Sacratus Bellator
Don Juan
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This is more to provide proof of something that more experienced Dj'ers know, to the inexperienced DJ's. I've had this girl over to my house a few times, getting some IOI. We went to dinner and had fun. I get a text last night at about 2 am. Now I was not exactly asleep, but I was dozing and drifting in and out of sleep (I usually leave the TV on while I sleep).
her "hey are you still up"
I am barely concious and come back with
me "what are you doing naughty girl"
I waited about 5 mins before I decided to go back to sleep, no response.
I get to work (today) and a text lands in my inbox
her "how am I supposed to respond to that"
Now at this point, I almost get defensive, (hey it's still early morning for me). I was going to come back with, "what did you expect when you texted me at 2am" THIS IS NOT the way to do it. I know it's been said many many times, but you need to change the mood of the situation. She came to me and was on the defensive, probably because I was being sexual and she wasn't prepared for it last night. But as I am seeing a few girls I didn't care if I offended her. Instead of letting her mood determine my next move, I came back with;
me "Something more playful than that, sheesh"
I think by saying it that way, I was making her feel silly for getting worked up about the text. Instead of meeting her with a similar negative and defensive tone I put everything in a positive playful tone.
her "that was a little flirtatious don't ya think?"
me "that's how Id describe me"
her "what u doing for lunch"
me "havent decided yet. How bout yourself?"
her "no plans.. yet"
me "well lets change that. Do you like Mexican"
her "Yes! What time?"
me "I take lunch at 1. Ever eaten at Fernandos?"
her "long time ago, Meet u there at about 1:10"
me "Sounds like a plan
"
Whenever you can, come back playfully. It helps diffuse beyotch shields, it lets her know you're fun and that you don't care about how she responds, because you're going to do it your way. And it changes where the conversation will go.
Here is a disclaimer about my posts; they are as much for me to firm up my inner game as they are to help others on their path to success. So if I can help a few people as I get farther, great!
her "hey are you still up"
I am barely concious and come back with
me "what are you doing naughty girl"
I waited about 5 mins before I decided to go back to sleep, no response.
I get to work (today) and a text lands in my inbox
her "how am I supposed to respond to that"
Now at this point, I almost get defensive, (hey it's still early morning for me). I was going to come back with, "what did you expect when you texted me at 2am" THIS IS NOT the way to do it. I know it's been said many many times, but you need to change the mood of the situation. She came to me and was on the defensive, probably because I was being sexual and she wasn't prepared for it last night. But as I am seeing a few girls I didn't care if I offended her. Instead of letting her mood determine my next move, I came back with;
me "Something more playful than that, sheesh"
I think by saying it that way, I was making her feel silly for getting worked up about the text. Instead of meeting her with a similar negative and defensive tone I put everything in a positive playful tone.
her "that was a little flirtatious don't ya think?"
me "that's how Id describe me"
her "what u doing for lunch"
me "havent decided yet. How bout yourself?"
her "no plans.. yet"
me "well lets change that. Do you like Mexican"
her "Yes! What time?"
me "I take lunch at 1. Ever eaten at Fernandos?"
her "long time ago, Meet u there at about 1:10"
me "Sounds like a plan
"Whenever you can, come back playfully. It helps diffuse beyotch shields, it lets her know you're fun and that you don't care about how she responds, because you're going to do it your way. And it changes where the conversation will go.
Here is a disclaimer about my posts; they are as much for me to firm up my inner game as they are to help others on their path to success. So if I can help a few people as I get farther, great!