PLEASE HELP!!!!!! --> Older Girls

[MVPlaya]

Ever since I got into college (this semester), every girl I've wanted has been older than me by at least 2.5 years (I'm 18, but can pass for 20+).

Here's my dilemma:
I just want a girl (I don't want to just play the girls), what do I do?

Right now there is this damn cute girl I partnered up with in my Espagnol class who had a REAL HIGH interest level for me. For about a week we flirted daily (I knew she was 22) and she went out of her way to get my attention (hair-play, walk across campus with me despite going the wrong way, give me her entire interest and tease me continually) and one day she got me to tag along with her to walk to her class, we talked for several minutes (enough to get her tardy, which she was fully conscious of). That day she asked me how old I was and pressed on considerably to figure out my age, to which I, stupidly, replied to with the truth (I knew I couldn't date her if I lied). Our conversation ended awkwardly end the next day she seemed to ignore me. Since then, she has begun to lighten up to me again, some flirting is reappearing, but I feel this definite distance between me and her since her "discovery." To make matters worse, I'm 1 year older than her brother and her sister got her heart broken by a guy from my ethnicity, who was four years younger (our age difference) and was my height and complexion etc. Also, she makes comments like "I feel so old," "Oh my god, you're so young," etc. etc. I threw plenty a lines like "age aint nothing but a number" but I dont know how succesful they were. I want this chick and I know there was definite chemistry beforehand but now things seem to have changed. What do I do?

Also, for future reference, when i meet a cute older chick who I might wanna date, what should I do?

 

[MrBond007]

I say go for it and dont be afraid of your age!Im 18 and want women age 25-30 especially because they are sexually more mature and get on with it faster.For them, ****ing a 18 y old guy is often a turn on.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Go ahead and keep pursuing older women, I wouldn't go further than 3 or 4 years top at your age. Women older than that are looking for a guy with a little more experience and is at least somewhat established (living on his own, has a full time job, car etc).

Until you get to that point, keep your eyes set on women who are still trying to establish themselves, they will be closer to your age too and wouldn't be as tainted by the false stigma that is still floating around about women that date younger guys.

One suggestion is that you start working on establishing yourself. It will make the age thing less prominent. What stood out in your story is that your prospect asked how old you were. If you work a bit on working on your presentation/persona, your age should not be of importance if her IL is high.

 

[Iv4]

Not includig the 5 in my confusion thread every relationship I've had is with a chick older than me(1,3, and belive it or not 6)the best advice I can offer is to ignore the age diference.When something comes up concerning it you'll know.Lying about your age will not only makes things worse but make you look like a nerd.

But just a warning sort of is I supsely dont act my age(personlety of a 60 year old o something)and they were a bit uhm 'dferent'...

 

[Chewy Bagel]

If you're looking for a One Night Stand (ONS), then you would be better off to tell a girl who is only 3 years older than you that you are her same age.

If a girl is much older than you, then you could tell them any age over 18 and they'll probably do you. They're probably attracted to your youth and looks.

I had a ONS with a girl who was complaining about all the "young" guys around the bar that night. I asked her how old she was (21) and I told her I was 21. I was actually 18 with a fake ID.

Another night, I had a ONS with a 42 yo woman. I was only 19. I flat out told her how old I was and she didn't care.

It really depends on the woman though. I am only telling you my experience and opinion.

Good Luck!

CB

 

[MVPlaya]

Update

BTW.,

The one tip on of my friends told me (hardcore DJ) was neg-hitting her (http://www.sosuave.com/articles/neghits.htm), in this case about her idea that there is such an age diff, it worked and we're going out this Friday. So, anybody else out there with the same problem, neg-hitting them a little puts things back into reality and changes there perception of you back to normal. + it adds GAME.

Peace

 

[MVPlaya]

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