Picky Guys: Just Give Her a Chance

[i1t4yomindi]

Hey you guys...I've been reading on these boards for about 2 years now. I finally decided to register.

Straight out I'll say I know all of the information and concepts to being a DJ, but hell I still consider myself an AFC. The thing is, I don't have much real-life experience. I know all all of the knowledge in the world is useless unless I apply it.

Well, I've had my ups and downs and from discussing it with my good buddy A-Unit...I've realized that I just need to sit back and enjoy what's coming to me. Like he said, life is a dance. Just go with the flow and enjoy it.

Recently, I've had problems doing that. See, I'm a very picky person when it comes to finding a girl who will suit my needs. I don't want to be stuck with some brainless girl who will just waste my time. Personality is a big part of what I look for. She can be as pretty as the moonlight, but unless she is smart and can carry on conversations that have meaning - I will not stay with them.

Then, I realized...No one in this world is perfect. I am still young. I should be out there having fun. You see, I am very busy these days with school and work. I'm trying to build up my life just like everyone is. I hope to start up a t-shirt business soon. With that as the first step, I'll wander into more business opportunities and someday I hope to make enough to move out of the house.

So the problem here is...I've been too arrogant about who I am. Ive thought things like "I'm not going to give this biotch any chance! She's a waste of time!" This kind of thinking would eliminate a lot of girls around me from being a potential match. I was being too picky about what I wanted. I was looking for that "perfect" one.

So now, armed with this new knowldge, I will try to be friendly to everyone. Just an overall "people person." I'm not saying that one should just give every girl a chance...That would sure to a waste of time. Put your priorities first but DO try to get to know a girl deep inside before you jump any conclusion. This Don Juan stuff can be pretty motivational, I know. But at the same time, I think a lot of us have fallen into the trap of being TOO arrogant and alpha male. This is not good.

As A-Unit once told me, maybe deep inside those MTV teeny bopper thoughts, there is a real caring person. She might not be the person I'd want to stay with- with she sure deserves a chance. Even if it's short term, the experience you gain is something that can never been taken away. In order to find that perfect one, you need to try the buffet. See what's out there before you come to conclusions on what you really want.

Sorry for the unorganized rant. First post, I guess I kind of got too excited

Later peeps.

 

[Six-String Samurai]

As a recovering picky bastard myself, I definitely feel where you're coming from here. Except, rather than personality, my friends would razz me about only going for the best looking girls (who often ended up ****ed in the head or totally devoid of personality).

I used to have such a rigid standard of what "attractive" was that I would consistently only go for the same "type" of girls. If I had stuck to the same blonde, blue-eyed, big titted girl type, my life would have been insanely boring and unfulfilling in the female department.

The moral: broaden your horizons!

 

[A-Unit]

Nice post.

Great post, bro. And great intro.

You're on the money with pickiness and girls. Too often even I idolize girls into what I want, or even project my own assumptions of her. Then, I flip flop it so I get a feel for what the other possibility might be.

Even then, the girls will change, somewhat. They'll change their life, but the basic traits they're attracted to won't change. And if you don't get out there and meet girls, you'll be intimated on looks. But push through that and find the personality...

Great post, and keep going, man.

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A-Unit