Picture everything you say ending with a period.

Scars

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What do periods at the end of sentences imply? It's usually a statement. Direct and to the point. What is a man saying when everything he says (either verbally, on paper, or textually) with a question mark mean? It means he is looking for validation. A lot of men do this and don't even realize it, but so many woman pick up on it. "Do you want to go the movies with me?" No, you should say "Come to the movies with me." or if you say statements in a questioning sort of way. "We should go to the movies, what do you think?" This implies you aren't taking the initiative to decide things for yourself. You can even say a direct statement, but your tone can completely throw it off. Some men will say something, and look around to see if people agree with them. "I don't really like the Raiders.." if said in a validation seeking way, then the man will look around at your reactions to see if anyone agrees. While a "I don't like the Raiders" is direct, and said in a this-is-how-i-feel about it way, you can agree with me or not, which shows that you think for yourself. A trait like this can also subconsciously expose betas in their tracts. When you are the alpha, or high status male of the group, people will try to qualify themselves to you. And will agree with you even if they really don't. Just because you are the "big man" and pretty much anything you say is right. Even when you're wrong.

A plate pointed this out to me. The way she describe it was "I picture everything you say ending with a period." When I asked her more about it, it started making sense to me. Everything I say is direct. I have my joking moments, but she told me sometimes she doesn't know when I'm joking or being serious, but she loves it. Even in basic conversation I do this. I tend to be short and too the point, and try to leave out unnecessary details. We have all met at least one guy who is like this. They speak with authority, but it's not even in a rude way. Authority is actually not even the best word to describe it, because it's not controlling at all. They just speak in a way that makes people listen. When you talk like this, it makes everything you say more valuable. People start to REALLY listen to you.

You may think it's rude. But it's really not. Sometimes we associate men of few words with being stuck-up or arrogant. Don't be afraid of coming off rude. Think of it as having so much confidence and value that even your every word has a price to it. I'm not saying become a mute or anything. Just don't talk in a validation seeking way. And speak with confidence. This a lone could almost eliminate the qualification stage. If you pick up this trait and do it naturally, people will be qualifying themselves to YOU. You wouldn't even have to do negs anymore, or play any mind games. People know right away what your value is by the way you talk.

Keep it simple.

-Scars
 

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This is really brilliant. Its a good way to generally think about how to communicate with others.

If you get into sales and become good at it you will also realize tone, keywords, phrases and body language also play major roles on how people will perceive you, but EVERYONE should always be thinking about this gem of knowledge. good post scars
 

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This really rocks. I never thought about it till now, but I think I talk with a question mark a lot. This is really common in my family. Holy crap Scars, you've really given me something to think about. Stuff like this is what I look for on this forum. Very much appreciated!
 

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I was going to give you sh*t for picking your topic title, but after reading the actual thread body, I don't need to. You make a very solid point that a lot of people are missing. I used to do it in the past, and when I got more confident I stopped doing it, but I still see a lot of people do it.

It's just a sign you're insecure when doing it. Good thread, rep++ for you ;)
 

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Good point but make sure not to sound bossy and obnoxious like you're giving out orders.
 

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Excellent post. I figured this out awhile back on my own. Just speak bluntly with the same certainty that you would use when saying the grass is green. It's not something you're unsure about. Look at the grass. It's obviously green. There's nothing to debate. There's no need to make sure other people agree with you.

Just say everything that comes out of your mouth with that same certainty, and people will almost involuntarily start responding to you with more respect. It doesn't even matter if you're right.
 

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Say everything as if you were saying "One day, at band camp.."

j/k
 
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