People do have bad nights but below was my immediate interpretation after reading your post.
QUOTE] Last night she refused drinks, and she was discussing fears with a friend, she turned to me and asked me whats your greatest fear? and before I had chance to reply said "being stalked by an ex girlfriend like me?". What the hell does that mean?[/QUOTE]
Refused drinks?
Was she getting bored with the same ol' drinks and you not making any moves to go with the drinks
Basically she works in a bar and I like her (mentioned it via
I find it crucial to resist revealing any thing of significance to someone you are interested in over the phone,email, or writing.
Always face-to-face. Shows you have confidence and puts you more in control of the outcome.
Last night she refused drinks, and she was discussing fears with a friend, she turned to me and asked me whats your greatest fear? and before I had chance to reply said "being stalked by an ex girlfriend like me?". What the hell does that mean?
Here she seems as if she is showing you the entrance to the LJBF zone and convincing you why you should go through it.
Her: Surely, you wouldn't want to be with me because it wouldn't last. I already said your greatest fear would be an "ex-grilfriend like me" didn't I? On top of that I will stalk you. You don't want to be stalked, do you? Did I mention it would be your greatest fear?
Good time to bring up a point.....
Never Ever Ever Ever express any fear you may have to a woman you want to get with and continue to not to do it after you have gotten with her.....no matter how comfortable you may get with her.
Women want to see their men as strong.....fearless..... Brave..... ALPHA. They do not want to know if their man is fearful. How can she feel protected by such a frightful creature? Express fear to her and watch that growth of that disappointed look on her face.
This does not mean to go out of your way to sky dive out of planes or swim next to sharks just to show her you have ballz. Just don't tell her that you lose them in certain situations.
This is what immediately came to my mind when I read that she asked you about your fears. Of course, my first thought was that no women interested in a man sexually would want to know this(maybe if she was testing you). But in any case, she wants only one answer........
I HAVE NO FEARS.
Her: You are not afraid of any thing? Not even if someone was about to kill you?
You: Why should I fear something that hasn't happened?
Her: Oh. [lust builds up].
If she catch you running away from a cat, convince her you were chasing a dog and the cat was following to get revenge on the dog.
In a nutshell: I would suggest that in the future you make your move much sooner than you did here, do it face-to-face without fear and move things along much quicker than drinks at the bar week after week. Good luck.
Mizer
