playing hard to get

[luv 2 fly]

Well looks like she's playing hard to get. ok so to make the story short..talking to a girl which lives 800km away from me. met her online & now have been talking on the phone a number of times & also the odd facebook email here & there. after about a few phone calls I asked her if she would like to meet up. I would fly down to see her. She told me it was too soon & she wanted to get to know me better. Ok.. so after a few more chats on the phone I asked her again. She pretty much told me no again & that she does'nt know about this long distance thing. She thinking ahead & asking me what would happen if we meet & that if both of us find some chemistry..what would happen then. I think she's worried that if she likes me it would be too far to date or what ever..I'm pretty sure her interest level is there but then again what do I know...Any sugestions on what I can do or say to her to convince her? should I just stop talking to her or maybe wait a few more weeks & ask her too meet up.

here are a few emails we exchanged yesterday....


me: Am I fair to say one of the reasons you don't want me to visit is that if I do you might end up liking me??....LOL

her: Moooooorning,
Hahahah... nice one but no I just dont want u to fall in love with me at first sight =P

me:Ha ha is that what you think?..."rolling eyes"

her:yes thats what i think =)
Exactly u r supposed to be working not sitting on the internet writing love letters... lol

Me:LMAO..ok I promise it won't be @ first or even second sight.... LOL..so I'll leave it up 2 you
What you think this is writing Love letters?? HAHA

Her:well this is not working thats for sure... so what else do you wanna call it hmm?

Me:your funny....I would call it emailing..simple as that......

Her:HMM OK... SURE I'LL LET YOU THINK THAT
HOW IS WORK GOING?


Me:why...do you want to recieve love letters from me? LOL...I hav'nt even met you,,,,,,

work's going good....just about to call it a day!!!

Her: i didn't say necessarily that those love letters are for me.. maybe u got someone else to write love letters too ;P


so I left it @ that.....don't know why she started on the love letters subject..maybe she wants to be romanced first before I meet her??

Any tips or suggestions would be great...thanks

 

[jophil28]

She knows that your interest level in her is higher than hers is in you and she is just toying with you for her amusement.This woman has NO intention of getting involved. She is however enjoying the possibility that you are getting blue balls over her. Her text content indicates that she is fairly up on herself too.
Dude, you are merely feeding into her high need to have her ego stroked and she is NOT ever going to repay your efforts.

NEXT !

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

WTF!

Why you messing with a chick who is 800 km away?

Sound to me like she's saving you the trouble of flying 800 km just to be a chump.

Keep your pen-pal if you want but worry about girls who live near you.

 

[luv 2 fly]

She knows that your interest level in her is higher than hers is in you and she is just toying with you for her amusement.This woman has NO intention of getting involved. She is however enjoying the possibility that you are getting blue balls over her. Her text content indicates that she is fairly up on herself too.
Dude, you are merely feeding into her high need to have her ego stroked and she is NOT ever going to repay your efforts.

NEXT !

I just wanted to bang her..that's all..she's not bad looking so....yeah I guess just delete her from facebook & no contact

 

[jophil28]

so I left it @ that.....don't know why she started on the love letters subject..maybe she wants to be romanced first before I meet her??

Any tips or suggestions would be great...thanks

You have not met this woman, and she is talking about "love letters"...that is her ego telling you that it wants to be fed. Women who use and exploit men ALL seek either his money or ego inflation and validation from those guys.
Don't be one of those chumps who is gullible enough to believe that by fawning over her you are getting closer to the vag.
She will suck all the compliments she can out of you and then decide that "she is not ready" for a relationship.
Cut her loose.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

800km? If I can't hit em with a rifle, they ain't close enough to game!

 

[Prodigy746]

Is this post serious. You are seriously thinking about flying 800km just for a date? That reeks of desperation, cant you get any girls online near your home town?

 

[rocksoff]

you gotta be like pretty sure youre gettin ****ed if youre flyin out man....fly over there to go hang out bad luck

 

[jophil28]

800km? If I can't hit em with a rifle, they ain't close enough to game!

^^^ ha ha . Funny shyte.

 

[luv 2 fly]

you gotta be like pretty sure youre gettin ****ed if youre flyin out man....fly over there to go hang out bad luck

just so you guys know I'm an airline employee..so it's cheaper for me to fly then take a cab!


but yeah I know she's playing this game...should I call her on it??

when I next her & if she calls/emails to say what's up...what's a good line to use...thanks!!!

 

[jophil28]

just so you guys know I'm an airline employee..so it's cheaper for me to fly then take a cab!


but yeah I know she's playing this game...should I call her on it??

when I next her & if she calls/emails to say what's up...what's a good line to use...thanks!!!

Try the LJBF manuver. This requires you to go to radio silence first for a few days or more.

She writes, "Whats up? You have gone silent."

You, " I have been thinking. Ya know, we could form a great LD friendship - with no other expectations."

She, " Whaaaatttt !! I though we had something going..?"

You," I don't think that I can be the man that you really need " (this will trigger her imagination into total bewilderment )

She," Wait a minute , etc.." ( she panics )

You, " Got to be someplace else now - talk later." ( Sign off )

That is is how you guys repossess a lost frame.

Expect her anxiety to surge in anticipation of losing you. Stand firm and do not hand the frame back to her by caving in at the first weepy email.

I have no idea exactly what she will do, BUT allow her to make the next move.

 

[luv 2 fly]

sounds good!! Thanks 4 the info!!

 

[teacha]

Well looks like she's playing hard to get. ok so to make the story short..talking to a girl which lives 800km away from me. met her online & now have been talking on the phone a number of times & also the odd facebook email here & there. after about a few phone calls I asked her if she would like to meet up.

stopped reading after that.