HelpYourself
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Let me say this isn't a one-it-is as I think about other women, find other women attractive, have dated women, would date other women. She's just my physical 10.
I didn't talk to her in high school. Different social circles. Didn't not get along either. Just would say "hi" to each other in the halls. She wasn't the hot girl. She had a bf, and most guys would have described her as cute/pretty/girlnextdoor, but she wasn't one of the girls guys fantasized about, including myself. I was busy worrying about the snobby hot girls. Yeah, I know, I know.
Anyway, I came across her myspace profile through mutual friends a couple years ago, and long story short, I went AFC on her. Before I went AFC, I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime, she said yeah, that she's busy at the moment but that she would love to catch up and would let me know when. Of course, I assumed she was just blowing me off nicely (turns out she wasn't. That's why I think the generalizations and women-bashing on this site, while true in a lot of cases, can come back to bite you in the a$$) and went all paranoid on her and asked her "Why can't you just tell me you don't want to hang out?"
The rest, you can imagine, I'm sure. I told her how depressed I was (I was really depressed at the time) and tried to guilt her into coming over my house or calling me, but of course I just scared her off.
Eventually I let go (a few weeks later), tried contacting her months later, you could tell she was still creeped out by the comments I had made months earlier. Tried contacting her months from then...this being in February...no response. Haven't tried since.
What I also didn't tell you was that when I was talking to her, she had a weight problem. And apparently she lost it for the most part (Anyone who wants to see the pic, I'll send in private message or AIM.) Now it's hard for me to take knowing my physical ideal, with the weight lost, is living down the street from me.
It's also hard to take that she's judging me based on bad online game, and not because she finds me unattractive.
The only thing I can do I guess, and I want to know if this is a good idea...is to befriend people she knows, and eventually, casually bring her up and see if the person can arrange something, that way it doesn't look obvious and she can just see "HelpYourself is hot and not a creep."
Any other ideas? And I'm also curious to see what you guys would rate her. I won't post it here for privacy.
I didn't talk to her in high school. Different social circles. Didn't not get along either. Just would say "hi" to each other in the halls. She wasn't the hot girl. She had a bf, and most guys would have described her as cute/pretty/girlnextdoor, but she wasn't one of the girls guys fantasized about, including myself. I was busy worrying about the snobby hot girls. Yeah, I know, I know.
Anyway, I came across her myspace profile through mutual friends a couple years ago, and long story short, I went AFC on her. Before I went AFC, I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime, she said yeah, that she's busy at the moment but that she would love to catch up and would let me know when. Of course, I assumed she was just blowing me off nicely (turns out she wasn't. That's why I think the generalizations and women-bashing on this site, while true in a lot of cases, can come back to bite you in the a$$) and went all paranoid on her and asked her "Why can't you just tell me you don't want to hang out?"
The rest, you can imagine, I'm sure. I told her how depressed I was (I was really depressed at the time) and tried to guilt her into coming over my house or calling me, but of course I just scared her off.
Eventually I let go (a few weeks later), tried contacting her months later, you could tell she was still creeped out by the comments I had made months earlier. Tried contacting her months from then...this being in February...no response. Haven't tried since.
What I also didn't tell you was that when I was talking to her, she had a weight problem. And apparently she lost it for the most part (Anyone who wants to see the pic, I'll send in private message or AIM.) Now it's hard for me to take knowing my physical ideal, with the weight lost, is living down the street from me.
It's also hard to take that she's judging me based on bad online game, and not because she finds me unattractive.
The only thing I can do I guess, and I want to know if this is a good idea...is to befriend people she knows, and eventually, casually bring her up and see if the person can arrange something, that way it doesn't look obvious and she can just see "HelpYourself is hot and not a creep."
Any other ideas? And I'm also curious to see what you guys would rate her. I won't post it here for privacy.