Hey, new here, and my situation is driving me absolutely insane, so if you're up for some reading, please give me some advice. I'll try to be completely unbiased and include everything.
Rewind to January, start of the semester. I end up sitting next to a good looking girl in one of my classes. Later on, we find out that we share a free period in the same time of the day, so we arrange to meet and work on assignments, etc. From here on, I develope a strong attraction to her, and start to think that she is feeling similar emotions. We started off doing assignments and the occasional studying, but end up meeting eachother everyday, sometimes working on stuff, sometimes just talking. Things are looking good; good eye contact, some kino, etc.
Then, of course, I find out that she is in a relationship. She didn't tell me this directly, but someone else asked her in front of me. I could tell that she was somewhat uncomfortable talking about her boyfriend around me. At this point, I basically abandoned ship, but continued on talking to her anyway.
Some time passes, and while talking to her, a third party comes in, and asks how her relationship is going. She says that they're basically on the last leg, and that "it's sort of stupid". The relationship thing never came up again.
I am frustrated because I have no idea what to do. I am getting completely mixed signals from her.
On one hand, she still goes out of her way to talk to me. Conversations for the most part go well and there is strong eye contact. We catch eachother looking at eachother occasionally, when we are at a distance.
On the other hand, she might be completely leading me on. At times, she is extremely quiet. Sometimes, she doesn't even bother responding to my questions; all I get are nods, shakes, and pointing sometimes. I've noticed this about her ever since I've first met her, and the reason why this drives me nuts is because she doesn't seem to have this problem when talking to anyone else. When talking to anyone else other than me, she's leading the conversation, and is energetic. When talking to me, I only get warm, positive responses when I do the talking, and the conversation sort of dies down if I stop.
Another thing: if she was interested in me, why bother keeping the boyfriend? It's not like I'm keeping tabs on what she does, but I'm pretty sure that she's still in touch with him.
So, what do you guys think? I need some different perspective here. Sorry about the long post, I guess once I got going, I went too much into detail.
Rewind to January, start of the semester. I end up sitting next to a good looking girl in one of my classes. Later on, we find out that we share a free period in the same time of the day, so we arrange to meet and work on assignments, etc. From here on, I develope a strong attraction to her, and start to think that she is feeling similar emotions. We started off doing assignments and the occasional studying, but end up meeting eachother everyday, sometimes working on stuff, sometimes just talking. Things are looking good; good eye contact, some kino, etc.
Then, of course, I find out that she is in a relationship. She didn't tell me this directly, but someone else asked her in front of me. I could tell that she was somewhat uncomfortable talking about her boyfriend around me. At this point, I basically abandoned ship, but continued on talking to her anyway.
Some time passes, and while talking to her, a third party comes in, and asks how her relationship is going. She says that they're basically on the last leg, and that "it's sort of stupid". The relationship thing never came up again.
I am frustrated because I have no idea what to do. I am getting completely mixed signals from her.
On one hand, she still goes out of her way to talk to me. Conversations for the most part go well and there is strong eye contact. We catch eachother looking at eachother occasionally, when we are at a distance.
On the other hand, she might be completely leading me on. At times, she is extremely quiet. Sometimes, she doesn't even bother responding to my questions; all I get are nods, shakes, and pointing sometimes. I've noticed this about her ever since I've first met her, and the reason why this drives me nuts is because she doesn't seem to have this problem when talking to anyone else. When talking to anyone else other than me, she's leading the conversation, and is energetic. When talking to me, I only get warm, positive responses when I do the talking, and the conversation sort of dies down if I stop.
Another thing: if she was interested in me, why bother keeping the boyfriend? It's not like I'm keeping tabs on what she does, but I'm pretty sure that she's still in touch with him.
So, what do you guys think? I need some different perspective here. Sorry about the long post, I guess once I got going, I went too much into detail.
