Please Answer: Girlfriend Is Texting This Guy....

In2theGame

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Clement said:
Ouch. Seriously? I will be more careful. That's repulsive.
Yeah it hurt beyond belief. if you knew the details, you would think this girl was from hell but anyway,... Im not saying it to scare you but from my own experience with two very serious Long term Relationships,... Just because she says she loves you so much and everything looks good doesnt mean she wont bail man and by her talkin to this guy,.... its cause for alarm. any other guy on here with the same type of past as me, will agree big time about the way a girl will say i love you one day and the next day,... will act like you never existed.
 

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Clement said:
What do you mean a branch swing?

-Clement
When a monkey is traveling through the canopy of a forest, swinging from branch to branch, it won't let go of the previous branch until the next branch is firmly within its grasp.

The analogy with relationships is that a woman, when she is preparing to start a new relationship with a new boyfriend, won't let go of the current/old boyfriend until she has already begun and consummated her relationship with the new boyfriend. This is typically the way women operate. They are petrified scared of leaving one perfectly good boyfriend and being left in the lurch in mid air if the next relationship with the new boyfriend is abortive.

I don't want to tell you to dump this girl out of the blue, becoz actually you might be playing right into her hands if you do this. Girls care VERY much about social protocol, and she knows that if she dumps you for a novel player just because, she will be frowned on. That may be all that's keeping you two together at this stage. If you dump her, not only does she get to breathe a big sigh of relief, she also gets to paint you as the bad guy, her as the victim, and the new boyfriend as the knight in shining armor who came to her rescue. That is not a productive situation for you to be in.

But, I do think you need to be preparing for the end of this relationship, as that is a distinct possibility at this stage. You need to be in a position, where, when/if she does dump you, you are totally fine with it. In fact, you're already set for it and are able to adapt to it better than she ever expected. If she dumps you, and then sees how quickly you moved on and how much better your life has improved so rapidly after that, she will regret her decision for the rest of her life.
 

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In2theGame said:
Yeah it hurt beyond belief. if you knew the details, you would think this girl was from hell but anyway,... Im not saying it to scare you but from my own experience with two very serious Long term Relationships,... Just because she says she loves you so much and everything looks good doesnt mean she wont bail man and by her talkin to this guy,.... its cause for alarm. any other guy on here with the same type of past as me, will agree big time about the way a girl will say i love you one day and the next day,... will act like you never existed.

+1 this. Been there, done that.. learned and move on.

The girl has no reason to be regularly in touch with this dude if you're satisfying her sexual and emotional needs. It's only when one of those slips will she look elsewhere. Alpha's girlfriends will seek Betas as emotional tampon, Beta's will seek Alpha's as sexual relief. So, if you're more of a Beta... you should be worried.
 

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In2theGame said:
I underlined and Bold the text in your post here because you gave me a quick flashback. My ex GF, brought our families together, we had a dinner discussing us getting married and she insured me everyday that i was to be her husband because she loved me so much. After being together for couple of years, i was going to step in and get married. few months after the family dinner, she left me for another guy. have a nice day :)
well that's enough to make me never want to date again for the rest of my life

this **** that did this to you prob sleeps well at night, non conscious whatsoever, probably got a ton of support from her dumbass friends, society won't look down on her for it. She thinks this is good decent moral behavior.
 
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