Please help my weak text game on a new #close -

[nkh78h]

Yesterday Got a # close at gas station while we were pumping gas, young 18-20 year old latina. She's super cute. She goes to local city college, looks like "conservative type"...anyways i txt her about hours after i got her #

Here's my text game below. She replies 2-4 hours later but does always ask a question after every text. So far here's an example of my weak game it's going. Usually with POF and dating sites when i get a # close, im able to get meetup ASAP. But this chick I adore when i first laid eyes on her. Especially it being one of my first day time # close.

So far I think she's bored and not interested. Im shying up big time, please help!!! I sound like opie taylor.

Me: Hey (X,) it's (X,) from gas station. Hope you weren't late to class 2:02 PM

her: Thanks, I made it just in time So where were you on your way to? 2:37 PM

Me: That's good, I know parking is crazy at (X). I was on way to work in (X). I work for law firm. Fun job. You full time student? 2:50 PM


her: It really is. Cool what do you do for them? And yeah, I also work part time 7:00 PM

Me: I work in marketing department. So did I spell your name right, lol? I have co-worker named Dyanna. 8:55 PM

her: Lol you did, don't worry. So what are you studying at (X)? 10:47 PM

Me: astronaut, flying to space let me know if you want to go..nah jk, i graduated already....it was BA business marketing. 10:57 PM

her: Wow that's great, how does it feel to finally reach the end? 12:02 AM

Me: Hey there good morning it felt so good to graduate I felt like a million buck it was a really big deal 8:46 AM

Me: u said you were going for marine biologist, something like that right? 10:14 AM

her: Goodmorning and lol I'm going for bioengineering 10:19 AM

Me: lol my bad, i was way off. i need my starbucks 10:22 AM

her: Haha at least you were in the ball park. So what do you do on your free time? 10:38 AM

Me: play basketball, baseball, spend time with family watch movies, travel...u? 10:51 AM

 

[GotED?]

DAMN DUDE.

Are you a FVCKEN PARROT??

YOU) Hey this is 'FVCKEN PARROT' - remember me from the gas station?? How about meeting up for a drink or coffee at the 'Redeem my phucked up text game' shopping center this Saturday afternoon around 2pm.

HER) Yes, No, or offer alternative

DONE.

I also gave you extra whack-job time that you would have spent texting The Great Gatsby.


Happy Pirate's Day (and get that FVCKEN PARROT off your shoulder and stop texting so much).

Exodus

 

[Leashed]

Agree with Exodus

You) hey it's me from the gas station, hope you weren't late for class

Her) no I was fine, where were you off to?

You) work, super busy though right now, let's grab drinks soon.

Her) sure

Closed.

Leave any and all small talk for the date.

 

[devilkingx2]

the less she likes you the worse texting her will go, the more she likes you the better it will go.

what you actually text her matters less.

in this case, she seems to have low interest, judging by how long it takes her to reply, but she must have atleast some because she replies... eventually

 

[RagingBalls]

Yesterday Got a # close at gas station while we were pumping gas, young 18-20 year old latina. She's super cute. She goes to local city college, looks like "conservative type"...anyways i txt her about hours after i got her #

Here's my text game below. She replies 2-4 hours later but does always ask a question after every text. So far here's an example of my weak game it's going. Usually with POF and dating sites when i get a # close, im able to get meetup ASAP. But this chick I adore when i first laid eyes on her. Especially it being one of my first day time # close.

So far I think she's bored and not interested. Im shying up big time, please help!!! I sound like opie taylor.

Me: Hey (X,) it's (X,) from gas station. Hope you weren't late to class 2:02 PM

her: Thanks, I made it just in time So where were you on your way to? 2:37 PM

Me: That's good, I know parking is crazy at (X). I was on way to work in (X). I work for law firm. Fun job. You full time student? 2:50 PM


her: It really is. Cool what do you do for them? And yeah, I also work part time 7:00 PM

Me: I work in marketing department. So did I spell your name right, lol? I have co-worker named Dyanna. 8:55 PM

her: Lol you did, don't worry. So what are you studying at (X)? 10:47 PM

Me: astronaut, flying to space let me know if you want to go..nah jk, i graduated already....it was BA business marketing. 10:57 PM

her: Wow that's great, how does it feel to finally reach the end? 12:02 AM

Me: Hey there good morning it felt so good to graduate I felt like a million buck it was a really big deal 8:46 AM

Me: u said you were going for marine biologist, something like that right? 10:14 AM

her: Goodmorning and lol I'm going for bioengineering 10:19 AM

Me: lol my bad, i was way off. i need my starbucks 10:22 AM

her: Haha at least you were in the ball park. So what do you do on your free time? 10:38 AM

Me: play basketball, baseball, spend time with family watch movies, travel...u? 10:51 AM

Not bad for a first day, i won't say you had an overall bad game when i can see you're initially building rapport with this girl, one of those bad games in my point of view is when you're acting needy and desperate which is not the case here. She knew you got interest from those texts, The next thing for you to do is to ask her out on a date and Goodluck!

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Good LORD, these text messages sound more like an interview than a flirty banter session...

Look, I'll spare you my whole "Texting KILLS relationships" spiel - you can read my whole take on why texting/messaging conversations with a girl you just met is a horrible idea on other posts on this site (as well as my website - I've even got a free ebook and a few podcasts about it!). What I WILL say, though, is that text messaging should be seen as a TOOL that you can use to help you take her out and see her in PERSON. Don't make the mistake most guys make, which is to text a girl over and over again hoping to build up comfort so you can ask her out at some distant point in the future. Reality check: if she gave you the number, SHE'S ALREADY COMFORTABLE WITH YOU. I personally prefer calling girls to ask them out - I can hear in their voice if they're actually happy to be seeing me vs. seeing a "sure" message but not being sure of how she feels about it... BUT, if you are going to text her, (a) don't do it a lot, and (b) focus on using it to get the DATE.

I like the examples others have given thus far, so I'll throw one in as well:

ME (texting her 4 days after I got the number): Hey (insert name) it's Harry - we met at the gas station earlier this week, how r u?

HER (assuming she remembers me because interested girls tend to do that, even after 4 days): Hey stranger, how have u been?

ME: Eh, can't complain. I'm actually about to go into a meeting, but wanted to reach out to you and see if you were free on Wednesday or Thursday night for me to take you out (no punctuation at the end, no smiley faces either)

HER: Sounds like fun, I should be free Wednesday night

ME: Great! Pick out something nice to wear, and send me your address so I'll know where to pick you up (note: if she says she'd rather meet me at the place I'm planning to take her that's fine as well - but I tend to phrase it like this so they won't have a choice but to send me their info)

HER: Will do, see u then

...and THAT'S IT. And this conversation, verbatim, has gotten me dates. No flirty stuff, no interview questions, just an assumption that she's already interested in me and waiting to be asked out. So, stop wasting your time and do it already, maaaaaaan!

 

[nkh78h]

Thanks fellas, I agree with all you. I need to cut to the chase.

 

[Ascension]

Yesterday Got a # close at gas station while we were pumping gas, young 18-20 year old latina. She's super cute. She goes to local city college, looks like "conservative type"...anyways i txt her about hours after i got her #

Here's my text game below. She replies 2-4 hours later but does always ask a question after every text. So far here's an example of my weak game it's going. Usually with POF and dating sites when i get a # close, im able to get meetup ASAP. But this chick I adore when i first laid eyes on her. Especially it being one of my first day time # close.

So far I think she's bored and not interested. Im shying up big time, please help!!! I sound like opie taylor.

Me: Hey (X,) it's (X,) from gas station. Hope you weren't late to class 2:02 PM

her: Thanks, I made it just in time So where were you on your way to? 2:37 PM

Me: That's good, I know parking is crazy at (X). I was on way to work in (X). I work for law firm. Fun job. You full time student? 2:50 PM


her: It really is. Cool what do you do for them? And yeah, I also work part time 7:00 PM

Me: I work in marketing department. So did I spell your name right, lol? I have co-worker named Dyanna. 8:55 PM

her: Lol you did, don't worry. So what are you studying at (X)? 10:47 PM

Me: astronaut, flying to space let me know if you want to go..nah jk, i graduated already....it was BA business marketing. 10:57 PM

her: Wow that's great, how does it feel to finally reach the end? 12:02 AM

Me: Hey there good morning it felt so good to graduate I felt like a million buck it was a really big deal 8:46 AM

Me: u said you were going for marine biologist, something like that right? 10:14 AM

her: Goodmorning and lol I'm going for bioengineering 10:19 AM

Me: lol my bad, i was way off. i need my starbucks 10:22 AM

her: Haha at least you were in the ball park. So what do you do on your free time? 10:38 AM

Me: play basketball, baseball, spend time with family watch movies, travel...u? 10:51 AM

Oh, little dude. Entirely too soft, nice and apologetic. My god, why would you ever say these things to a girl you're interested in, be it text, phone or face to face. Here are some tips:
- you're not voicing any interest in her in your conversation. I mean the real interest you have and the reason you asked for her phone number. Its like youre trying to force your way into a friend zone. Believe me, she doesn't really care how "fun" your job is, although she did perk up when you mentioned you worked for a law firm, that's normal and to be expected.
- when you tell a joke, kid or tease her, never say "just kidding". It reaks of low confidence behavior and is an immediate turn off. Unless she is retarded, she can likely figure out youre joking, you don't really have to announce it to the world.
- asking things like "did I spell your name right?" or apologizing for thinking she was in different field are also red flags and major turn offs to women. She doesn't know you, will likely never see you again (if you keep up your wack text game) and youre just wasting your time.
- entirely too soft, nice and predictable. Say something crazy to get her interest. WHo cares what it is. Don't worry about how she sees you, she is nobody to you.
- If I were in your shoes, I would stop texting altogether, tell her I find her sexy as f**k and that I want to see her on a weekend. Say youll tell her where and when to meet you. The end. If she flakes, never give her anbother thought.

Good luck, youre going to need it.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

What the gents above already said, plus:

Instead of qualifying, justifying, apologizing, approval seek, you need to right of the bat, start teasing her on your first or second text, and once you get a good reaction, invite her to get together. You don't ask her, you tell her/suggest to her you meet up.

I slept in and got a good 12 hours sleep, yet your text was putting me to sleep, then I took some red bull, and re-read it, and it almost made me cry. I find it interesting how some of you peeps here manage to do teh hardest part, with no challeges, like getting the actual number, then predictably sabbotage by boring her to death.

To your credit, you came in here, are taking the advice and criticism, and seem to have a good attitude; and she seems to have a good attitude too, so you haven't blown this one, completely; go and make fun of her a little, in a playful/teasing manner, and make your offer.

 

[El Payaso]

She sounds interested but you're beating around the bush mainly because you're scared of rejection. Get over your fear and ask her out on a CONCRETE date.

 

[skinnyguy]

I've never been able to get a girl out on a date right after getting her number without any kind of banter first.

If you can do that, then more power to you. I think most guys wouldn't be able to pull that off because women want to be comfortable with you first.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I've never been able to get a girl out on a date right after getting her number without any kind of banter first.

If you can do that, then more power to you. I think most guys wouldn't be able to pull that off because women want to be comfortable with you first.

Correct; because most guys don't know the most important tool/skill to make women confortable, HUMOR! that is where the playful teasing/banter comes into play, but not for long, followed by the offer, while the temperature is still hot.

 

[RagingBalls]

Spot on!

I've never been able to get a girl out on a date right after getting her number without any kind of banter first.

women want to be comfortable with you first.

^ I agree with this because i for one do this. So, me speaking from an experiences rather than theories, witchcrafts and hypnotic voodoos

I won't disagree with some posters in a different approach they made which is successful, that's their thing and so am i. What works for them might not work to some and likewise.

By engaging them in banters, which i'm comfortable with, the odds favors me most of the time. A girl with a good sense of humour is a turn on for me.

 

[Ascension]

You can get a girl on a date, or into your bed without much banter at all. Her feeling comfortable with you, doesn't really have a whole lot to do with boring and predictable conversation. Being direct and straight forward are masculine traits, and believe it or not, women like masculine men. So if you ask for her number or approach her, she already knows that its because you find her attractive.

Don't hide it and don't be ashamed of your masculinity. Don't be ashamed of your sexuality or the fact that you find her sexually attractive. It really works to your disadvantage when you do that. Be direct and to the point. The only reason in this life to approach a woman that you find attractive, is a simple fact that you are a man and she is a woman.

Some guys buy puppies, peacock or come up with the silliest reasons to come up and talk to a woman. Why? Are you afraid of showing your true intentions? Don't you realize that most women see right through it and find it fake and not genuine?

Oh, and if you want to try picking up a woman without much pointless conversation, tell her you live right around the block and nod your head in that direction. Its worked more than once for me, and it was the only talking that was involved. Its really easy and it works, as long as you can communicate via other means like body language. If you find her sexually attractive, feel it and convey it without saying a single word. If you are feeling sexual in presence of a woman that you just approached, she will soon begin to feel sexual as well. It happens because exchange of energy and vibe is predicated on dominant person passing it on to the less dominant person, in each human relation.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I've never been able to get a girl out on a date right after getting her number without any kind of banter first. If you can do that, then more power to you. I think most guys wouldn't be able to pull that off because women want to be comfortable with you first.

But that's just it - the banter part happens BEFORE you get her number. That interaction is what gives her incentive to give you the number. Why? Because you've made her feel comfortable already with that first interaction. So you don't have to feel a need to get her re-comfortable with you - once you get the number, your next set of "banter" with her should be on a date. That's why she's giving you the number in the first place - essentially, she's saying "okay, you've made me feel some kind of way about you, so I'm giving you my number to give you a shot. Don't screw it up, use this to hit me up for a date." It's only when you prolong asking her out that you go from being seen as a potential dating/relationship/F-buddy/whatever to another one of her texting orbiters.