Picking up in Nightclubs - Tips?

[NickSCFC2000]

Don't think we have a topic about this, so thought I'd just make a thread for tips and discussion and whatever.

Any suggestions or tips from experience, how best to look, how to get a girl to show interest, how to dance that sort of thing...

I'm going clubbing tonight... but it's pure coincidence:rock:

 

[Docs]

Sure, I'll input.

- Eye contact, ESSENTIAL. They look, you look, you MOVE towards.
- Do whatever you do for an opening move (whether something you know is good, or you're testing)
- Dancing, I'm not fancy at it, I move with her, I USE MY HANDS, feel her arms, her waist, her legs, her hands, place her hands where you want them to be.
- Kissing, I neck. I'm a neck *****. I'll start necking relatively quickly, and I just go up and well..I'm in.

 

[ProDJ26]

Approaching is a must in clubs. Typically you will see different "groups" hanging out.

Group 1 - "Wall sitters"
these are the type of women who either sit back or lean against a wall while looking at the dancefloor. (My favorites to approach personally) They usually try to advoid the dancefloor at all cost.

Group 2- "Talkers"
Usually confused with the wall sitters. Talkers do just as the name implies! All they do is talk! This is good and Bad however as talkers tend to travel in groups of 2 or more. They like to have deep conversations in the club so ISOLATION is key.

Group 3- Attention HORS
Ahh the Attention HORS....The club is proably their greatest asset. Why? ATTENTION!!! These are the types of women who crave attention just to make themselves feel better. They are usually the ones Grinding or dance with at least 2 or more guys at once. They are also known to give out fake numbers or flee to the bathroom.

Group 4 - wolfpack
The wolfpack is the group of women who bring there friends (which can consist of men and women) to the club. Why? For protection! Often there female friends serve as ultimate b*tch shields and there male friends serve as ****blocks. Proably the toughest out of all the groups to hit on.

Group 5 - Socialist
These are the type of women who simply do not care what happens. If your brave like me and DOCS try kissing them on the neck for results.

PROS and CONS

- CONS
-Going alone
-Becoming a Watcher (sitting against the wall)
-Not Being Socialable
-Fighting (depending on the situation)
-Hitting On EVERY SINGLE WOMEN (you will seem desperate)
-Drinking (By this I mean literally hammered, a couple of drinks don't hurt)

+ PROS
+Eye Contact is a must
+Kino (free Invite to her body)
+Having a Wingman (although not needed but can help)
+When hitting on a woman in a wolfpack, its essential to hit on the ugliest
(the others will become jealous)
+Being friends with the bartenders (Free or lesser price drinks)

I leave it to the others to touch on anything I missed

 

[Fuglydude]

I always say this, and I'll reiterate...best way to pick up girls at the club is to just go out on the floor and jam by yourself. Make sure you look good and know how to dance...you dont' have to be great, but just make sure you hit the beats.

I did this last night, I didn't wanna pick anyone up cuz I already have a gf...and I just wanted to dance, but you'll have girls approaching u quite regularly, and many other girls giving you IOIs...whether or not you take it is upto you. As sadistic as it sounds, I actually enjoy rejecting girls that try to grind up on me...its like I know how guys feel when they get rejected, so I relish in giving it right back!

 

[Play the Game]

I know how guys feel when they get rejected, so I relish in giving it right back!

Revenge is a dish best served cold... mmm and tastes like tiramisu!

 

[lookyoung]

I have been clubbing regularly for about 12 years.. My Tips.......

1. Be a good dancer. Woman love to dance and if your good, this will lead to automatic kino. It is a great icebreaker.

2. Go with a good group of people. Don't go out with AFC's. Go out with wingman who have the same goals has you. Go out with guys that actually talk to girls. This will rub off on you and you will also start talking to girls.

3. Pop bottles- This is expensive but if you have the $$$$ and your pals do than this is a good way of hooking up with woman. Having bottle service improves your social status in there eyes.

4. Workout- Woman in clubs tend to be more pretentious than the general population. They tend to gravitate towards guy with muscles.

5. Kino her. When talking to a girl. Be sexual. Put your arm around her. Set the tone.

6. Develop Rapport- Find a common ground. Work, school, anything to get her to remember you.

7. Kiss her- I will often tend to go for a kiss when things are going good. There are plenty of ways to do this. One is after getting her # Say ok babe Nice meeting you and give her a kiss. Go for her lips. If she turns kiss her cheek. When kissing her lips do it soft and see how it goes. This can lead to a full makeout session if your good.

8. Call them within 1-2 days after getting number. IF you wait any longer than they may forget about you.. If a girl likes you it does not matter when you call. This is the dumbest rule of the PUA COMMUNITY. (3 day rule)

9. Guys always be aggressive but not desperate. Observe pick your spots, and be aggressive.

10. Be observant and learn. Learn what works for you and what doesn't.



11. Never go alone.... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser.

12. Don't let a girl that rejects you get you down. I have had a bad night at a club, and bam next thing you know I get lucky. it just takes one girl to turn a bad night into a good night.


These are my tips from my real life experiences.

 

[ProDJ26]

11. Never go alone.... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser.
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Kinda disagree with this one. I always get asked who I came with. And my reply I always the same, "Just moved hear this week from X"

 

[lookyoung]

Kinda disagree with this one. I always get asked who I came with. And my reply I always the same, "Just moved hear this week from X"

That is probably the best thing you can say if your clubbing alone. However it is still a no no.... Reason being if it was not than you would not have to lie about it.

 

[afc_2_dj]

11. Never go alone.... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser.

And my reply I always the same, "Just moved hear this week from X"

This is also a problem for me, I often don't really have a choice but to go alone. I do agree with the OP, as this surely makes you look like a loser, especially if social status/etc is so important. I have very little success and often wonder if this is a factor, though I have had success on my own and with friends or adopted friends that night.

The "just moved here" line is good, but will surely only work if you are somewhere you never plan on going again, or with someone you wont see again, I mean if you see her outside of the club, it will quickly come out that you have been there much longer than a week.

 

[Boschy]

Warning: I am a pretty good freestyle dancer...if there is a podium, I am there. But it has never resulted in a cold approach from a woman. So either I am dancing in a non-sensual way, the girls are intimidated, I am not attractive looking, it's an Aussie chick thing, I am going to the wrong clubs, or all of the above. I get compliments from clubbers who can dance well, but that's it.

My point is that dancing well on its own may not be enough, so do it for your own enjoyment first and foremost.

 

[Raikojo17]

Warning: I am a pretty good freestyle dancer...if there is a podium, I am there. But it has never resulted in a cold approach from a woman. So either I am dancing in a non-sensual way, the girls are intimidated, I am not attractive looking, it's an Aussie chick thing, I am going to the wrong clubs, or all of the above. I get compliments from clubbers who can dance well, but that's it.

My point is that dancing well on its own may not be enough, so do it for your own enjoyment first and foremost.

yea, ill have too agree. i seen the best dancers in dances never get approached. they jus get stared at in awe of ow sweet they r at dancing. do it for enjoyment, not to get girls.

 

[lookyoung]

yea, ill have too agree. i seen the best dancers in dances never get approached. they jus get stared at in awe of ow sweet they r at dancing. do it for enjoyment, not to get girls.

It is your job to ask the girl to dance. Get a good convo flow going, than take her out to the dance floor. If your a good dancer this will lead to more rapport. Woman love to dance and they love a guy who can dance......

Note: If you don't dance you can still get tail in the nightclubs. You can do this by being with a group of people and being good at small talk.

 

[ManiacJack]

If the girl is dancing, go with a mate and make some witty remark on how it reminds you of how your dad had danced at Aunt X's 40th birthday party...

Being with a mate is good for lots of things, and you can usually bounce stuff off of each other...

 

[violator]

Social proof is king at night clubs and in getting the inside track with the hottest girls. If you are surrounded by women, know the DJ/bouncers/bartenders, etc., it almost does not matter how you look, you are going to score big time.

 

[cuzza]

It's more of actions than words in a club... eye contact, smile, dance, etc. You can't 'chat girls up' since the music is simply too loud in most places to be heard without screaming in their ear...

 

[MightyMate]

I sometimes go alone but know so many people everywhere that i simple meet alot in club

 

[kdnash82]

I have been clubbing regularly for about 12 years.. My Tips.......


3. Pop bottles- This is expensive but if you have the $$$$ and your pals do than this is a good way of hooking up with woman. Having bottle service improves your social status in there eyes.

Ok... you do not have to spend a lot of money at the club to get girls to notice you. there are tons of things to be social proofed. these are some of the things I do.

get in good with the security and the bartenders. when you initally get in the club, walk around and carry a casual conversation with the security. if you do this enough, they'll remember you and if you just happen to get into a fight at the club, they'll kick the other guy out instead of you. also, they work the doors. every now and then they'll let you in for free. girls see these things and you're social proofed by simply carrying conversation.

get in good with the bartenders by going to the same bartender every time. they'll remember you and you'll get drunk for half the price. be sure to tip well though. i go to the same guy everytime. he remembers me by name and whenever i go to the bar, he uses my name. girls are aware of everything around them and when the bartender is saying "Hey's what's going on kdnash? Where you been? Haven't seen you in a while. Don't worry, it's on the house." they see this. I've also been given VIP wrist bands from these guys.

next, when you're walking around the club, smile. always be smiling. never stop smiling. girls are constantly looking around, and if you're not smiling when they look at you, it'll be too late to smile when you noticed that they looked at you. you want a girls first thought to be "He seems nice".

while you're walking around, say hi to random people. high five random people. no one turns down a high five. even if they don't know the reason behind the high five. this makes people believe that you're having a good time. in turn, they'll want to be around you having a good time. you're the guy that knows how to get the party started.

even if you don't know how to dance. move to the beat of the song. don't jump in the middle of the dance floor though. be on the outskirts and watch the situation. i'm sure you'll notice some girl on the dance floor watching you and every now and then glance in your direction. if you get these, go dance with the girl. even if you don't know how, follow her lead. mimic what she does. she'll believe you guys are sync'd. DO NOT GRIND! it'll give you a boner and you do not want to be poking some girl on the dance floor. she'll tell her friends. just don't do it.

i could sit here and go on and on about this. do a search on my blogs. most of them are updates on my experiences at the club. i've had my share of good nights and bad, so take what you can and don't make the same mistakes i did.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... And my reply I always the same, "Just moved hear this week from X"

This works wonders!

 

[snowdog]

DO NOT GRIND! it'll give you a boner and you do not want to be poking some girl on the dance floor. she'll tell her friends. just don't do it.

In what situation DO you grind with a girl then? When they're rubing their ass against my dick don't they expect me popping a boner?

I'm pretty unhandy when it comes to clubbing (because 1: i don't do it alot cause it costs a lot of money and 2: i hate the music in clubs). Where is the point that you start to grind with a girl? I got lucky to grind a few times in the past and it was great. But 9 out of 10 times it pisses chicks off or they'll get freaked out.

 

[logic1]

11. Never go alone.... This is a big no no. Sosuave says its ok. But if you tell a girl I am here alone, or if they suspect that your alone this will kill your chances. You will be seen as a loser

This is BS. I have never been to a club by myself where a woman has made the comment about me being alone. If you are doing things right she wont even notice. She will be to into you and the dancing and conversation to worry about who your with.

Sometimes I think going with a group can be a major distraction. When you are by yourself you dont have to worry about the distractions caused by your friends.