Please!!! Advice on getting my girl back

[dswens]

Ok I've been dating this girl on and off for 2 years. I love her to death and we recently broke up again. This time she is getting together with her ex boyfriend. We just moved to california from minnesota and we drove together. He lives in minnesota and might come out here. We broke up because of my problem of not letting go of the past and calling her on stuff that is old news. I know i'm good at heart but i've been calling her names like ho and it finally got to her. This sounds like i'm a freak but i have a really bad temper and I guess she was afraid of me or what I was capable of because sometimes i got so angry that i would break stuff. I never hit her or anything. I know i need to work on myself before i get back with her but im afraid she will get in too deep with this other guy. I guess when I'm being an a**hole and this other guy calls her up being all sweet she thinks its the better deal. I would do anything to give her the life she deserves. Honestly I just want to be a good person. It was sooo bad that she insisted she didn't want any contact with me because everytime we try and be friends we get back together. I was kicked out of the house by the roomates and my father lives in ca so im with him right now. Me and this girl actually talked civil to each other when i got my stuff the other day but what should I do? write a letter, call? I dont want her to think im stalking her or something but I truly do love her and would spend the rest of my life with her if i could. Please give me advice. I feel all alone. thank you anyone -lost and alone -dswens

 

[iqqi]

I know i need to work on myself before i get back with her

exactly.

but im afraid she will get in too deep with this other guy

oh well. there is not much you can do, because of free will. but if it makes you feel better, she is probaly doing it to really get to you. which is working...

leave her with a good last impression, then seek her out when you have worked through your own issues. by then you both may have grown up a bit.

relationships don't always last. hers and his probaly won't either. and if you better yourself, and leave on good terms, you already have an advantage in the future.

 

[RKTek]

dswens, this is your first post and because of the desperate, needy, whiny, thinking this is the only girl in the universe for you, wimpiness, you probably won't get many replies here. You won't get many replies because you haven't read any part of the DJ Bible (linked at the top of the page), rather, you think someone will give you a quick-fix and 'poof' with a magic wand, you'll gain self-esteem, self-confidence and the right thing to say and she'll return to your arms.

Guess what......

This girl is gone.

Yes, you read that right. She's gone, and you really don't want to hear this now, do you? Of course you don't. You want what the subject of your post was "Please!!! Advice on getting my girl back"

No. You won't get that here, because the universe doesn't work that way. Oh, you could get her back by begging and promising you'll be her slave for the rest of your life, but c'mon, no one REALLY wants that. Or, you could inherit a gazillion dollars and she'd be back in a heartbeat, but she'd love that new Ferrari you just bought her...not you.

Stop.
Read the DJ Bible, and I recommend this one first:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16926

After that, read a couple of the others marked "Must Read" THEN post here again.

And what to do about your broken heart? Live with it, because that is how men are made.

Now go do your homework.

 

[Bungo Pony]

I know i need to work on myself before i get back with her but im afraid she will get in too deep with this other guy.

The first part of this is right, but you're doing it all for her. You're absolutely fvcking miserable without her. Let me tell you what you've done. You've built your life on the foundation of her as your happiness. When she left you, the foundation went and your life came crashing down. Now you gotta start all over again. You gotta find a new girl to give you happiness, or get the old familiar one back.

Let me ask you, are you going to set yourself up like this with every girl that you meet?

One thing that you'll learn here is how to be your own foundation of happiness, and build your life on that. Women just become another brick in your life. If you lose that brick, no big deal, hardly any damage done.

The bytch left you. You need to let this girl go and start fresh. Make some changes to yourself. Do something about your quick temper before you even attempt another relationship. A new start on life can be incredibly exciting. This is an excellent opportunity to make some drastic changes in your life. Get yourself some new clothes, a new hairstyle, and work on improving your personality. Then get yourself a new woman. You'll feel like a new man.

Oh yeah, and read the DJ Bible.

 

[assasin]

Eloquently put Bungo.

Another fantastic example of what the DJ principle boils down to.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by Bungo Pony

The first part of this is right, but you're doing it all for her. You're absolutely fvcking miserable without her. Let me tell you what you've done. You've built your life on the foundation of her as your happiness. When she left you, the foundation went and your life came crashing down. Now you gotta start all over again. You gotta find a new girl to give you happiness, or get the old familiar one back.

Let me ask you, are you going to set yourself up like this with every girl that you meet?

One thing that you'll learn here is how to be your own foundation of happiness, and build your life on that. Women just become another brick in your life. If you lose that brick, no big deal, hardly any damage done.

The bytch left you. You need to let this girl go and start fresh. Make some changes to yourself. Do something about your quick temper before you even attempt another relationship. A new start on life can be incredibly exciting. This is an excellent opportunity to make some drastic changes in your life. Get yourself some new clothes, a new hairstyle, and work on improving your personality. Then get yourself a new woman. You'll feel like a new man.

Oh yeah, and read the DJ Bible.

Agree 200%

My man you in Cali where the ratio is more 7:1. Use that to your advantage. PLUS YOU ARE YOUNG! She will not be your last. Believe me.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by dswens
Ok I've been dating this girl on and off for 2 years. I love her to death and we recently broke up again.... blah blah blah whine whine whine

Ok, take my advice:

1. Place yourself into a comfortable sitting position
2. Raise your right hand to about forehead level
3. Smack yourself repeatedly in the forehead for being stupid.
4. repeat as often as necessary until you realize that this is over for you, if it ever really was there in the first place.

Now for some more tough love: get some balls, get some self-esteem, go out and start talking to other girls, ok???

 

[Bill]

I'm honestly quite eager to read what he has to reply.
Hmmmm I wonder, will he have read the Bible as we told him? We'll see.
Peace.

 

[MetalFortress]

-----Ok I've been dating this girl on and off for 2 years. I love her to death and we recently broke up again.-----

Why do you want to date a girl who you can't even stay with for a long period of time?

-----This time she is getting together with her ex boyfriend.-----

Her other one?

-----We just moved to california from minnesota and we drove together. He lives in minnesota and might come out here.-----

Whipped!

-----We broke up because of my problem of not letting go of the past and calling her on stuff that is old news. I know i'm good at heart but i've been calling her names like ho and it finally got to her. This sounds like i'm a freak but i have a really bad temper and I guess she was afraid of me or what I was capable of because sometimes i got so angry that i would break stuff. I never hit her or anything.-----

You sound like my ex-stepdad. And if I ever see that punk on the streets, I'm gonna beat the living crap out of him for putting my mom through hell and being a bully. As "God" in Bruce Almighty said, "Would you take you back?" Be a MAN, not a bullying pvssy.

-----I know i need to work on myself before i get back with her but im afraid she will get in too deep with this other guy.-----

Sucks for you.

-----I guess when I'm being an a**hole and this other guy calls her up being all sweet she thinks its the better deal.-----

He IS the better deal. Even if he is an AFC.

-----I would do anything to give her the life she deserves.-----

1) fix your pedestal-placing attitude. 2) fix your temper.

-----Honestly I just want to be a good person. It was sooo bad that she insisted she didn't want any contact with me because everytime we try and be friends we get back together.-----

Good for her. Would you want any contact with you, if you were in her position?

-----I was kicked out of the house by the roomates and my father lives in ca so im with him right now. Me and this girl actually talked civil to each other when i got my stuff the other day but what should I do? write a letter, call? I dont want her to think im stalking her or something but I truly do love her and would spend the rest of my life with her if i could. Please give me advice. I feel all alone. thank you anyone -lost and alone -dswens-----

MOVE ON. Like Bungo said you are relying on her for your happiness. By being a d!ck you screwed yourself over, so your only choice is to get over her. Would you rather get with a woman who places all of her happiness on you and NEEDS you? Or would you rather get with a women who is not desperate, who doesn't need you, per se, but wants you?

 

[The Real Deal]

Ever wonder why the letters EX are included in the word nEXt?

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Eyecandie4ya
Agree 200%

My man you in Cali where the ratio is more 7:1. Use that to your advantage. PLUS YOU ARE YOUNG! She will not be your last. Believe me.

Oh my God. 7 to 1 female to male. It's a fukking sexual smorgasbord. The original author needs to get out there, and find him some, and forget this gal. AND that may be the onliest way he ever has a chance of landing her again.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Suck it up and move on. Trust me. I am the word of god on here.

 

[Desdinova]

Woah, haven't seen this thread, nor these posters in over two years. Thanks for bringing back the memories, Jack.