Please explain this women (help)

[finality]

I’m 35 she is 26

Was seeing her for about a month..

She invested like 300 in the relationship over that time
She posted pics of us on her Instagram with her kissing me
I was her date on her bday
I met her dad
She would tell me she was obsessed with me
She wanted sex all the time
Would tell me she was obsessed with me
Literally everything was perfect and then we got in fight because I was an ******* 100% my fault but she wouldn’t give me another chance at all and broke up with the next day.

How does someone show elite level interest and then lose it over night? She said she couldn’t be with me because I have a big ego..

 

[KingofPuss]

Maybe you really ticked her off. I can't tell you without more information and anyone who claims they can must be certified gypsies.

Can't read a woman's mind. Find another and keep your frame. This woman is probably testing you, already has you doubting yourself and putting all the blame on you. Maybe she's just psycho cause it kinda sounds like it brother. Move on and she'll come back for some soon enough. Keep her on a short leash and drop at the first sign of 5150

 

[btownbuck2012]

How does someone show elite level interest and then lose it over night?

She’s mentally ill.

 

[finality]

She was on 3 diffe perscriptions for mental health and also had to take time off work so maybe crazy

 

[marmel75]

She was on 3 diffe perscriptions for mental health and also had to take time off work so maybe crazy

Ya think? Its called love bombing. Read any myriad of the BPD posts

 

[Spaz]

She was on 3 diffe perscriptions for mental health and also had to take time off work so maybe crazy

And you had to ask us why....

You got lucky by being dumped. I strongly suggest you remain dumped and find another women that's normal.

 

[corporate_sellout]

How does someone show elite level interest and then lose it over night? She said she couldn’t be with me because I have a big ego..[/QUOTE]

remember anything can happen especially in the first months of dating. flaking, high interest, low interest. just be prepared for anything.

 

[ohrein]

It's love bombing followed by devaluing. Classic head case. Time to move on to greener pastures my friend.

 

[Glassguy]

I’m 35 she is 26

Was seeing her for about a month..

She invested like 300 in the relationship over that time
She posted pics of us on her Instagram with her kissing me
I was her date on her bday
I met her dad
She would tell me she was obsessed with me
She wanted sex all the time
Would tell me she was obsessed with me
Literally everything was perfect and then we got in fight because I was an ******* 100% my fault but she wouldn’t give me another chance at all and broke up with the next day.

How does someone show elite level interest and then lose it over night? She said she couldn’t be with me because I have a big ego..

I am going to take a different stance than the rest have on this.

Women can literally "fall in and out of love overnight". The reason this happens is because they are emotionally driven creatures and as men we are driven by reasoning.

Emotions can change in an instant.

I can tell you, with 100% certainty, that your absolute best move here is this (since you have obviously apologized for what you did to tick her off):

Do nothing at all. Let it be. There is nothing more attractive in her eyes than to see you quickly move on and walk away.

The old saying of "you can't miss someone until they are gone" is spot on for your situation.

Any attempts to communicate with her (initiated by you) will deem you as a chaser and beta. Thats not the answer.

Give her a few days without contact and see what happens. I have been in this situation several times. They all came back. Some a day or two, some a week, a month even......but they very few times that I "pursued" only drove them off.

You have apologized for your behavior. There is nothing more you can do........except doing nothing at all. That is the move that will break a woman on the fence about you down faster than anything.

 

[finality]

I’ve already chased. Then she suggested we meet up to talk and she will get back to when ready... then i reached out 3 days later and asked to meet up and she said she doesn’t want to force something that isn’t there any more. Then I went even more beta...

She just reached out saying she has The clap and I should get tested too.

I think this one is done. What a nightmare

 

[finality]

She texted to let me know if I’m positive because she’s slept with other ppl since we broke up 2.5 weeks ago.

I called her a nightmare and never contact me again and she said she we should meet so we can talk.

What would she possibly want to talk about?

 

[Billtx49]

What would she possibly want to talk about?

Doesn’t matter, ignore, she’s on mental meds and might have given you an std. You can’t make rational sense out of crazy, so don’t try…
If you find yourself asking yourself why, what, or how about her actions and words, that’s how a crazy mentally gets to you and eventually twists your brain into a knot given enough time…

 

[Alvafe]

metal meds and fora reason, she invested too much like crazy and then you did something to tick her off and then she goes for the other extreme and end it all, she have her emotional on extremes don't belive she will ever do the middle and more stable emotional, be thankfull she was the one who dumped you if was the otehr way around, the crazy ex stalking you would be pretty real

 

[Roober]

She texted to let me know if I’m positive because she’s slept with other ppl since we broke up 2.5 weeks ago.

I called her a nightmare and never contact me again and she said she we should meet so we can talk.

What would she possibly want to talk about?

Before this, I was going to say... you should probably consider what she said.. "your ego is too big " and I think you should certainly consider why she would think that... that should be your lesson.


However, after the post above...

Other people? As in plural in 2.5 weeks?

DELETE. IGNORE. SHE IS DEAD TO YOU!

 

[finality]

I’m pretty messed up inside. You guys know what it’s like when someone idealizes you. This girl was 9.5\10 hot and 10 years younger. It’s goint to be hard not to meet her but I don’t what postives can come out of meeting her.

She only asked to meet when i called her a nightmare

 

[finality]

Before this, I was going to say... you should probably consider what she said.. "your ego is too big " and I think you should certainly consider why she would think that... that should be your lesson.


However, after the post above...

Other people? As in plural in 2.5 weeks?

DELETE. IGNORE. SHE IS DEAD TO YOU!

I didn’t ask. I just know it was at least 1

 

[Billtx49]

I didn’t ask. I just know it was at least 1

She probably wants to know if you’re positive on std, then she will know if she has to tell another guy she’s a carrier or if she got it from him, or whoever…
Possible blame shifting attempt in action.

 

[HankHill]

I’m pretty messed up inside. You guys know what it’s like when someone idealizes you. This girl was 9.5\10 hot and 10 years younger. It’s goint to be hard not to meet her but I don’t what postives can come out of meeting her.

She only asked to meet when i called her a nightmare

She sounds messed up, and not the type of woman you want. So consider yourself lucky to have found this out early on. As far as wanting to meet, don't do it. She probably just wants to either get your validation after the mess she's in or she wants to find out if you'll do something like press charges etc. Regardless...my advice, block and delete contact...get the STD test done and move on.