower and talk to her starting with a simple "hello" or "hi". And when I talk to her, it seems like one part of my mind is thinking "god, I'd love to **** her hard right now" while the other part keeps telling "get me out of here now, this is too nerve wrecking."
The more I persist through, the more awkward the interaction becomes even if she shows signs of interest. The best I've even done was some phone numbers, a dozen of non-sexual "friendships" with women, and a couple of unsatisfying dates. Some of my friends tell me that I've got balls for approaching that cute lady on the street corner or in the store and while I do admit I've lost count of the number of times I've approached women, 99% of the time, I end up leaving 2 or 3 minutes regardless of her reactions which basically is just as useless as not approaching in getting results.
I've practically "pushed" myself to approach hundreds and hundreds of women hoping I'd be able to cure myself of this extreme anxiety through practice. However, almost every time, I hit a point where the anxiety is unberable and I have to find an excuse to leave. I remember my first approach and my 400th or 500th approach hasn't been any more relaxing than my first one. To put it simply, I have a general idea of what I should be doing out in the field (approaching women that is) but I can't get see the light at the end of the tunnel despite daily nerve wracking experiences that don't get any better. Then I go home and look at porn or something (hey, I'm not gay unlike what some of you dumbasses might suggest.) I'll have to say that I only started approaching women 1 or 2 years ago in my 20 something years being alive - quite late compared to the rest of the population.. so is the pain I'm experiencing normal considering that?
When I left for college, I decided to throw this "rule" out the window (while keeping my life in reasonable order of course.) I had been "locked" away all those years and could only dream of the things I could do to women as I looked at their erotic pictures. I was totally obsessed in my mind, yet when I saw a cute girl, I'd freeze dead in my tracks if I had any intention of approaching her. I'd start sweating and my heart would be pounding as I contemplate talking with her. On occasion, I manage to overcome this, either through pure luck or sheer willpower and talk to her starting with a simple "hello" or "hi". And when I talk to her, it seems like one part of my mind is thinking "god, I'd love to **** her hard right now" while the other part keeps telling "get me out of here now, this is too nerve wrecking."
The more I persist through, the more awkward the interaction becomes even if she shows signs of interest. The best I've even done was some phone numbers, a dozen of non-sexual "friendships" with women, and a couple of unsatisfying dates. Some of my friends tell me that I've got balls for approaching that cute lady on the street corner or in the store and while I do admit I've lost count of the number of times I've approached women, 99% of the time, I end up leaving 2 or 3 minutes regardless of her reactions which basically is just as useless as not approaching in getting results.
I've practically "pushed" myself to approach hundreds and hundreds of women hoping I'd be able to cure myself of this extreme anxiety through practice. However, almost every time, I hit a point where the anxiety is unberable and I have to find an excuse to leave. I remember my first approach and my 400th or 500th approach hasn't been any more relaxing than my first one. To put it simply, I have a general idea of what I should be doing out in the field (approaching women that is) but I can't get see the light at the end of the tunnel despite daily nerve wracking experiences that don't get any better. Then I go home and look at porn or something (hey, I'm not gay unlike what some of you dumbasses might suggest.) I'll have to say that I only started approaching women 1 or 2 years ago in my 20 something years being alive - quite late compared to the rest of the population.. so is the pain I'm experiencing normal considering that?