Plate impasse

[Sir Drinksalot]

Saw a plate I was spinning a while ago. She got a bf, started blowing me off, and I said fuggit and pursued other venues.

It's been a couple months since we've seen each other but I ran into her today at work. She hunted me down, asked me to come to her office and we flirted for a few minutes until I had to leave.

No idea what that's about. But I do know that I'm one of several plates, just like she is. I'll pursue it to see if it goes any further, but she's aggravating the hell out of me. I let her know that too.

I'm thinking of throwing this plate away, but ... that butt.

 

[Vulpine]

I found out recently that I was a plate among many with a chick.

"What's good for the gander is good for the goose."

Since that presented itself, I realized that it was a dead plate. Remember: she competes for you, not vice-versa. It's a stalemate: you are playing the same game. Anyway you play it, it will result in another stalemate. Stale mate. Next.

But I also got to thinking... She was hot, and I liked her, but she lacked discretion and respect in her lifestyle - that was dangerous. That thoughtline eventually led to:

"If you have four plates... one in four women have herpes. She's likely to be the one with herpes."

 

[STR8UP]

I'm in a similar situation.

My problem was that I got busy with work, got lazy, got comfortable, and before you know it she was the only plate. Not a good position to be in when you are technically single.
I still see her regularly and it's pretty easy to see that she's still into me. Funny thing is, she dropped me for LOOOOOOOONG distance relationship. Haha, I thought people in their 30's had more sense than that. Guess not!

So yea, I dropped this plate in the sense that I am pursuing other interests (and she knows it), but I have a feeling that this LDR thing isn't gonna last and she will be back for round 2. We shall see.....

 

[Sir Drinksalot]

I'm in a similar situation.

My problem was that I got busy with work, got lazy, got comfortable, and before you know it she was the only plate. Not a good position to be in when you are technically single.
I still see her regularly and it's pretty easy to see that she's still into me. Funny thing is, she dropped me for LOOOOOOOONG distance relationship. Haha, I thought people in their 30's had more sense than that. Guess not!

So yea, I dropped this plate in the sense that I am pursuing other interests (and she knows it), but I have a feeling that this LDR thing isn't gonna last and she will be back for round 2. We shall see.....

Getting comfortable got me oneitis and into a 2 year relationship. I'm going to try not to let that happen a while. But spinning plates and keeping 3 or 4 women at the same time is exhausting. Generally I get sick of all of them and fall into one when I find a special one.

In this case, this was NEVER my only plate. Hell, she wasn't even a plate. She was a hot chick I work with occasionally that I'd flirt with, that's it. I didn't think the IL was high enough for either of us for me to jeopardize my job.

Should run into her later this week, will keep all updated.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops,

"Plate Spinning" (as it relates to WOMEN ONLY) is OFTEN an excuse we use to further distract us from more important, more fulfilling, and more worthwhile things we COULD be doing that have NOTHING to do with women.

Every "plate" you spin, you HAVE to put SOMEWHAT on a pedestal in order to initially acquire them---albeit if only temporarily. Why? Because it costs you time, effort, and focus due to the energy involved in approaching them, engaging in conversations, and adjusting your schedule to juggle the various women. Which is fine, but can also be EXHAUSTING.

As we mature and begin to free ourselves from the all-consuming clutches of Cootchie, we begin to realize that the troublesome interactions we have with the women in our lives are often the result of the TROUBLING amount of effort we tend to use to obtain them.

There's a BETTER way:

A FULLER life consisting of things that are NOT pusssy-related gives us an AUTONOMY that is generally lacking when we instead, choose to just CONTINUE trading ONE disappointing encounter with a woman for ANOTHER.

 

[azanon]

That's one of the better arguments ive seen for marriage in some time, VU. I recall the massive reduction in time i had to devote on women the day I got married. case and point, i was a straight B student in college except those last 3 semesters (post marriage) where i got almost straight A's.

So now its puss* on demand, then back to whatever it was i was doing.

 

[STR8UP]

Getting comfortable got me oneitis and into a 2 year relationship. I'm going to try not to let that happen a while. But spinning plates and keeping 3 or 4 women at the same time is exhausting. Generally I get sick of all of them and fall into one when I find a special one.

I agree. That's why I have a hard time juggling several women. I'm LAZY. The problem in this situation is that she was older than I like my women to be and we had a spark (probably more sexual than anything) but never a flame.

Never really fancied the whole quantity over quality game. But if you aren't exclusive with a chick and don't intend to be you shouldn't get lazy when it comes to having other options lined up.