Picking up in Nightclubs - Tips?

[Deus ex PENISforte]

 11.[B] Never go alone[/B].... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser.

ops double post see below

great post. I cant wait to try that.

 

[logic1]

As the saying goes there is always a D**K H**D in the crowd

 

[kdnash82]

In what situation DO you grind with a girl then? When they're rubing their ass against my dick don't they expect me popping a boner?

I'm pretty unhandy when it comes to clubbing (because 1: i don't do it alot cause it costs a lot of money and 2: i hate the music in clubs). Where is the point that you start to grind with a girl? I got lucky to grind a few times in the past and it was great. But 9 out of 10 times it pisses chicks off or they'll get freaked out.

I would say that you should never grind with a chick on the dancefloor. One, if you just met her, you're invading her personal space. Two, 9/10 chance you're gonna get a boner and it's a known fact that girls just don't like being poked in the butt while on a dance floor. Three, every other guy is gonna do it. It's been done to her before.

If you ever find yourself out on a dancefloor with some hottie, spin her around, get close to her, touch her waist, move your hips with hers, but by all means do not start dry humping her on the dancefloor. It's just tacky.

With that said, there will be times where a girl is gonna throw her butt on you and you'll want to start pumping away. Resist. She'll wonder why you aren't and try even harder. Basically, she'll be wondering why you aren't pumping away at her butt, and do things to make you want her. You're creating attraction by not giving in.

 

[kdnash82]

11. Never go alone.... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser

This is BS. I have never been to a club by myself where a woman has made the comment about me being alone. If you are doing things right she wont even notice. She will be to into you and the dancing and conversation to worry about who your with.

Sometimes I think going with a group can be a major distraction. When you are by yourself you dont have to worry about the distractions caused by your friends.

This can go both ways. I've been to a club alone and still done well and other times I wish I had come with friends. Having friends around will boost your confidence and give you social proof. Having friends around also makes you seem like you're on the prowl.

There was one time where I went out by myself, and just happened to run into a girl I knew. I hung out with her, then started to do my own thing when I ran into another girl I knew. The first thing she asked me was if I was alone, and laughed when I said yes. The other girl must have been watching me the whole time I was talking to girl #2, because she came over immediately after I said I was alone and wrapped her arms around me. Girl#2's friends ended up leaving her alone, so she ended up trying to pull me away from Girl#1 all night. It was definately an ego stroke and boost of confidence.

 

[snowdog]

I would say that you should never grind with a chick on the dancefloor. One, if you just met her, you're invading her personal space. Two, 9/10 chance you're gonna get a boner and it's a known fact that girls just don't like being poked in the butt while on a dance floor. Three, every other guy is gonna do it. It's been done to her before.

If you ever find yourself out on a dancefloor with some hottie, spin her around, get close to her, touch her waist, move your hips with hers, but by all means do not start dry humping her on the dancefloor. It's just tacky.

With that said, there will be times where a girl is gonna throw her butt on you and you'll want to start pumping away. Resist. She'll wonder why you aren't and try even harder. Basically, she'll be wondering why you aren't pumping away at her butt, and do things to make you want her. You're creating attraction by not giving in.

Is that a fact? Hmmm... i'll try that advice. Though i see a lot of people doing it i clubs.

 

[diablo]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=67183

 

[Seismos]

Ok... you do not have to spend a lot of money at the club to get girls to notice you. there are tons of things to be social proofed. these are some of the things I do.

get in good with the security and the bartenders. when you initally get in the club, walk around and carry a casual conversation with the security. if you do this enough, they'll remember you and if you just happen to get into a fight at the club, they'll kick the other guy out instead of you. also, they work the doors. every now and then they'll let you in for free. girls see these things and you're social proofed by simply carrying conversation.

get in good with the bartenders by going to the same bartender every time. they'll remember you and you'll get drunk for half the price. be sure to tip well though. i go to the same guy everytime. he remembers me by name and whenever i go to the bar, he uses my name. girls are aware of everything around them and when the bartender is saying "Hey's what's going on kdnash? Where you been? Haven't seen you in a while. Don't worry, it's on the house." they see this. I've also been given VIP wrist bands from these guys.

next, when you're walking around the club, smile. always be smiling. never stop smiling. girls are constantly looking around, and if you're not smiling when they look at you, it'll be too late to smile when you noticed that they looked at you. you want a girls first thought to be "He seems nice".

while you're walking around, say hi to random people. high five random people. no one turns down a high five. even if they don't know the reason behind the high five. this makes people believe that you're having a good time. in turn, they'll want to be around you having a good time. you're the guy that knows how to get the party started.

even if you don't know how to dance. move to the beat of the song. don't jump in the middle of the dance floor though. be on the outskirts and watch the situation. i'm sure you'll notice some girl on the dance floor watching you and every now and then glance in your direction. if you get these, go dance with the girl. even if you don't know how, follow her lead. mimic what she does. she'll believe you guys are sync'd. DO NOT GRIND! it'll give you a boner and you do not want to be poking some girl on the dance floor. she'll tell her friends. just don't do it.

i could sit here and go on and on about this. do a search on my blogs. most of them are updates on my experiences at the club. i've had my share of good nights and bad, so take what you can and don't make the same mistakes i did.

ok, this is my first post/day on this forum and the first thing i read is this excellent post! i fully agree and it seems that it was a good decision to join the forum!

 

[danielzxc]

This is also a problem for me, I often don't really have a choice but to go alone. I do agree with the OP, as this surely makes you look like a loser, especially if social status/etc is so important. I have very little success and often wonder if this is a factor, though I have had success on my own and with friends or adopted friends that night.

The "just moved here" line is good, but will surely only work if you are somewhere you never plan on going again, or with someone you wont see again, I mean if you see her outside of the club, it will quickly come out that you have been there much longer than a week.

If you're 22 or younger, I think it works against you really badly to say you are there alone. I'm just thinking of the kind of clubber chicks I have known in my life, and I would say 9 out of 10 of them would think it a loser thing to be there along. (Of course, if you make a great impression in other ways, it doesn't really matter, but before you make that impression, it works against you).

23-25, it's 'risky'.

Older than 25 I suppose it's 'okay'.

Nevertheless, even if I did go alone, I would never admit it to a chick. If she asks, just say I'm here with some friends, they're around somewhere. Or just say I'm here with a friend, he's off with some chick somewhere.

Other 'excuses' are that you're there early and waiting for your friends to get there. Or your friends went to check out some other club and you're waiting for them to get back. There's probably heaps of others. Anything is better than admitting you came alone, imo.

 

[lookyoung]

If you're 22 or younger, I think it works against you really badly to say you are there alone. I'm just thinking of the kind of clubber chicks I have known in my life, and I would say 9 out of 10 of them would think it a loser thing to be there along. (Of course, if you make a great impression in other ways, it doesn't really matter, but before you make that impression, it works against you).

23-25, it's 'risky'.

Older than 25 I suppose it's 'okay'.

Nevertheless, even if I did go alone, I would never admit it to a chick. If she asks, just say I'm here with some friends, they're around somewhere. Or just say I'm here with a friend, he's off with some chick somewhere.

Other 'excuses' are that you're there early and waiting for your friends to get there. Or your friends went to check out some other club and you're waiting for them to get back. There's probably heaps of others. Anything is better than admitting you came alone, imo.

Me personally I would not be caught dead in a club alone. Most girls that go to clubs would think it was strange. Younger ones would totally think it is strange. Why would you want to go to a club alone. Go to the beach alone. Go shopping alone. Go to a coffee shop alone. NEVER GO TO A CLUB ALONE. unless your meeting someone up there.

I really don't know how anyone in there right mind can go to a club alone. Its much funner to go with people.

 

[danielzxc]

Go to the beach alone? Serious? I couldn't imagine it. Hang on, and coffee shop, too? Coffee alone? Hmm, I've never done eithe of these to by myself. (Don't know anyone else who does either. Maybe it's different in Australia.)

Clubbing alone, for a guy with 'normal' level skill (or less), does seem like a bad idea. I don't know how you're gonna match the energy of the place if you're there alone. With friends, at least you pump each other up and start feeling the vibe together. Alone, this would be pretty hard to do.

But for an advanced guy, I suppose it's okay. I mean, why not? It's not uncommon to go off by youself even when you are with friends. When you do this, YOU know that you're not alone, but other people watching you won't know it. So it's not really any different to actually being alone -- except in your own head (which for aan advanced guy is no big deal).

ps -- I'm not an advanced guy.

 

[flows101]

In a club you don’t have much time to talk because the chicks are all about getting drunk and dancing and just want to bump there buying tempter up up and up and the music is loud as ****, sooo what you can do is a kind of a short set method thing where you go around the HOLE club with really HIGH ENERGY chatting to people for no more then 2-3mins.

Guy: (use’s the CLAW)
Guy: heyyy you guys look sooooo cute (or cool) haha high 5s all round
Guy: so you guys having a good night
HBs: blah blah
Guy: blah blah good am having an amazing night, “wait”….. I don’t even know your names, what are your names
HBs: blah blha
Guy: cooool anyway see you around

Do this on as many sets as possible; when you see them again you can reengage them for another couple minutes until one set really hooks.

Note mate, for clubs you need to KINO (touch) a lot.

 

[snowdog]

That's some of the best advice i've read so far.

But what's the "CLAW"??

 

[Solarium]

I'm getting a lot of conflicting information whether to grind or not. Sometimes the girls get turned on by grinding against a boner. I mean what man wouldn't have a boner if he's dancing intimately with a person of interest? Why hide it... when you can show them your goods

 

[PRMoon]

There's only one thing you need to remember about picking up in a club, and that's don't go there with the intent on picking up. Go with the intent to have fun and live your life. The rest will work itself out.

 

[lookyoung]

A TIP FOR FLAKES THAT YOU MEET AT THE CLUB.

All us guys that go clubbing have run into situations were we get the girls #, we call her and then she never calls us back. SHE FLAKES.

I have have experienced this many times and have found a tip that may help. I have a few pictures on my phone were I look really good. After they flake on me I send them the pic. And I use a ****y funny line with the pic.

I use WTF Look at how sexy I am and no call back.

I recently thought of this yesterday and 3 girls that flaked on me responded after I sent them this text.

The advantage of doing this.
1. Girls are drunk and don't remember what you look like. refreshes memory.
2. Shows your confident.
3. Shows them you have a sense of humor.


Use this only after a girl flakes. And make sure you send her your best pic.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Man the "regurlar" chics in clubs are such ****ing *****s.

I love when they'll reject a nice looking guy and dance with the ugliest ****ing thug and look the guy they rejected right in the face and embarass him infront of all his freinds ..just cuz THEY feel insecure about THEIR looks.

I could understand how the average joe hates the club and turns around and becomes a complete dog because of it.

Any chic who doesn't understand why men act they way they do they need to hit up a joint in the big city.Seriously ......some club girls should be run over twice..

The club is just grinding,drinking,rubbing azzes and driving away with a drunken peice of azz..nothing more.You try to be a gentleman in there to the wrong hoe and they will eat you alive..

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I go alone sometimes.....just mix in with a group of chics.Usually I bump into people I meet so it's whatever..

I try not too I seriously don't recommend going alone unless you are very good at this game of ours..


About the Wolfpaks...Those are the ones that have the most fun.It depends really what type of guys you are,man...These types of chics are easy for me cuz i'm so laid back of a person and so mellow and open,it really shows.I don't come off as a threat to men for their women or as disinterested to the chics.

The last few times i've been clubbing i've had people invite me to hangout afterwards,I had a white chic give me a bottle of absolute and kiss me on my cheek and gave me her number,got a ride home from a model...so really it depends on the person....

It's about the vibe you give off...you know?And no i'm not big on talking at all...I don't know what it is.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I'm getting a lot of conflicting information whether to grind or not. Sometimes the girls get turned on by grinding against a boner. I mean what man wouldn't have a boner if he's dancing intimately with a person of interest? Why hide it... when you can show them your goods

If they are grinding infront of you, are grabbing your hand,shirt,and they've been griniding away all night..then yes..

I ask unless she's giving me the look "like come get this" ...I'd rather grind and let the chic grind on me than actually dance,unless it's real muzik like merengue,salsa,slow r an b you know..i aint dancing to reggateon or hip-hop unless i can get behind a nice juicy ass and dryhump it..