Ok well obv a long story so have to cut it short.
Quick intro,
- Got talking to this girl in my home city - London through mutual friends.
- She was finishing off studying in London, but from overseas.
- Got her number, got to talking when she went home hit it off well.
- She had plans to go on holiday, and I was free so I joined.
- All went well, three crazy good days clubbing all night spent most of the time with her, escalated, heavy (erotic) touching etc.
- Didn't sleep with her, but I don't see that as a problem, because as it stands we've only seen each other once in London and then three days today, and considering where she's originally from its not a done thing in that culture until marriage (My parents are also from there).
As you can imagine a lot of mixed feelings here, because although she does say she will come visit me in London, who knows if I'm actually going to see this girl anytime soon...
There were a few things that didn't go so well in the three days:
- Had a bracelet given by my ex, I foolishly told her my ex gave it to me, and she seemed genuinely pissed off that I wouldn't take it off. Although eventually she took it off using force and threw it out the car window. Still, she kept yelling 'I can't believe you're not over her'.
- I made the typical blunder of telling her that I like her, but this didn't seem to be a huge problem because she said the same back.
- She plays hard to get far to much, that is she is defiantly playing because she keeps coming running back. E.g. we're making out, and she says stop, so I walk away, but then she comes back over to me within seconds. But, fine once is okay, two or three times I can deal with, but this happened up to ten times, and frankly pisses me off. I tried to disarm this by telling her I won't waste my time if she's not interested, but this didn't seem to sink into her head.
So, am left feeling very confused,
- Where do I stand in terms of being with her? She admits that she wants to make something out of it, but she doesn't seem to put the effort in... E.g. She says she will come to London but won't give a date, I mean fine there may be a genuine reason for this, but too me this girl is a little too uncertain and not an action taker for my liking, then again most girls are like this, and those are traits of a man I'm lead to believe, but my ex was not like her, she just did things, you know 'only live once' attitude. It's probably prudent to say she's quite young though, and this may also be a reason.
- Any general tips on making long distance work very much appreciated...
Quick intro,
- Got talking to this girl in my home city - London through mutual friends.
- She was finishing off studying in London, but from overseas.
- Got her number, got to talking when she went home hit it off well.
- She had plans to go on holiday, and I was free so I joined.
- All went well, three crazy good days clubbing all night spent most of the time with her, escalated, heavy (erotic) touching etc.
- Didn't sleep with her, but I don't see that as a problem, because as it stands we've only seen each other once in London and then three days today, and considering where she's originally from its not a done thing in that culture until marriage (My parents are also from there).
As you can imagine a lot of mixed feelings here, because although she does say she will come visit me in London, who knows if I'm actually going to see this girl anytime soon...
There were a few things that didn't go so well in the three days:
- Had a bracelet given by my ex, I foolishly told her my ex gave it to me, and she seemed genuinely pissed off that I wouldn't take it off. Although eventually she took it off using force and threw it out the car window. Still, she kept yelling 'I can't believe you're not over her'.
- I made the typical blunder of telling her that I like her, but this didn't seem to be a huge problem because she said the same back.
- She plays hard to get far to much, that is she is defiantly playing because she keeps coming running back. E.g. we're making out, and she says stop, so I walk away, but then she comes back over to me within seconds. But, fine once is okay, two or three times I can deal with, but this happened up to ten times, and frankly pisses me off. I tried to disarm this by telling her I won't waste my time if she's not interested, but this didn't seem to sink into her head.
So, am left feeling very confused,
- Where do I stand in terms of being with her? She admits that she wants to make something out of it, but she doesn't seem to put the effort in... E.g. She says she will come to London but won't give a date, I mean fine there may be a genuine reason for this, but too me this girl is a little too uncertain and not an action taker for my liking, then again most girls are like this, and those are traits of a man I'm lead to believe, but my ex was not like her, she just did things, you know 'only live once' attitude. It's probably prudent to say she's quite young though, and this may also be a reason.
- Any general tips on making long distance work very much appreciated...