Cod3r said:
No I don't know what is going to happen with absolute certainty, but if I had money to bet.... I think u'd know which way I'd throw it eh ??
Look man, I'm not on here to bash you or anyone else k ?? I come on here to help guys like you out and from what I've learned is that guys like yourself don't learn when you are 'nice', it's just plain and simple fact bro...
In my opinion, once a person even begins to ask the questions that you are asking they become manifest in that persons actions and BL and ultimately lead to ruin. I can imagine how you come off to this female because you are displaying your internal thoughts eventho you say you are just 'messing around' you are thinking these things...
"Should I call Saturday ?? Oh no that's too long... she'll think blahhh"
"Wat about friday ?? Is that too early, omg she isn't gonna like me"
"Wat should i say, she didn't email me back... is this bad ?"
ect....
These internal thoughts are merely representations of your current life bro. You are nervous and you are a rookie at this, you can dispute me if you must but its obvious to me and to others as well. I don't set myself higher than you, because I came from where you come from... I've simply walked further down the path you're already on, I know from past experiences a hella lot of them that once I start to think like you are thinking, the end result is negative... PERIOD... whether she likes me or not isn't the problem, I and you and anyone else with thoughts like this DESTROY THEMSELVES...
I'll stop commenting on your threads from now on if that's what you wish, but i'm only trying to help you and not mislead you into thinking that you are anywhere near the path you need to be on. Plain and simply you are very far from being successful with women (as i've seen from your threads and posts) and if you want people here to tell you, "great job man"... "play it smoothe and she's yours" ... just for time and time again in the end for her to LJBF you or stand you up or do something equally fvcked up... that's on you....
I don't contribute to AFCism, so hey man... good luck
-Cod3r
Yes i understand what ur saying, but like i said for now those were just thoughts.
Can u be a little more specific as to what action(s) i took that would result in her losing interest? Almost nothing has occured so far. So i dont see what ur talkin about when u say "I think u'd know which way I'd throw it eh?? Your basis for this is what besides that i "thought stuff" on a sosuave forum?
I called her at work like she told me to on her work number. She was too busy to talk cuz she had to do some client stuff she said, so she gave me her cell by email (which she asked for). I told her i couldn't call her cuz my supervisor was training soemone right next to me today, so when she emailed me back her # i emailed her back to ask bout a drink next week, she said sure that sounds good. I said she looked like reese witherspoon, she replied with several LOL's in a few sentences. And that was the end of it.
So tell me again wat did i do wrong? I called, emailed her back, and then i waited a couple days and called on a sunday night and she was busy at a christening. So she said "i'll call ya back later". In reply, i said sure gimme a call.
So my pt is wat in actual real life did i do wrong? I dont think there was enuff interaction even, to turn her off.
Me typing stuff on the don juan discussion forum was just for kicks and curiosity thats just me, i dont take boards seriously. i use it for learning and entertainment so i just throw out as many dumb qustions as i can think of to see what u guys think and maybe learn something. i didnt actually spaz out in front of her at any pt. She liked me on the train, she gave me her work number and i called it. She then gave me her cell and i called that 2 days later. So what was bad about that? I thought i played it very cool. She prob either just hasn't gotten around to callin me yet being that she was at christening at 5:30 last night so it was most likely till 10-11:00 PM. and now shes at work.
Either that or she just plain changed her mind or got scared. Do u forget that some girls r shy or scared bout this kinda stuff? She did seem shy.
So whatever, u know wat. As u prob know from reading my posts. Im on match.com. I talked to a girl last night 5'9'' blonde, very cute, huge rack. She gave me her # without even asking and she told me to call her after she signed off AIM. I called her and we talked for 20 mins. She then texed me after we hung up to say "it was great talkin to u"
This morning she texted me again to say "hope u have a great day!"
Then she called at 12:00 PM and left a voicemail. Ok now this girl kinda seems insane i know. But my pt is these r girls r all so different. A girl whose really interested likes it when u call her in my experience. U act like its some exact science. To me if that train girl disqualified me cuz i "called her too soon" or "too much" - well then I don't want that. that's a shallow girl in my opinion. I have this female friend who thinks the opposite way. She went on a breakfast date with this guy recently on a first date, and he asked her out to dinner the same night! and she loved it. She keeps talkin bout him.
Now I personally dont think shes overly good looking but alot of guys think she aint bad.
So im starting to get skeptical about someof the advice on here.
