Player got played?

[fukuy]

I wonder if any DJs here 've been into such situation as mine. I've been dating this girl for about a month or so. We've been going out 4 times totally. Things went very smooth during the dates except this one thing. Every time when i asked her out, i gotta ask like 2-3 times before she accepted my invitation. That makes me sometimes come off as if desperate. Plus last weekend i asked her out again, taking into consideration that the previous dates went great. She shocked me by refusing it. Now I'm pretty sure that this girl has some medium-high interest in me. But what the f*ck going on here? Is she trying to play some mind games with me or what? She's been really pissing me off cause i dislike this kinda immature attitude.
Post your reply and tell me what yaall think of this kinda behaviour. Is this for real that she's trying to play games with me or just a childish act or she starts losing interest in me?
Any suggestion of how to deal with this evil chick would be greatly also appreciated

 

[Phonenix DJ]

Dont put up with

come on!

Theres a rule that says whenyou ask a girl for the second time and she refuses or 'avoid" you have to MOVE ON!

Really, Ive been there. Maybe this girl has a boyfriend or isnt interested!

MOVE ON. I did the mistake of chasing a girl and I completely lost, not to mention I looked like an AFC!

MOVE, no, run

PLEASE, and if u do it dont look back!

XaM

 

[BrWnSugaMan]

fukuy,

We all need more details. Give us an example how what you said and what she said and then what you said and so forth.

 

[Sexual]

Agreed with pheonix.

Not trying to put you down or anything, but come on- you should know better than that if you read the DJ Bible. I'm sure the only reason she probably accepted your dates after the numerous times you begged her is you probably caught her at a time when she was actually hungry.

 

[fukuy]

to tripsta : Lol, so are you saying that i've been used? How pathetic i would look in her eyes if that was the case.
To sugar man : We really digged into each other during our dates, holding hands and stuff, lots of kinos and physical contacts. The only thing we didnt do were to make out, but admitedly, i had several opportunites to make it happen, but somehow let it pass by Thinking about it now, i just wanna bang my head into the wall for such stupidity and retardness.
To Phoenix : i think you misunderstood my story. She did accepted to go out with me in the second, third , fourth dates, but only after i kept poping the questions several during our conversation. I would clearly know for myself when to move on asa i smell " no interest" from a girl.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by fukuy
... Any suggestion of how to deal with this evil chick would be greatly also appreciated

pretend you are sexually interested in her

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by fukuy
I wonder if any DJs here 've been into such situation as mine. I've been dating this girl for about a month or so. We've been going out 4 times totally. Things went very smooth during the dates except this one thing. Every time when i asked her out, i gotta ask like 2-3 times before she accepted my invitation. That makes me sometimes come off as if desperate.

1. You do sound and look desperate.

2. The first time should be the last time.

3. There are too many other ho's out there

Originally posted by fukuy

Plus last weekend i asked her out again, taking into consideration that the previous dates went great. She shocked me by refusing it. Now I'm pretty sure that this girl has some medium-high interest in me.

1. what makes you sure she has a high interest level in YOU. All she has done is make you beg for dates and I know you paid for the full ride after all this beggin you've been doin.

2. If this is an example of medium-high I would hate to see what low looks like....she shoots you or stabs you for askin her out or some shyt.

Originally posted by fukuy

But what the f*ck going on here? Is she trying to play some mind games with me or what? She's been really pissing me off cause i dislike this kinda immature attitude.
Post your reply and tell me what yaall think of this kinda behaviour. Is this for real that she's trying to play games with me or just a childish act or she starts losing interest in me?
Any suggestion of how to deal with this evil chick would be greatly also appreciated

1. Yeah she is playing you. Your not a player either, cause a real playa would of long gone moved the fawk ohhhnnnn.

2. If you can't see her game then you need to read a book called "the rules" it's for women to learn how to drive men crazy and make them nut up over them.

3. You need to reverse her game...and take her off that pedistal you've put her on by beggin for dates. If your mad you should be mad at yaself...not her...she is the victor in this situation.

Start busting on her dumb arse...give her some put downs and tell her you ain't got time for no games...

grow some nuts and take control.

or better yet start avoiding her and see how fast she comes running.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Why do you people move on or NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEXT so quickly? Play her on the siiiideee!! Don't next her before you want to, just play her on the side along with your other chicks.

If she plays you or not cannot be known out from the little details you have given.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Kineti[C]harm has it... as a board should seriously start differentiating between soft and hard nextings.

For example, soft next would be that you, at least for the moment, forget about her as a potential gf, and keep in touch with her while at the same time pursuing other girls. And a hard next would be that you forget about her unless SHE calls YOU back.

 

[fukuy]

to clarify the situation here,
1/ no i didnt pay for the dates. We always split half and half. Like me paid for the dinner and her for the movie or she pays for meal and me for drink
2/ i know her interest is somehow med-high cause everytime i got turned down for a date, i just simply said " fine, maybe another time " then hung up. A few days later she would call me back and tried to offer a make up for it. I think my problems are that i always took her offer back too eagerly.
3/ the reason i post this situation not cause im that desperate or not a player, but that i never ran into this kinda behavior before. Usually a chick would just simply accepts or rejects my invitation and i have no problem with rejection ( i would just next her right away). But this chick, i pretty know that she wanna play games with me. That's why she's been acting like that. Sadly i cant escape her web. That just drives me confused. I think i just got an oneitis. ------> a lesson to all players out there: Make people in love with ya, Never fall in love with them.
4/ Now i know i would sound somehow retard when asking this but i need some guideline here. Im sure that she'll call me back in a few days after letting me down last Sat and perhaps will try to offer sth to make it up for me.
A/ Should i just return the favor by turning her offer down and play hard to get? Or
B/ should i be straightforward to her and tell her that im done with her games, that she'd better drop her games or i'll drop her.
Yaall see the pain here? I really consider this girl as a potential mate and aint wanna play games with her but if she keeps throwing games at me then i would have no choice but showing her who's the real pimp here.

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by fukuy
The only thing we didnt do were to make out, but admitedly, i had several opportunites to make it happen, but somehow let it pass by Thinking about it now, i just wanna bang my head into the wall for such stupidity and retardness.

Four dates and you didn't get it on?

With some girls, if you go one date and don't get it on they'll lose interest.

I hada girl molest me and ask me out, but we only went on one date despite her obviously extremely high interest level. Why? After we got food we came back to my place to watch a movie. Our legs were intertwined, I had my hand on her thigh, but I didn't make a move. She was sick. I don't kiss sick girls. At the end of the date she gave me a big hug and said "thanks for the date," obviously expecting something, but I didn't wnat to get sick. She immediately lost interest.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by So pimp its scary
Kineti[C]harm has it... as a board should seriously start differentiating between soft and hard nextings.

For example, soft next would be that you, at least for the moment, forget about her as a potential gf, and keep in touch with her while at the same time pursuing other girls. And a hard next would be that you forget about her unless SHE calls YOU back.

This is true you know. I've noticed a couple times situtations where I've not really "nexted" a girl, but just backed off almost completely, or put her on the back burner, and behaved just friendly with them and eventually scored.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Kineti[C]harm
Why do you people move on or NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEXT so quickly? Play her on the siiiideee!! Don't next her before you want to, just play her on the side along with your other chicks.

If she plays you or not cannot be known out from the little details you have given.

thank you.

Just leave her an "open inventation" to get back at you in the near future and leave it at that. No need to NEXT a girl just because she is busy, or she hasn't spent enough time with you to reailze how good of a catch you are.

I remember one girl I dated at least 10 times before i really started to say "hey, I could actually see myself wtih this girl, she isn't half bad".

Sometimes things take time. You have to learn patience. Plus, your stable should have enough thorobreds in it to keep you happy until she comes around.

 

[fukuy]

aight. Thnks DJs . i decided not to do nothing till she makes the first move,and it'd better be a good one.

 

[Trance]

i met a girl on a party, and got her number. Then i msg'ed her to setup a date. We setup the date in place X at my sugestion, but then the next day she told me if it couldnt be place Y. I didnt like very much but cause of her location i kinda understood and said ok. Then she said she would call me the next day to confirm, and she never called again. I sent her a ring, and she sent a msg asking sorry, that she had a problem bla bla, and if we could make it other time.
So i didnt call her again, and she phoned me a couple of days latter asking sorry, and wanting to be with me this week. I said ok, and at the place i sugested, at my time.

 

[fukuy]

and .....? how was the ending?