Plate got pregnant, how to proceed?

[way2smart]

One of my plates got pregnant. She says she didn't have sex with anyone else, but I can't be sure.

She loves me a lot, and would probably want to keep the baby so that she can get me hooked for life.

Here is my plan:

Plan A: tell he straight up that i am breaking up with her and keep NC for life. I am thinking if i do this, she is more likely to abort the baby, because she can't afford it.

Plan B: try to persuade her to have an abortion. If i do this, she is less likely to get abortion because she thinks that power has shifted to her and she got me hooked for life.

Plan C?
Any suggestions?

 

[Stugots26]

Plan C: tel her you had a vasectomy and see what she says.

I would definitely verify that this child is yours by paternity test at birth. You do not want to take responsibility for someone else's child; many states will presume that you are the father and rope you into financial responsibility.

 

[Gray The Prince]

http://www.babynames.com/

 

[Thorninmyside]

C. Man up and take responsibility if it's yours.

Plan A doesn't work because she doesn't need your permission to keep it and legally force you to contribute financially. Better do it the nice way rather than the messy way. Plan A and B seem to both be about saving your own ass.

 

[way2smart]

Please don't be judgemental pricks. This was her plan to fool me into having unprotected sex from the start.

Yes, this is about saving my ass because i fell for her lies. And remember this is not a feminist site where everything is a man's fault.

And i live in a country where alimony laws don't apply to children born outside of marriage. So i am not worried about financial responsibility.

 

[Instinct1978]

Happened to me last summer. I was told she wasn't "able" to have anymore children. Yeah, we are idiots.

I don't personally believe in abortion. I simply told her she would be raising the child alone if she didn't want to give it up to a family that couldn't have their own. Between us, we had 4 children already. Whomever said she can hold you financially responsible, is giving out false information. Most states allow the father to forfeit all responsibility in these cases. You cannot force abortion, she cannot force you to be involved.

Long story short, due to her issue with not supposed to be medically able to carry, the doctor recommended abortion because the high risk of it.

Its a stressful time. Just trust your gut and do whatever you believe is right.

 

[jurry]

Are you sure she is pregnant?

Plan B doesnt go well generally because you look weak as you say, id opt for A and tell her if she wants you around anymore to have an abortion. Then GTFO!

 

[Skyline]

When a girl randomly comes to you and says she's pregnant,

GET A FRATERNITY TEST.

The last thing you need is to take care of someone else's kid. You even said yourself that she can't afford it.

 

[Alvafe]

Plan C: tel her you had a vasectomy and see what she says.

I would definitely verify that this child is yours by paternity test at birth. You do not want to take responsibility for someone else's child; many states will presume that you are the father and rope you into financial responsibility.

I would try this at least for a joke, just to see her reaction, also if you was a fool enough to have unprotected sex with her there is little here to help you, if you don't want to have kids, abortion is something you can do without a problem and the law will not force you to pay for her kid, telling her you was vasec, then run for the hill and never talk with ehr again can work for you.

also after this one please learn from it and never had unproct sex again, don't belive the "i'm on pills" or "its a save day" that only work on films

 

[Maximus Rex]

Go With Plan A

Plan A: tell he straight up that i am breaking up with her and keep NC for life. I am thinking if i do this, she is more likely to abort the baby, because she can't afford it.

One of my best friends has a friend that abjectly refuses to use rubbers and of his on admission, he has at least twenty-four kids "in heaven." This is what he tells a chick when she winds up pregnant. You're going have to reach for your inner pimp and come with that "ice age, polar cap," game.

You tell her that you're not a ready to be a father and you're not about sh*t. Explain to her that you're never going to be with her and at this stage in your just about having fun with women and f*cking them. Tell her that if she chooses to have the baby, that she'll be a single mother,and you'll never be a part of that child's life. Explain to her that since she'll have no support from you, that it will not only make the baby's life incredibly hard, but also her own and it's in the best interest of everybody involved that she get an abortion. To make she she goes through with it, offer to pay for the procedure and personally escort her to Planned Parenthood. After she's had the abortion, take her to McDonald's, pay her an Egg McMuffin, and leave her there.

 

[ZTIME]

Please don't be judgemental pricks. This was her plan to fool me into having unprotected sex from the start.

Yes, this is about saving my ass because i fell for her lies. And remember this is not a feminist site where everything is a man's fault.

And i live in a country where alimony laws don't apply to children born outside of marriage. So i am not worried about financial responsibility.

I always get confused by posts like these. Her plan was to fool you into having unprotected sex from the start? You eventually fell for it? How and why? What did she do or say that made you feel like it was ok to go in unwrapped?

How many children, if any does she have now?

Plan C would be to ask her what her intentions are about this supposed pregnancy, and post that here so we can see both sides of the coin before offering advice that may adversely effect your future. No judgment intended, just looking for info.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Step 1. Go into Closet.
Step 2. Grab Metal Coat Hanger.

Step 3. Hang up Coat and go buy abortion pill.



Depending on how far along she is - she doesn't even need to go to a clinic anymore.

 

[:-)]

Please don't be judgemental pricks. This was her plan to fool me into having unprotected sex from the start.

Yes, this is about saving my ass because i fell for her lies. And remember this is not a feminist site where everything is a man's fault.

And i live in a country where alimony laws don't apply to children born outside of marriage. So i am not worried about financial responsibility.

I'm sorry but how does a girl 'fool' one into having unprotected sex? I mean you do know what happens when you have unprotected sex, don't you? If you didn't want a child with this woman then you should not have had unprotected sex or come inside her at the very least.

It's too late to play power games. You have lost yours. Ascertain that she is pregnant in the first place and if it's yours. If so then you explain why it is best for an abortion. Failing that you either take responsibility or leave her to it, either way you're going to pay.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

I always get confused by posts like these. Her plan was to fool you into having unprotected sex from the start? You eventually fell for it? How and why? What did she do or say that made you feel like it was ok to go in unwrapped?

How many children, if any does she have now?

Plan C would be to ask her what her intentions are about this supposed pregnancy, and post that here so we can see both sides of the coin before offering advice that may adversely effect your future. No judgment intended, just looking for info.

This.

Ask her what her intentions are and then state yours. If you want her to abort you can only try to convince her that it is in every ones best interest to take this option. But the reality is that she doesn't have to listen to you and can go through with the pregnancy if she chooses that.

No judgment intended from me either but you took the risk so you should take joint responsibility for the outcome. If it is yours, this is the right thing to do.

 

[Maximus Rex]

What Exactly is the "Right Thing,"?

If it is yours, this is the right thing to do.

What if the right thing for way2smart is not to allow this broad to force him into fatherhood when he isn't ready for it? If ole girl wouldn't be frowned up for having an abortion, then why should he be frowned upon for not wanting to be involved with a child he didn't ask for?

 

[El Payaso]

What if the right thing for way2smart is not to allow this broad to force him into fatherhood when he isn't ready for it? If ole girl wouldn't be frowned up for having an abortion, then why should he be frowned upon for not wanting to be involved with a child he didn't ask for?

Bravo. Well, said!

 

[Mr_Maximus]

What if the right thing for way2smart is not to allow this broad to force him into fatherhood when he isn't ready for it? If ole girl wouldn't be frowned up for having an abortion, then why should he be frowned upon for not wanting to be involved with a child he didn't ask for?

Accidents happen, such is one of the risks of having unprotected sex.

His intention now is not to be forced to become a father unwillingly. I understand that. He can only communicate this to her.

Her intention is yet to be known. Logically, it would make sense to have an abortion given his intention. Emotionally, she will do whatever she feels is right!!!

If she wants to proceed with the pregnancy, she can, whether he wants to abort or not. That is the reality. If she does go through with it and if he doesn't want to stick around to support the child the alternative is, another single mother, a child without a father, who is dependent on (him or) your taxes for support....

 

[Peña]

Please don't be judgemental pricks. This was her plan to fool me into having unprotected sex from the start.

Yes, this is about saving my ass because i fell for her lies. And remember this is not a feminist site where everything is a man's fault.

And i live in a country where alimony laws don't apply to children born outside of marriage. So i am not worried about financial responsibility.

If you had unprotected sex with her that is your fault for being stupid. You asked for advice so stop being rude to the posters giving the advice.

I would first make sure that it is your kid. Do not just believe what she tells you claiming it is your kid. Get a test and find out for sure to make sure it is yours. She might try and sucker you into it.

If it is yours then you can discuss with her what you want to do about it. If she has no abortion you need to suck it up and be responsible being there for your kid. Kids needs to have both parents involved in their life and to be supported.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I would recommend adoption. There are lots of people who would be willing to take care of your child. Breaking up with her and going no contact forever is extremely weak.

 

[DragonBlood]

Whats wrong with letting her have the kid?

Its not your problem, and worst case scenario there are plenty of families out there looking for children to adopt. Spread your seed and be happy.

An abortion can damage a women more than men really understand, I wouldnt be manipulating her into that ****.