Pimpologist
Don Juan
The Conversation – Part III: Increasing Rapport
Now that you’ve broken the ice and have started to create rapport, your next step is to increase the rapport; this is done by going a little deeper into her background. You created rapport by finding out where she’s from, now in order to increase it you need to find out why she’s here.
I recommend continuing with these questions:
A) “So what brought you down here?”
B) “So what keeps you down here?”
C) For this situation, the overall approach is similar but there are some slight variations that might confuse you so I recommend sticking to the women who are currently living around your area for now.
There are 5 possible reasons/situations:
1) Work
2) College
3) Family
4) Friends
5) Misc.
Note: How she chooses to answer this question will tell you a lot about her character and what she thinks is important.
1) Work
2) College
a) She’s currently going to college:
b) She’s already gone to college:
Note: 75% of the time they will reciprocate with the same questions you asked them. Be sure not to go into too much detail and don’t tell her your college, major or anything else until she asks.
3) Family
4) Friends
5) Misc.
[This message has been edited by Pimpologist (edited 08-06-2001).]
Now that you’ve broken the ice and have started to create rapport, your next step is to increase the rapport; this is done by going a little deeper into her background. You created rapport by finding out where she’s from, now in order to increase it you need to find out why she’s here.
I recommend continuing with these questions:
A) “So what brought you down here?”
B) “So what keeps you down here?”
C) For this situation, the overall approach is similar but there are some slight variations that might confuse you so I recommend sticking to the women who are currently living around your area for now.
There are 5 possible reasons/situations:
1) Work
2) College
3) Family
4) Friends
5) Misc.
Note: How she chooses to answer this question will tell you a lot about her character and what she thinks is important.
1) Work
- If she didn’t tell you what she does then ask: “What do you do?” or “So what do you do?”
- After she answers say: “That’s interesting…is it fun working there?” or “That’s interesting…do you like working there?”
- After she answers ask: “How long you been working there?”
- At this point she might ask what you do and/or how long you been working there.
- Note:Don’t tell her if she doesn’t ask.
- If she asks, it’s all right to tell her but don’t go into detail.
- For example just say: “I’ve been working as a <occupation> for < time>”.
- Then ask: “Did you go to college?” or “Do you go to college?”
- If yes then go directly to number (2).
2) College
a) She’s currently going to college:
- If she didn’t tell you which college then ask: “What college do you go to?”
- Then ask: “What’s your major?”
- Then ask: “What are you?”
- Then ask: “How you like it so far?”
- If you started from number (2), then continue from number (1) with: “Do you work?”… “What do you do?”
b) She’s already gone to college:
- If she didn’t tell you which college then ask: “What college did you go to?”
- Then ask: “What did you major in?”
- Then ask: “How long did it take you?”
- Then ask: “Did you go to graduate school?”
- If yes then ask: “Where at?”… then drop this subject for now after she answers.
- If you started from number (2), then continue from number (1) with: “Do you work?”… “What do you do?”
Note: 75% of the time they will reciprocate with the same questions you asked them. Be sure not to go into too much detail and don’t tell her your college, major or anything else until she asks.
3) Family
- If she says family, you can be certain family is important to her. They will say something like… “ I came here to be closer to my family” or “ I have a lot of family around here”.
- After she tells you that family is the reason why she’s here or still here, don’t ask her any questions about her family just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: “So what do you do?”
- If she doesn’t work, go directly to number (2) with: “Do you go to college?”
4) Friends
- This means that her friends are very important to her. Do exactly what you would in situation (3). Don’t ask her any questions about her friends just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: “So what do you do?”
- If she doesn’t work, go directly to number (2) with: “Do you go to college?”
5) Misc.
- Occasionally you will get women who will not fall into any of the categories above. If this happens, just do exactly what you would in situations (3) and (4). Don’t ask her any questions about her reason just yet. Just be sure to remember what she said, then go directly to number (1) starting with: “So what do you do?”
- If she doesn’t work, go directly to number (2) with: “Do you go to college?”
[This message has been edited by Pimpologist (edited 08-06-2001).]
