Playing with your/her hair?

[tamales]

Doing great and taking a day at a time getting over, what's his name. I mean really, what IS his name Just wondering, this is a little silly but a new crush I have at work. ( I don't advocate this but we work in different departments and I am lucky to see him at all, sort of a problem actually in establishing anything) Well, today he sort of played with my hair. I have short blond hair and it is very wavy. aka Meg Ryan like.. trying to grow it again longer and well make go back dark. But anyhoo,

Today, this crush of mine and I had a chance albeit brief to chat and he said" I like your hair today and then he sort of moved over my bangs a bit" We hardly know eachother and well, time will tell but THIS time certainly, not going to put my eggs in one basket.

Sort of just trying to get my head clear and back to dating in real life and not find the need to be a post hog or hang on here. Understand? Real life is what it is all about. Moderation is key. Frankly, I had plans to go out with gf's tonight but after a 14 hour shift I am pooped. Where is that pizza guy.

Soooooo, my point. Yeah. I am not sure this guy is a DJ. Actually, I think he is simply a really nice guy without any "DJ motives". Maybe AFC but I don't think so. He is 8 years younger than me and this is a REAL, REAL bummer.

I felt a chemistry when I first saw him and yes, time will tell and I have to just have fun and see but playing with hair.. Would you say that is very flirtatious or not necessarily.

Sort of a silly ? but I have been at work since 6 am, just got home and well, too pooped to do anything. It's our "Anniversary Sale"

Geez, everytime I turn around it's another sale. But welcome any input. No flaming. I realize a lot of you don't like me on here but I have tried to give advice from a different side and welcome the support that has generously come my way.

In this scenario, I say just play it by ear, get to know him little by little and see. But it was fun for him to sort of flirt with me this way. If that's what he was doing? No other man has done that. Not at least one I don't know too well.

And he said in a slow and flirty manner (before the touching my hair) happy anniversary.

Sigh, what a bummer he is only 28. Not that age matters but I would have to say for him he would much rather have someone a lot younger. Or maybe it's my hangup? Would it matter to you if I looked more like 28 than 30 something. Hmmmm. This has already been addressed.

Thanks dudes and hope all on here have a great weekend!

PS Saw Legally Blond this week. A real chick flick but for what it's worth I loved the first one and the second one pails in comparison. A lot of people have said that I remind them of a "more smart Elle" not sure how to take that. LOL.

 

[Eternal]

*Reads post* What's your question again? Oh, here it is...He played with your hair. He is showing SOME interest atleast. I know I don't just walk up and start playing with some chicks hair unless I like her and have talked to her a little while. As far as him being 8 years youger...He'll have a helluva bar story...Just kidding .

 

[The Real Deal]

So, what are you saying again?

 

[tamales]

Okay, I deserve that. Hey, I am a chick.. Sorry. And my feet are killing me! I had a long day. So in addition to my ? Just wanted to check in and say hi and I suppose let those who might care on here what's up. That's all. But yeah. I deserve that.

And yeah, playing with hair no matter what your status( even very friendly coworkers) is very flirtatious wouldn't you men say. Dunno. This could just be this guys way. Plus, I have funky hair. So does he. Very wavy and well hard to style.

So, I suppose THAT should have been my original ?. See, we do need you men and how! Next.

 

[The Real Deal]

Ok, but suppose you weren't INTO him, what would have been your reaction then? Since you are it doesn't matter what he did, did it? Maybe his hands were just dirty and he needed to wipe them off, is that still a turn on? Doesn't it all depend on how the woman perceive's the man in the first place?

 

[Slickster]

Hi Tamales

Playing with hair would be a form of kino. How did it make you feel? You can probably answer your own question.

I've never done that (play with hair) myself but I might now. I do really quite like women's hair.

P.S. Good work on forgetting your.........(what was I going to say???)

 

[tamales]

Well if I weren't into him, he would have never even tried in the first place. I mean I wouldn't have given off those flirty vibes. I just don't flirt for the sake of it. And I think that when the chemistry is there you both know. And this started off sort of strange. We had flirted from day one. I mean at least for me, I noticed him even on my initial interview three months earlier.

I doubt his hands were dirty but you never know. LOL. Might have been or he might have sensed that I sort of like him and just playing with me to boost his ego. Can't blame him.

Guess I answered my own? just was sort of pooped, bored and well like I said wanted to check in,


Hey Slick! We are all waiting for that threesome to occur. Sooner than later. I know my guy friends would be envious and your ?'s of how to deal with four gals. Well, they would have to shoot you.



PS. Still too soon to tell this guys IL but right now that gut feeling is telling me something is brewing. Even with this young dude. I am however, a little bummed at his age. He looks more like mine and maybe in truth, I am the one with the problem in dealing with that. We'll see but I look forward to seeing him tomorrow if at all possible. Again we hardly, ever see eachother but in the short time I worked there he and I have developed some kind of bond. Mainly flirtatious. But it's there.

Thanks again and Slick Pm if you want later on your situation.

 

[Slickster]

Hey Tamales,

Yes tomorrow night is the moment of truth as far as the threesome goes. We've been extremely busy at work lately and I haven't had much time to speak with any of the flirtatious four.

But usually when work is stressfull then the parties are better at the end of the week. People have to blow off steam right?

No one's given me any advice on how to deal with four women but I figure I'll just go into the night without any expectations and see what happens. I think it would be a mistake to pressure anything.

Good chatting with ya

By the way have you sent your donation for Bungo?

 

[vdk]

What tamales is trying to say is when he touched my hair my IL went through the roof, so much so I had to put a post on this board. When I kino I try something small like arm, shoulder then close the deal with the "remove hair from face" trick. Ive done this 2 times to 2 different gals. The first time i screwed it by not looking into her eyes. Second time made my girl go crazy.

 

[OpenMind]

Tamales,

I think the fact that this has even been brought up for discussion tells us that 1. you are attracted to him and 2. he is attracted to you. Guys don't play with women's hair for their health (maybe their sexual health lol). With that said keep us posted on what happens on Monday cuz I think there is some chemistry going on here.

 

[BobbDobbs]

If he touched your hair, he isn't a typical AFC. He has moves.

The age thing is no big thing -- for an STR. If you are already planning your wedding, well yeah, it might be a problem.

 

[iqqi]

hey tamales! about the age...

he's 28! not 18!

age ain't nothin but a number...

my mother is with a man 8 years younger. they've been together for 10+ years.