player image good or bad

[someperson12]

Very quick question
Just out of curiousity, when you're say, in college, is being known as being "smooth" or a player a good thing in general. I'm certain that certain girls may resent you for it, but would being known as a player be a good thing in general?

Thx

 

[someperson12]

any reply would be helpful

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Depends on the context but being KNOWN is always a good thing. I have a tremendous reputation as a ****y @sshole with a wide range of women, and as a real fun guy with another group of women. Guess what? I get so many girls coming up to me saying they heard this and that about me. Its fukin' sweet, I don't have to even approach most of the time.

So to answer your question yes, its a very good thing...


PIMP

 

[someperson12]

haha sound really cool congratulations to you

 

[MikeYikes122]

It's cool you ask this because I've been thinking about this a little bit. It's like Pimp-sicle said, it's good to be known.

I think there's two routes to go with that. You either take the player-pimp route you spoke of or the "ahh he's so sweet and cute" route. They both seem to get chicks, and I think it's because it's just in girls' nature to want what they think can't have. This is gonna sound retarded, but I was reading Shakespeare the other day for a class and there was a line in there about how girls just want what they're forbidden to, so it's probably been like that forever.

So basically chick is in a bad relationship or has only had bad relationships and has been treated like sh!t by dudes her whole life. So naturally she thinks she's never gonna meet a genuinely nice/good guy. That's where the "ahh he's so sweet and cute" dude is gonna prosper. I used to be strictly one of these guys and all I pulled were chicks with boyfriends who were jerk offs and chicks who have only dated *******s.

The player is gonna get girls because they see he has so many chicks already, and if he has so many chicks then he probably isn't going to want them. This is where being a player is gonna pay off, but some chicks will resent you like you say - the above mentioned ones who get all relationshippy if you get what i mean.

So basically, this whole forbidden thing (girls wanting what they think they can't have) is why basketball players and celebrities get tons of ass: because girls think they can't have them.

I think the best route to go is to blend both of them together. I consider myself a player until i meet the right girl.

 

[someperson1987]

Guess it should depend on the girl. Me and past girl broke up cause she said i wouldn't stop talking to her friend (yah her friend was pretty lol).

 

[Don_Joffe]

Its bad to be known as a player, its good to be known.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Being smooth or a player isn't necessarily one in the same.

 

[Matt Rogers]

The best thing to be known is not as a player but someone who girls throw themselves at. Someone who is so charming that they attract girls like flowers attract bees. You don't want to be seen as someone sleazy who keeps hitting on girls.

 

[Don_Joffe]

You want to be smooth like Francisco said. Girls dont like players?
Why?
1. The men are egotistical
2. Dont want to get played themselves
3. See players as worthless
4. Women go into a relationship hoping it will last and something will come from it
5. By kissing the player, the player wins.

 

[someperson1987]

how do u exactly avoid being "sleazy" tho? A.K.A. How do "Smooth" and sleazy differ, or what makes a person either?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Hors don't mind "Players" - good women don't want Players!!!

 

[MindOverMatter]

If you want a decent respectable girl, player rep will get in your way unless she is naive, insecure and inexperianced. Most girls have dated a player at one point, have tried to change one (and failed), and know better then to try again.

If you just wanna hook up with random girls at clubs, get some pvssy and nothing more, then having the rep of a player will help you. The downside is, girls that go for players usually love to beat the player at his own game, so don't be surprised if you get played by one.

You get what you give.

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by someperson12
Very quick question
Just out of curiousity, when you're say, in college, is being known as being "smooth" or a player a good thing in general. I'm certain that certain girls may resent you for it, but would being known as a player be a good thing in general?

Thx

Let me see you want to know if it is good to be known as a man who has or can have a wide variety of women.

Lets look at the alternative, you can be known as the guy that is so sweet and nice but has no women and no women want him.

This isnt a hard one here buddy, but just in case you are still on the fence, think of all the people you know, who do you envy the most-the cat who gets tons of women or the one always home on friday nights playing playstation and porn.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Hors don't mind "Players" - good women don't want Players!!!

Exactly. I struck out early last year with a good girl based on a little bit of a "bad" rep.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

I. Don't be afraid to lose. If some person didn't like you based on who you are, or want to be, move on, they have bad tastes anyway.


II. First impressions count as everything. That's because we're a time-starved world that doesn't 'buy into' alot of crap, and the image is the quickest decision-maker we have. If you're at college, there's time for redemption, but HOW a person sees you is HOW they will act toward you.


III. Who cares how other people see you? You can't control that aspect of the game. Let them think what they do. People who feel this way secretly are jealous of you, otherwise they wouldn't judge you. And if they judge you, they're not giving you a chance to be understood. The minute we judge, is the minute we have negated any understanding.


IV. If you're known as a player, then you're getting girls and doing something right. Why would you change that for a WOMAN you don't even know yet? Let her prove her worth to you.


V. Women love image. They'll deny what they want, but they want the type of guy who played around and wrestled and tickled them in the school yard. To have fun, and to be led. Men are beings who progress on a path. Women test us by seeing what our path is. If you're not INTO your path, then she's got no dance to join. This is the essence of the feminine being. They GIVE into the masculine essence and flow with us.



As an aside from EXP, I was dating a girl who was the baby sis of friends. We'd hooked up and I went on vacation the next day. Rumors surfaced for whatever reason that I was dating somebody else, though they weren't true. She became sketchy. The truth only came out recently of who said what to who. These things can't be controlled. Just move on. It ain't worth your struggle. It's not like you got kids, or time invested, or family, and even if you did, it's not worth ripping apart who you are over this.




A-Unit

 

[Royal Elite]

Im just loving this new sense of man hood around here. Great post A-Unit.

BE a Man-and that means f what she thinks. Do you.