Please decode this ********

[Gangster Of Love]

This messaged was texted to me by a girl I'm talking to:

"Im sorry if I lead you on, thats not what I tried to do. I find you intriguing and interesting, a sort of depth that you have, that is hard to find. Im drunk and rambling, but I would love it if you gave me the chance to get to know one another...as friends, because as much as I will never cheat on my boyfriend, I want to see if you are as cool of a person as I have you made out to be...give me a chance to see that I am right or wrong about you, because I dont know you, but I do know that talking on the phone with you the other day really did make me smile."

I'm sorry if I lead you on, as that is exactly what I am doing. While I do find you interesting and intriguing, and really enjoy the attention you are giving me, you are well aware that I have a boyfriend I am never leaving, at least probably not for you, but one who I might leave for a guy that I feel is a real upgrade. Right now you are interesting, but not sure if you are the type of upgrade worth dumpting my boyriend for, so I am warning you so when I tell you I am staying with my boyfriend, and not interested in you, you will not say I led you on. Please understand that, and be aware that I am glad to have found a phone/text buddy that makes me smile and gives me the attention I need at this moment.

 

[maosrdbf]

Okay, wow, a lot of different perspectives on this. I still haven't responded to the text because I wanted to get a lot of viewpoints. Right now I'm deciding between using the preemptive LJBF or meeting up with her for drinks sometime and going in for the kill while being detached from the outcome.

Listen to shaunuk, and jophil bro.

You can respond but just; ok cool -- something simple. Let her get in touch with you to chill. In the mean-time dont count on **** and keep doing your thing.

If she wants to hang out do it. Make a move, see if shes down or not. Get it over with. Use the bible to find info on how to do all this.

 

[Remulak]

1. IF you see this girl as a hump and dump then a reply would be OK,
any short reply will probably do.

2. IF you are shopping for a girlfriend, do not close the sale with her. ' Unsuitable merchandise '.

Number one, I don't want to date her maybe use her as a fyck buddy.

 

[Ease]

Girls are simple, shes not interested.

If she was, she would cheat.

She wants you as an orbiter

 

[Remulak]

Girls are simple, shes not interested.

If she was, she would cheat.

She wants you as an orbiter

I see what you're saying Ease, but I don't think most girlfriends would ever verbally say they're willing to cheat on their boyfriends while their actions may be different.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Many of the women in my past who i have fvcked (who may or may not had boyfriends) liked to keep orbitors.... they would tell me about these guys (sometimes to try to make me jealous; sometimes just for conversation) - and for the most part - they kept them around by saying a lot of the things she said to you.

1. The "i don't want to lead you on" thing! Women will often say this very early to a guy; it's one of the most powerful female "early frame announcements" in their arsenal. Now she can have you as a friend, flirt, imply attraction; all while being free at any moment to pull the "i told you i didn't like you like that" card.

2. "Would love a chance to get to know each other" - "i find you intriguing" - etc.... are all her selling you false hope in return for your attention. AKA: "As long as you flirt with and give me attention - i'll occasionally let you believe you may have a shot with me"

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That's about it. I'm a seasoned user of women who are taken. And women who are interested in you sexually will NOT say things like this.

Most women just love having someone constantly there for them whenever they feel like texting/calling/chatting. And for the most part - the boyfriends lost interest in that a long time ago.

Your best bet is to pull back, or do as Dons said. Either way - continuing to see her on HER terms will only push you further into the friendzone... and you're not quite in it completely yet.

 

[SchoolBoy]

Don't fall for her bull****t. The very first words out of her mouth betray her:



Why would someone feel the need to apologize for something that in the same breath they claim they aren't doing? Because it is EXACTLY what she is doing.

You are being toyed with. A woman with geniune interest in you would of never sent a text message like that. That entire message is pure manipulation.

I agree.. she is interested only in being an attention wh0re to you..

you should either like said above launch a LJBF statement first, or ignore the text.

ANY reciprocation of feelings to this text is a one way street to being an orbiter.

Attention wh0res like her are very good at manipulation, and know how to stroke a man's ego.

The message she gave you is such, stroking your ego to plant the seed in you.

I personally would of ignored the text. "Disdain from things you cannot have."
It will surely piss her off.

-SchoolBoy​

 

[jophil28]

This messaged was texted to me by a girl I'm talking to:

"Im sorry if I lead you on, thats not what I tried to do. I find you intriguing and interesting, a sort of depth that you have, that is hard to find. Im drunk and rambling, but I would love it if you gave me the chance to get to know one another...as friends, because as much as I will never cheat on my boyfriend, I want to see if you are as cool of a person as I have you made out to be...give me a chance to see that I am right or wrong about you, because I dont know you, but I do know that talking on the phone with you the other day really did make me smile."

Remulak, you have been given some quality advice here. The question is- will you take it and act accordingly?

One last point. Most women are horrible liars and poor manipulators. They only succeed because most guys are even worse at detecting and decoding their BS.
THis little lady is not so good at achieving her aims because in the first sentence she delivered a contradictory statement and, in doing so, undermined her own credibility.
Then she goes on to try to draw you into her web with more mushy ego stroking words.

A woman who had a legit interest in dating you would have simply asked you to meet her somewhere for a drink , etc.
All that sugar coated schmooze that she wrote is gratitutious and transparent.

Tread carefully if you proceed.

 

[nismo-4]

She has zero sexual interest in you. She's attempting to trick you into thinking you have a chance so you will supplicate and chase her like a beta with oneitis all the while she eagerly bounces on her boyfriends c0ck.

She'll pull your puppet strings for a few months and when you can't take the pressure anymore you will panic and make a stupid move on her and she will look at you funny and say "Bill, I TOLD you in that text that we were just friends." She'll then get a big chuckle as she retells the story of your creepiness to all her girlfriends.

You want to know what my response to this text would be? I would of misinterpreted her nonsense and turned the tables:

"Carla, you shouldn't be sorry for developing a crush on me. It happens. I think you are nice and would still like to keep you around as a friend. Are you OK with that?

This is so epic! You are pretty good! I also like Weezy's answer!

To the OP, realize that she is an attention wh0re. She wants you to do an AFC move so that she can damage your rep (see above qoute) and btw she has you lingering on false hope.

This is another case where you must spin more plates.

Also if you are gonna hang out with this girl, make a damn move.

This girl is riding her boyfriend's c0ck as you read this stuff.

If you next her and she doesn't make a move on you, you win because you invested no time with this and you're probably meeting new chicks with the time you otherwise would have spent...just chasing her! She might even flake on you, ever thought about that one?

It also seems like this is a oneitis case. Spin more plates. Caveat emptor.

Case closed.

 

[Remulak]

This is so epic! You are pretty good! I also like Weezy's answer!

To the OP, realize that she is an attention wh0re. She wants you to do an AFC move so that she can damage your rep (see above qoute) and btw she has you lingering on false hope.

This is another case where you must spin more plates.

Also if you are gonna hang out with this girl, make a damn move.

This girl is riding her boyfriend's c0ck as you read this stuff.

If you next her and she doesn't make a move on you, you win because you invested no time with this and you're probably meeting new chicks with the time you otherwise would have spent...just chasing her! She might even flake on you, ever thought about that one?

It also seems like this is a oneitis case. Spin more plates. Caveat emptor.

Case closed.

Okay get this she wants me to make her dinner and she said she would bring over a bottle of vodka. This is getting sketchy, if she has a boyfriend and wants to be friends why the hell would i do this?

 

[horaholic]

I would text back something like "And what's the ole' boyfriend gonna think about that, you bad girl?!?"

You will be able to tell from her response what her intentions are. If she says something like "Well, he doesnt need to know about it now, does he?" That is an IOI.

Or, I might actually straight up ask her what her intentions are, in a C+F way. Im sure a lot of people here would advise against this, though, but I feel it would get straight to the point in this matter.

Or say something along the lines of only making dinner for girls you you are dating.

 

[Slickster]

I'm sorry if I lead you on, as that is exactly what I am doing. While I do find you interesting and intriguing, and really enjoy the attention you are giving me, you are well aware that I have a boyfriend I am never leaving, at least probably not for you, but one who I might leave for a guy that I feel is a real upgrade. Right now you are interesting, but not sure if you are the type of upgrade worth dumpting my boyriend for, so I am warning you so when I tell you I am staying with my boyfriend, and not interested in you, you will not say I led you on. Please understand that, and be aware that I am glad to have found a phone/text buddy that makes me smile and gives me the attention I need at this moment.

I think this answer was the most accurate translation.

I believe she is somewhat interested and likes your attention but is using the boyfriend as an out if she decides to change her mind.

You can dance around with this chick forever and that's exactly what she wants. She wants to string you along and give her attention. Do you really want to jump thru all her hoops trying to impress her and then get shot down with the "I have a boyfriend" line?

She's trying to manipulate you big time. Even if you get some you are still being used.

Cut to the point with this b!tch.

Text her "I'm too busy making dinner for girls without boyfriends. Talk to you later friend."

 

[Remulak]

I think this answer was the most accurate translation.

I believe she is somewhat interested and likes your attention but is using the boyfriend as an out if she decides to change her mind.

You can dance around with this chick forever and that's exactly what she wants. She wants to string you along and give her attention. Do you really want to jump thru all her hoops trying to impress her and then get shot down with the "I have a boyfriend" line?

She's trying to manipulate you big time. Even if you get some you are still being used.

Cut to the point with this b!tch.

Text her "I'm too busy making dinner for girls without boyfriends. Talk to you later friend."

you're right slickster, fyck her im not going to let her play me. Next time she texts me or calls which is almost every other day I'll say something like that.

 

[Kailex]

Don't say something LIKE that... say EXACTLY that. That line is gold.

 

[Drewskie]

you're right slickster, fyck her im not going to let her play me. Next time she texts me or calls which is almost every other day I'll say something like that.

I'm not sure if that's such a good idea, if she wants you to make her dinner and she said she will bring the vodka, that may be her way of letting you know that after you bang the sh!t outta her, she can blame it on the alcohol. That is, if you didn't twist what she said.

 

[katatonia]

Sounds like manipulative bullsh1t aimed to keep you in orbit. That boyfriend thing was just an excuse for saying she isn't truly interested in you; as you know if she was interested she wouldn't have even said 'friends' in the message and her boyfriend would be a non-issue and probably would not have been mentioned either.

No contact imo.

 

[Slickster]

I'm not sure if that's such a good idea, if she wants you to make her dinner and she said she will bring the vodka, that may be her way of letting you know that after you bang the sh!t outta her, she can blame it on the alcohol. That is, if you didn't twist what she said.

Never let yourself get used for pvssy.

 

[Cinamon]

Would she fall in to the category of attention wh0re?

 

[wait_out]

You should commit to dinner, then cancel at the last minute because you arranged beforehand to play basketball and shoot the sh1t with her boyfriend that evening.

It'd be epic

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Okay get this she wants me to make her dinner and she said she would bring over a bottle of vodka. This is getting sketchy, if she has a boyfriend and wants to be friends why the hell would i do this?

Here's a better question: When was the last time one of your male "friends" asked you to make him dinner and told you he'd bring some vodka along with him? :nervous:

Do you think you'd sit around together and discuss his relationship with his GF while sipping cosmos on the couch?