Pissed Off

[Rampage1]

I'm pretty pissed off atm, I pulled a HB 9 on Saturday nite, who I had been working on the past few weeks because I found out she fancied me. Everything was going good, both drunk, kissing etc., got the vibe she was really into me etc.

When we got home that night she left comments on my facebook fotos, which shows she went home and looked at my page after the night out. A good sign. I held out from texting her, and low and behold she texted me on tuesday and we exchanged some light fun txts. I txted her today and after a few more light txts I asked if she was interested in going to the cinema at the weekend, to which she has not replied.

I am incredibly pissed off that she has not replied yet as it was about 10 hours ago and has clearly had the chance to. Clearly, after putting myself out there I gave her the power and she has had her ego satisfied and maybe no longer feels the need to reply. Whatever the reason, it is incredibly rude and leaves me confused. I am also pissed off with myself for jumping the gun so soon and having asked her out after only a few days of curting her.

If she does reply, I will either not reply, or reply saying 'Who's this?'

 

[Snowman23]

Dude it hasn't even been a full day yet... not even a half of one. Chill out.

Then when she does respond you're gonna act like you don't know who it is?

You're cool.

 

[Rampage1]

the acting of not knowing who it is would be more of a **** you kind of thing..either way, she had the chance to reply all day and hasn't which is annoying, especially when it usually takes her bout 15 mins normally to reply..it is not coincidental that she has decided to not reply after asking her out.

 

[Rampage1]

So the HB txts me today saying: "Can I borrow your eyelashes and your pearl drops for the weekend?x" This is a reference to my long eyelashes and white teeth, and is clearly trying to flirt. However, she has completely disregarded the fact that I asked her out and is instead trying to change the subject. Fair enough as I probably did jump the gun a bit.

She clearly has some interest in me but not enough to want to escalate things beyond the party scene just yet. I therefore will not reply to her txt and if I see her out she can try and talk to me then. I am not running after this girl even though she is one of the prettiest girls I have seen in a long time If she wants me, she can come get me, if not I haven't lost anything and I have kept my dignity. Nobody keeps a stunner by licking their feet

 

[Atom Smasher]

Never, ever ask a woman if she's interested in going out with you. It makes you appear very weak.

Instead, say something like "Let's get together this weekend. Such & such is playing at the theater".

You're giving her a covert command and establishing a dominant attitude this way.

 

[mtlwlu]

if you want a date assume the sale

"theres so and so playing this saturday, lets go."

 

[Rampage1]

Never, ever ask a woman if she's interested in going out with you. It makes you appear very weak.

Instead, say something like "Let's get together this weekend. Such & such is playing at the theater".

You're giving her a covert command and establishing a dominant attitude this way.

I hear you barking, and are probably right. However, I don't think that it would matter in this situation, if she wanted to go out she would have replied, if she didn't she would have flaked whichever way I put it in the text. The good news is she is still texting me but I am backing off my interest levels and letting her do the running

 

[Rampage1]

UPDATE:

After not replying to this HB9.5, she text me the following evening after she came out of the club: I assume she was drunk because she said "Whats up? Can I come around and use your toilet?"

lol random, anyway I never replied because I wanted to make her sweat and instead the next day we exchanged a few messages after I took the piss out of her for having a weak bladder. All good in the hood at this point.

So that was Saturday night. Roll on Monday night. Hit the clubs again, and text her at around 11 saying:

"hey, you spinning about the town tonight?x"

Her reply, "hey there, yeah I was, but randomly decided to go out as well with my friend, we are in the Mint x"

So I leave it at that, and was in the pub across the road. I decided to stay there and get pissed with my friends and then go across the road to pick up the chicks when Mint was finished. I do that and arrive at mint, and HB was nowhere to be found. Gutted. So I ring her when I get home at about 3 A.M.

She doesn't answer. I text her saying: "Hey you, answer! I'm lethal craic x"

Her: "O.K"

I ring and she answers, she is now at a house party with music on in the backround. Her and her other HB friend met up with some boys and partied it up. Gutted.

Her: "ring me back in 5 minutes, I can hardly hear you with this music"

5 minutes later, ring ring, no answer.

Text message: "5 more minutes x"

10 minutes later..ring ring, no answer.

I text her: "Sad you won't answer, enjoy the party x"

The End.


OMFG, I am a moran AFC grade A chump. When I get drunk I get overly confident and didn't think twice about ringing her and making myself look like a desperado. I didn't have the gumption to realise she was at a party and in the same situation I wouldnt want to talk to someone who is ringing me I hardly know. I thought I would be able to charm her on the phone but was unable to get the chance. I have scared her off, which is a shame because she was stunning. I have deleted her number and if she texts me again I will not reply as there is no point. I have ruined everything with my neediness after one week.

P.s. I am not usually a chump and haven't got this caught up in a girl in a long time. I am a party animal and am always pulling girls in the clubs but this one has really got my attention and won't get out of my head. It sucks, especially since I found out from her friends she fancied me, and after curting in the club last week she was the first to txt the following day.

 

[Rampage1]

 

[Autopilot]

I really don't think you need any advice, seems like you know exactly what you did wrong. DESIRE is coming out of your conversations with her, try not to have so much, it makes you look nervous, bad and somewhat uptight. This will never get you the woman.

 

[Rampage1]

I know, I am more posting out of frustration. Its annoying because I haven't liked a girl properly since my last gf about a year ago, who I got after being more patient than that. However, sometimes I just get fed up in playing aloof and try the persistence method. Particularly when im drunk. It doesn't seem to have worked but I just be like that due to confidence but this has backfired.

Sometimes I feel that persistence is the way forward, as to get the HB sometimes you need to really go for it? **** i don't know anymore hi!

 

[Rampage1]

So if anyones interested heres the current scoop:

Im still in there and things are going smooth.

Needless to say after that I removed contact from her, and went to California for a holiday for 3 weeks. During that time she text me asking how I was to which I told her I was in Vegas and having the time of my life and I would see her when I got back. When I got back I called her up and made her go on a date with me. It went well and we kissed at the end etc.

Didn't see her for the next 2 weeks but we were in contact through text messaging again, she initiated just as much as me. Then last thursday we met up after a nite out, slept together and did the same on saturday. Things are currently going well but we are nowhere near BF and GF just yet. Im taking her out on friday and hope things continue to run smooth. My only problem is I am developing oneitis because IMO she is the best looking girl around where I live (shes a model) and I am trying to be as chilled and patient as possible. It is hard though to stay so self controlled and not look desperate when I know perfectly well I am not the only fella after her.

I will continue to be smooth and do what I am doing but I need a kick up the ass to tell me not to jump in too soon. I want to make her work for me and feel like she earned me but at the same time I just want to bombard her with affection (which I know will scare her away)

Wish me luck