Please help, I need some advice on this girl

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Just want to say thanks in advance for any help. So ill try to summarize this as much as I can. Im in college. So basically I met this girl, we've hung out a lot and went on dates like bowling, food, lifted together, etc. Every time we hangout she always flirts with me. Example is the other day when we got dinner she was like holding my hand at the table for a little bit, she grabbed my leg in her car, **** like that. Anyways, I drunkenly told her that I have a crush on her when we were at the bar. She said no Im pretty sure; however, not sure what her reason was because I don't remember(I was literally trashed which was a bad decision but oh well, you live and you learn). I texted her the next day and just chatted and then got on the topic of what I said at the bar. I pretended like I didn't remember what I said and She was like giving me hints like "Lol you're getting closer." Then the next day I'm walking on the street and I glance over to the side and coincidentally she's walking on the other side looking at me and then when she sees me notice her she turns away real quick. I just am really confused as to why she would seemingly flirt with me and then when I tell her that I like her (even though it was drunk) she says no and then doesn't even say hi on the street. Its weird to me. If any of you guys have advice on where I should go from here that would be dope. I was thinking about just texting her in a day or two and seeing if she wants to hang out and see how that goes but not sure. This a good idea or should I just assume she's not interested and wait to see if she makes the first move since I basically already told her i like her?

P.S. sorry this was long.
 

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So you've been out multiple times. Have you ever even kissed? You gotta escalate, man.

You didn't post any exact timelines, but sounds like you might be friend-zoned. That's what happens when you don't escalate.
 

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You gotta lay down some moves on these hookers. Its all about getting in the honey hole. They only give you a certain time frame before she will see you as inadequate or not interested. Seems she has put herself out there and you haven't validated her feelings she has for you. Time to drop the panties Son!
 

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So you've been out multiple times. Have you ever even kissed? You gotta escalate, man.

You didn't post any exact timelines, but sounds like you might be friend-zoned. That's what happens when you don't escalate.
Some of this (the holding hands at dinner and ****) was like literally a week ago. Oh no, the dreaded friend zone..what now? Thanks for the reply by the way. I appreciate it
 

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You gotta lay down some moves on these hookers. Its all about getting in the honey hole. They only give you a certain time frame before she will see you as inadequate or not interested. Seems she has put herself out there and you haven't validated her feelings she has for you. Time to drop the panties Son!
Makes sense, so you think I should go for it again or seems like its too late?
 

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Yes be respectful, but go for it. You have nothing to lose. Be confident and straight forward with your intent. If she doesn't like your advances she will tell you to chill out and if she does then respect her wishes. You will make a far better impression for trying and her telling you no, than you not trying at all. You always get points for trying when it comes to pushing sexual boundaries. I've done it many times before. :cool:

After you take this girl out next time, I want you to report back here and tell us how it went.
 

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Yes be respectful, but go for it. You have nothing to lose. Be confident and straight forward with your intent. If she doesn't like your advances she will tell you to chill out and if she does then respect her wishes. You will make a far better impression for trying and her telling you no, than you not trying at all. You always get points for trying when it comes to pushing sexual boundaries. I've done it many times before. :cool:

After you take this girl out next time, I want you to report back here and tell us how it went.
will do. Hopefully in next few days before my spring break starts. Thanks
 

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Just want to say thanks in advance for any help. So ill try to summarize this as much as I can. Im in college. So basically I met this girl, we've hung out a lot and went on dates like bowling, food, lifted together, etc. Every time we hangout she always flirts with me. Example is the other day when we got dinner she was like holding my hand at the table for a little bit, she grabbed my leg in her car, **** like that. Anyways, I drunkenly told her that I have a crush on her when we were at the bar. She said no Im pretty sure; however, not sure what her reason was because I don't remember(I was literally trashed which was a bad decision but oh well, you live and you learn). I texted her the next day and just chatted and then got on the topic of what I said at the bar. I pretended like I didn't remember what I said and She was like giving me hints like "Lol you're getting closer." Then the next day I'm walking on the street and I glance over to the side and coincidentally she's walking on the other side looking at me and then when she sees me notice her she turns away real quick. I just am really confused as to why she would seemingly flirt with me and then when I tell her that I like her (even though it was drunk) she says no and then doesn't even say hi on the street. Its weird to me. If any of you guys have advice on where I should go from here that would be dope. I was thinking about just texting her in a day or two and seeing if she wants to hang out and see how that goes but not sure. This a good idea or should I just assume she's not interested and wait to see if she makes the first move since I basically already told her i like her?

P.S. sorry this was long.
You told her you liked her, you murdered challenge, her interest plummeted and now she looks down her nose at you because she lost all interestin you. She snubbed you in the street. What i would do is ghost her for a week. Then ask her out ONCE. give her a date and time to meet you. If she givesyou anything otherthan a solid yes, next her.
 

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Get a life.

Chicks will flock.
 

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You told her you liked her, you murdered challenge, her interest plummeted and now she looks down her nose at you because she lost all interestin you. She snubbed you in the street. What i would do is ghost her for a week. Then ask her out ONCE. give her a date and time to meet you. If she givesyou anything otherthan a solid yes, next her.
So u think just don't talk to her until after our spring break?
 

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You told her you liked her, you murdered challenge, her interest plummeted and now she looks down her nose at you because she lost all interestin you. She snubbed you in the street. What i would do is ghost her for a week. Then ask her out ONCE. give her a date and time to meet you. If she givesyou anything otherthan a solid yes, next her.
Won't she just do the same thing again tho when i try to make another move lol? Why would she change her mind
 

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Also-general question. I don't remember what was said at the bar after i told her i liked her. I kind of really want to know all that i said and what she said. But it's looking like i'm not gonna see her until after spring break and not knowing exactly what was said bugs me. Can i just text her asking what i said and what she said bc i don't remember or does that just look stupid?
 

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Also-general question. I don't remember what was said at the bar after i told her i liked her. I kind of really want to know all that i said and what she said. But it's looking like i'm not gonna see her until after spring break and not knowing exactly what was said bugs me. Can i just text her asking what i said and what she said bc i don't remember or does that just look stupid?
Don't do that. Waste of your time
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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You told her you liked her, you murdered challenge, her interest plummeted and now she looks down her nose at you because she lost all interestin you. She snubbed you in the street. What i would do is ghost her for a week. Then ask her out ONCE. give her a date and time to meet you. If she givesyou anything otherthan a solid yes, next her.
Can u define ghost her though? Like she has snapchatted me a few times in last day or two. so just open and ignore them or don't even open them?
 

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Can u define ghost her though? Like she has snapchatted me a few times in last day or two. so just open and ignore them or don't even open them?
either don't even open or open and don't reply/respond in any way.
 

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What the others said. Escalate. You'll know where you stand.
 

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*don't go to bars.
*movie, dinner, drinks at your or her place is better.
*she told you no because she could not say yes at that venue while you were in that condition.
*call her up arrange for a meet.
 

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You're both in college. Hormones are running high, she wants to **** you for a timeframe starting from 1 second and ending to any other valid amount starting from 2 seconds to infinity. Right now, she doesn't seem like she wants to **** you. Do not call her to ask her what was said during that night, probably she was a bit drunk as well so it does not even matter. What matters is you lay off of her for a week or so and then send her a text message (avoid the possible call flake) asking her for a date and you give her two options, i. e "You up to hang out on Monday/Tuesday, day/afternoon". You let her choose and if the answer is anything other than a yes, then just on with the next girl because this train has gone away LOL
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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