Please help me! [merged threads]

[Thunderchild]

Hi Guys, just wondered if anyone could give me an answer to my situation, regardless of how brutal or cold your advice may be.

Basically, Ive had a girlfriend now for almost 2 years, and things have been very rough. The girl in question is a definate 8 out of 10. Things have always been rocky between us, and there have bin 3 occassions where she kissed other people, mainly when out/drunk, yet I always forgave her.

However this sunday, just gone, after a major argument I travelled home to stay with my parents just to let things cool down.

I hear no contact from her, and then she e-mails me last night to say that, when I had gone and left her, she called up one of her Exes and invited him around. Basically, they kissed/cuddles etc, and she then gave him oral.

She says she still loves me, and even wants to move house to be nearer to me where we can start again. the trouble is my heart and soul are saying 'stay with her', whilst my mind is saying 'leave her!!!'.

Im stuck in the middle at the minute, and dont want to lose the love she claims she has for me, but the thought of what she did is killing me.

Any thoughts or ideas?? Would be greatly appreciated, as Ive bin up nearly 36 hours from worry!

 

[dav22]

You asked for honesty:

- She has no respect for you. Because you didn't ditch her the past 3 times she's cheated she knows she can keep doing it.
- I think she's lying about it just being oral.
- You should have ditched her a long time ago.

You're only in love with her because you're weak and have no options. Make yourself some options. Remember my post isn't to be harsh, it's to help you out.

 

[Interceptor]

Dump her now.

The woman may "love" you, but she is certainly not attarcted to you, nor sexually attracted to you, you have no emotional intimacy either, and she most certainly .......


HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU IN THE SLIGHTEST AS A MAN.

I'm not going to write any more because this seems like a troll post.

Best advice, DUMP HER. NOW.

 

[WestCoaster]

She gave an ex a bj? It's over. Sex is sex, I don't buy the Bill Clinton definition, you can still get a rape charge for oral sex. It's sex.

Cut your losses. After two years you should know what she's like. What she's like is high maintenance.

Good or bad, it's time to move on, to upgrade from her. A classy woman won't call an ex and supply a hummer while she's been in a two-year relationship with someone else.

The argument is an excuse for her to play the field with someone else. Women do what they want to do and excuse it later.

Move on -- please, move on.

 

[decades]

Get away from her and pick a woman you can trust. This is a disaster and she is a nightmare. You deserve better.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Hi Guys, just wondered if anyone could give me an answer to my situation, regardless of how brutal or cold your advice may be.

Things have always been rocky between us, and there have bin 3 occassions where she kissed other people, mainly when out/drunk, yet I always forgave her.

she called up one of her Exes and invited him around. Basically, they kissed/cuddles etc, and she then gave him oral.

wtf. Love is so blind. Actions speak louder than words. She's pissing down your back and telling you it's raining -- and you believe it!

Have some self respect and end this relationship, before you go bat shyt insane.

 

[Lion]

Do yourself a favour and leave this girl behind. She doesn't seem to care about you or respect you. Go out and have fun with some friends, work on yourself... the sooner the better, it's going to hurt but in the long-term it's better for you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Im stuck in the middle at the minute, and dont want to lose the love she claims she has for me, but the thought of what she did is killing me....

Read what you said up above a couple of time aloud. Listen to what you said. It's as if you are a dope head and she is the only crack dealer on the corner. Think about it.

 

[dav22]

Why have you posted this here twice and in all the other forums?

 

[TheMaestro87]

Get out there and live life. Leave this girl. Delete her from your phone. Period.

I almost made the same mistake last year, staying with a girl who had cheated on me twice. Not getting back together with her was the best decision I could have made and amazingly we have a good friendship again even though I was depressed forever about it. It's hard to do, but let this one go (in fact, throw her out).

 

[Desdinova]

Cross-posting is not allowed on this board. Pick an appropriate forum and make your post there.

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

:cuss:

Thunderchild, you deserve so much better than that.

"Things have always been rocky"? The first time she kissed another guy should have been a huge warning sign. I would have stopped the relationship then and there.

This girl is a chronic cheater; it's likely she'll never stop. She has zero respect for you and is emotionally abusive.

Break up with her and move on.

 

[D!ck Ramsey]

He is posting in other threads hoping someone will give him magical advice that will keep his girl from sucking other c0cks.

Sorry bro...your girl is a slut and not worth all the worry you are going through. You not only need to dump her, but break off all contact and never speak to her again.

While you are at it, grow a set of balls and start seeing other women. Your problem is you think this girl is the be-all end-all of girlfriends, but you are wrong. A good GF doesnt do this type of sh!t. The dudes on the forum already know you deserve better...its a shame you dont see this yet.

FWIW, anyone can say 'I love you'..it takes little physical effort to speak a few syllables. Real love is determined by one's actions, and I can assure you, this girl does not have any real love or respect for you.

Stop your crying and get rid of this hoe. It's time to man up and move on.

 

[jazzmaster2]

It's really hard when you're so close with another person and suddenly you want to let go.

Since you guys are not living together, don't you think it would be good to be drastic and cut communication right there and write her a breakup letter instead? This way, you won't get sucked back in from hearing her voice or responses.

I know that it's extremely hard for you right now, but you're probably blind of what to do since you're so in love with her.

Imagine your future with her. How long do you think you can keep up? Your girl is not at the losing end like you, so don't expect her to change.