Physical Attractiveness took my HB away!!

[PEACEDJ]

WTH? I was doing good with this chick until last night when we went out to the movies and I brought my friend along and the whole time I was putting kino on her she was playful around me, touched me a lot of time and I could feel the tention rising.

Today I comehome and get online to finish up some work and then we started off right and she wanted to comeover and give me a massage and I told her no, then we went to the how did you like the movie question... after that she started mentioning my friend and goes he was hot, and I'm like wtf?!? but of course I kept my cool and said, "OH yeah!!"

I'm kinda pissed right now.. who do you think she's into I don't wanna take anything so seriously but from my point I lost this chick, damn!

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by PEACEDJ
WTH? I was doing good with this chick until last night when we went out to the movies and I brought my friend along and the whole time I was putting kino on her she was playful around me, touched me a lot of time and I could feel the tention rising.

Today I comehome and get online to finish up some work and then we started off right and she wanted to comeover and give me a massage and I told her no, then we went to the how did you like the movie question... after that she started mentioning my friend and goes he was hot, and I'm like wtf?!? but of course I kept my cool and said, "OH yeah!!"

I'm kinda pissed right now.. who do you think she's into I don't wanna take anything so seriously but from my point I lost this chick, damn!

You should NEVER bring other dudes with you on dates...YOu better zone him out...

 

[Julian]

She is trying to make you jealous, dont sweat it. You said no to the massage so she took it as a rejection and is trying to get under your skin. Apparently its working.


Peep this, this asian chick (what is it with these asian chicks wanting my nuts?!) Came into my work 2 weeks ago.

I already know that she wants me and she has told friends of mine things like "Hey me you and Julian should hang out sometime! Julian is hot blabla".

So she comes in and im chatting with her and i asked her about this party she was at a month ago. I didnt go because it was in like some dirty forested area. Well she was there and my homie was there and she was asking me homie about me and telling him to call me to go out there (which he did) but i refused. I eventually did go but alot of peeps already left by then.

Point is, while i was talking to her my friends name was mentioned and she was like "Ohhhh he's soo cute! I love him! blabla" ya know how girls do. Well i played it cool (because i actually could give a fucc less lol) and i talked my friend up by replying with "hell yeah thats my boy he's big pimpin like we always do!". She was trying to make me jealous and i could see right thru her litttle games.

Btw, why did you bring your friend on a date?

 

[Nathan]

She's definitely just trying to make you jealous, because her other signs indicate a high IL (ie., you're not stuck in the friend zone).

Your best bet is to follow the advice given and just play it cool. This will drive her even crazier.


Oddly enough, I've also learned that women sometimes LIKE to see a LITTLE (key word) jealousy. My girlfriend (I'm about to dump her because she calls me waaay too much, but we've been together for about 5 months now) sometimes gets really aggravated with me because she'll try to make me jealous and I don't care.

A woman likes to feel secure in her relationship, and sometimes feeling like she is "owned" (in a sense) by a guy gives her that. My point is that in LTRs, there is a balance you need to achieve. You have to make it clear to her that she is yours and you do not want her flirting with other guys and what not, but at the same time, retain your air of indifference (so she knows that if she DOES push the limits, you'll have no problem kicking her to the curb).

Of course, this does not apply in your situation. Just for future reference.

 

[Timski]

these replies r right on

she offered u a massage, u declined when she obviously didn't expect u to, so she tried to get back at u by talking about ur friend

so don't be pissed, if u played it cool, everythings fine,, she likes u

(but why did u bring a friend on ur date?)

 

[PEACEDJ]

Just to clear everything up I brought my friend because it was suppose to be a BIG group thing and we had lik 20 ppl there plus the dude wanted to get up with me for a while.

Oh and btw, her friends are very interested in knowing if I like her.. (no way in the right frame of mind am I going to tell those girls that!) I just told them that, "Men don't kiss and tell." All throughout the conversation with her, it seemed as if she wanted me to ask her out to be my g/f....?

Oh but in the end I can tell that it was attraction because she kept wanting me to say and wanted to talk to me.

Right now I don't really care what happens as long as I can stay happy and plus my friend doesn't even wanna know her and he lives 40 min. away.

 

[violator]

I would not worry at all. Women who tell you how hot or how cute a guy is usually are insecure in the relationship and want you to feel a little jealous.

This girl seems to be into you.

 

[Nathan]

Good thinking telling her friends "no."

It boosts the intrigue (and thus, IL) while at the same time showing that you have a backbone.

 

[Best friends? NAY]

She did it so you would get worried that she didn't like you making her more of a chalange, so you will like her. In essence she was dj'ing you?

 

[Thoroughbred]

She probably thought your friend was hot. No biggie.

 

[icepick]

Originally posted by PEACEDJ
WTH? I was doing good with this chick until last night when we went out to the movies and I brought my friend along and the whole time I was putting kino on her she was playful around me, touched me a lot of time and I could feel the tention rising.

Today I comehome and get online to finish up some work and then we started off right and she wanted to comeover and give me a massage and I told her no, then we went to the how did you like the movie question... after that she started mentioning my friend and goes he was hot, and I'm like wtf?!? but of course I kept my cool and said, "OH yeah!!"

I'm kinda pissed right now.. who do you think she's into I don't wanna take anything so seriously but from my point I lost this chick, damn!

Ahh! You dork!

This is what you were supposed to do man:

HER:"Your friend is a hottie!"

YOU:"Hey! You should bring one of your friends for him next time we go out."

You probably didn't "lose" her, she just wanted to let you know that he is good looking enough for one (or more) of her friends. If she was interested in him she probably would have asked you if he was seeing anyone, or some other batch of questions like that.

 

[PEACEDJ]

Yeah you guys are right, she seems like she's just trying to make me jealous... and I found out.. i'm not just messing with a normal type of girl..... this one REALLY knows ALOT about attraction.

Even though she seems flaky at times

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Dood your sweatin' this broad too much! Don't get too caught up in the hype before anything happens!!

I'm not saying she doesn't seem interested in you, because you should aways judge a girl by her actions and not by what she says. But when girl's say a guy is "hot" as opposed to a guy is "cute" it usually means 2 different things.


Either way it shouldn't matter because your friend lives 40 minutes away!! And I definitely agree with the jealous angle. Remember girls are 10,000x more jealous then men.


Don't get distracted, keep working your game.



PIMP

 

[CGE333]

Here what you should do, have your friend come over and then invite her over for a massage. Leave the room and see if she starts massaging your friend (I'm kidding here). She is just tyring to make you jealous.

The real question is why did you turn down the massage- that always leads to sex.

 

[IrReSiStIbLe]

Maybe your friend is... Pook. DOOM DOOM DOOM....

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by violator
I would not worry at all. Women who tell you how hot or how cute a guy is usually are insecure in the relationship and want you to feel a little jealous.

This girl seems to be into you.

TRUE TRUE, however usually these girls are high maintenance and not worth it, also attention who*es!

However she could possibly be into your friend, since you guys hardly know eachother.

Is your friend really good looking, and what about u, the honest truth? If he shi*ts all over you, she prolly likes your friend, sorry, but this is the truth.