Picking up on signals

[3243]

Alright will somebody please clue me on something! I posted about this before and am getting to the point where I want to give up. I have improved myself lost weight etc etc. So I know this woman whom I never spoke to before "she works where I do" so I am walking towards her one day and I felt like somebody was looking at me and I looked up and she just smiled at me. I just smiled back and went on my way. I was going to get a haircut when I was done I was walking to go downstairs and she yells over to me "Hey you got a haircut" I said yeah and she says "it's looks nice". So I leave for the day and the next day I go past her and she just makes a comment joking with me I laugh and go where I was headed. So I thought to myself 1. Hmm maybe she is interested because why did she look at me and smile 2. why did she make it a point to yell over to me to say something about my haircut. I could see if I was standing by her but she had to yell over to me. 3. Why did she never talk to me before. "I don't know if I was around her alot before" Now the next time I seen her she really did not say anything to me. So now I am confused its like WTF I must be crazy I try to pick up on something to show me a woman may be interested so I can talk to them but geez.

In reality this is not about this 1 woman. It is more of me trying to see what the heII is wrong can I not notice a true signal or what? However I would like if somebody would tell me what the heII this woman did was these signals or not??????? ?????? ?????

 

[crotchrocket]

Ah yes, 'the case of the disappearing signals'

First a few questions for you;
the next time you saw her did you do anything to show her that the interest was mutual? did you say anything to her? did you initiate anything with her (first)? if not, WHY NOT?

Because she commented to you about your hair did not mean she was hot and horny for you, but it does mean that she found you interesting enough to get to know you better, which of course is all a DJ should expect, the preverbial 'foot in the door'.

I've unfortunately been in the same place as you are, more times than I'd like to admit. Just when I decided to do something about it, it was already too late.

My rule now is, if a chic does ANYTHING to initiate a convo. or whatever with me, I MOVE on it. If you expect a chic to be persistent like us guys typically are, you're just kidding yourself. I've found with most chics you've got only a few chances, one, two maybe three, then she'll back off. There are exceptions to every rule, of course, but they are rare.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Man, if you're a real DJ then you should know that most sane girls are going to be at least a little interested in you upon first glance/encounter. Think about it, what girl doesn't want to meet a guy who is good looking, confident, intelligent, and fun to be around?

Basically, if you think something was a signal, it probably was and you need to act on it. Got a story for you to illustrate.

Sunday night my buddy and I were at a party. This girl was really digging him, but he was completely oblivious to it. I tried to help him out, I wasn't feeling much like picking up beer sluts. As she went for another beer, I told him "Dude, that girl is into you hardcore." She was throwing her arm around his neck, getting real close to say stuff, asking him a bunch of questions. He denied it, said she probably was just being friendly.

An hour later this girl leaves. She gives me a handshake and says goodbye, then gives my buddy a hug, stops to talk for a little bit, gives a hug with a KISS, says something else, then gives another hug. My buddy turns to me and says "Yeah Shizam, I guess you were right." Duh .

Now my friend is pretty good lookin, has a nice sense of style, and is smart as all hell. But far from a DJ. If he and his lip ring (which the girl thought was hot, and stopped to talk to him about initially), weren't there I could have easily gotten the #, if not more.

 

[nonstop]

if you miss the signals then it can be hard to get back in, she'll probably be thinking you're a pu$$y or you just don't get it, or your just not attracted to her.

unless she is really into you.

To her these signals are obvious.

 

[3243]

So was this a signal or not? I just never spoke to her before and it seemed to me that we just looked at each other and smiled then she start said the stupid haircut thing to me. I know just because she made the haircut comment does not mean much of anything it was just the point that she talked to me.

I make myself sick! I get something that may be a signal and I just go over it in my head over and over and it makes me feel good that somebody may want me. Then on this one you want to know what I did? I made it a point to go past her again another day to see if she says anything to me. I then sat wondering why this or that was not happening and then it hit my pea sized brain is that I just ignored her and would not even look at her! I was even around her and a couple other people and I ignored her I seen her looking at me out of the corner of my eye. Then I decided to do something so new to me I may die doing and that is TALK!!!!!! to her! So if I never come back her you will know I died because I actually talked to a woman

 

[So Many Ways]

Originally posted by ShizamDaMan

Basically, if you think something was a signal, it probably was and you need to act on it.

That sums it up. The girl you (the OP) are referring to is interested I would assume. Assume she is and act accordingly.

Women generally don't do things that are blatant, they do subtle things to indicate their interest. It is up to us to pick up on it and act.

If you don't act, what Nonstop said in his post is exactly what she'll be thinking and you will not likely get another chance.

Good luck.

 

[Ice_Berg_1]

Forget about trying to read signals and grow a set of ballz and go chat with this chick. If she has any interest in you you'll be able to get a better idea, if your new set of ballz are big enough you then ask for her number or invite her to lunch.

 

[3243]

Well I actually did the unthinkable and I talked to her and did not die. This was like a big step for me as sad as it is to say it. So me and this woman was standing at work off to the side and this girl comes walking past me so instead of walking through the main asile she cut off to the side and walked past me. so maybe that is good.

Now I wonder if she is a attention h0 now. Because I hear she is mean to alot of the woman at work. A friend of mine "female" said that she is a b1tch and I told her she is nice to me. She says well when she works upstairs she use to fall over this guy. I have no idea why she told me this after I told her this girl is nice to me.

 

[JonJack]

Don't be surprised if she does turn out to be an attention ho or a b1tch. In other words, don't be naive.