Phone games: need DJ advice

[Matt Rogers]

I got a number from a girl at a bar after a 15 minute conversation, waited a few days before ringing her with a view of going to an icehockey game the following week (we are both fans). She seemed interested if not extremely enthusiastic, but said she might have work (she does a part-time job). I made the mistake of saying, well give me a ring when you find out.

She didn't call, so I called the next day only to get her answer machine. I called again the next day and got the answer phone, damn. I called another time later that day and gave up.
I didn't leave messages either time, as I really wanted to talk to her not her answerphone so we could sort it out.

It has been two days since my last phone call and she still hasn't contacted me even though she must have realised i was trying to get through to her.

Granted my chances are pretty slim and i made some tactical errors, but should i try another phone call and if so when

 

[jakeyboy]

oh man. you shouldnt have called and called and called day after day.

you should have waited for her to call you back though you already made an error there, and if she didnt, well, you could always ask another "piece on the side" to go with you, no harm done. it would have been her loss not to go with you anyway

keep your cool mate. and NO PLEASE DONT CALL AGAIN. i know its that phobia i get sometimes too, when you call the girl and she doesnt answer you get tempted to keep calling till she picks up

phew.

if she doesnt call you back, make other arrangements

 

[Dictatorsaurus]

Call her 20 more times. Then she'll really want to go out with you.

 

[Hollowpoint]

Don't forget to send lots of flowers, especially if she is allergic, it'll be funny. And show up at her house a lot!

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
Call her 20 more times. Then she'll really want to go out with you.

hahaha

 

[Don_Marko]

Whatever.... a big up fck you to all those guys who memorize a set of "rules" and think they know it all !!! It's really hard to get a girl interested in you after 15 minutes in a bar... even the pros at ASF have issues wiht 'flaking'. It's got nothing to do with you, but everything wiht people being hesitant to make room in their lives for strangers. I wouldn't expect this girl to call you and also I wouldn't give up on her just yet if you like her.... My advice is to call untill you get in touch with her... if you wanna see a hockey game and enjoy her presence then fight for it bro.

 

[Dictatorsaurus]

Originally posted by Don_Marko
Whatever.... a big up fck you to all those guys who memorize a set of "rules" and think they know it all !!! It's really hard to get a girl interested in you after 15 minutes in a bar... even the pros at ASF have issues wiht 'flaking'. It's got nothing to do with you, but everything wiht people being hesitant to make room in their lives for strangers. I wouldn't expect this girl to call you and also I wouldn't give up on her just yet if you like her.... My advice is to call untill you get in touch with her... if you wanna see a hockey game and enjoy her presence then fight for it bro.

Mr. Marko, I think you have been watching too many holywood movies where a guy busts his ass for a girl and ends up fvcking her in the end. Wake up man!! Showing interest in a girl is totally different from chasing her like a rabid monkey. Call her twice or maybe three times and thats it. The more you keep at it the more desperate you will appear.

The guy met a girl in a bar. Big fvcking deal. Girls meet 20 different guys a week at bars and half of them got her number. Make your attempt and if it doesn't work, just move on.

 

[jakeyboy]

Don_Marko

call her until she picks up to ask her out? you joking bro?

do that and see what happens, trust me on this one, i've been there. when i was a major C-H-U-M-P

i called and called and called. until i got in touch with her. damn was she creeped out and then you expect her to agree to go out with me after i just creeped her out by like calling a zillion times?

wow.

if you can pull that off, i say you da man.

 

[DeathDealer]

Okay, besides the point.. let's assess the guy's mistake

"He told the girl - give me a call when her schedule is open"

Usually when it's a first date, you should always be super flexible cause the first date is supposed to be flexible and casual.

But there are some problems.

Here is what I see:

1. She's not that interested in you.
2. You were indecisive.
3. The first meeting should be low key activity one.
4. You called too many times.

Her interest level is very low, I would move on.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Well actually I said "Let's go and see an ice hockey game on Sunday. "

She asked what time it was
I said 6.

She said "I have to work that night"

I said " Well call me when you find out whether you are free that night. otherwise we will arrange another time.

But I agree i called too many times, and that ice hocky game was a bit high pressure.

I am going to try one more call on Wednesday, leave a message if her answer phone is on, and then leave it in her court. If she doesn't reply then I am no worse off than I am now. If she is interested (1% chance) then it is cool.

 

[DoubleD]

Phone gaming still confuses me somewhat.. My latest particular case i have this SHB who I have called twice (over period of 2 weeks) and seem to always call at the wrong time.. i get sms's back from her saying "sorry.. been real busy.. hope we can catch up soon! Kisses SHB". Now if I was to follow the 2 times ONLY rule she's already out of my game. Fact is she is a SHB and men are in good supply for her.. so why should she call me? Am I really that special after meeting her once? HOT women have to be played differently.. you need some persistance.. but I agree that you can't go calling her 3 times a day.. that will kill it. There also needs to be a point where you call it quits. But generally be careful of the "well I called twice.. so no more" routine. Its not universal. Any comments welcome.

 

[Don_Marko]

Jakeyboy - all I'm saying is that it's better to call a zillion times and get a straight no, than stop half way and be wondering if you ever had a chance wiht the girl. Admitedly it's an uphill battle but still worth a shot. But for future refference block your number when you call so she doesn't know it was you... then you can get away with calling untill you reach her. Don't assume instead "make the ho say no" !!!!

Dictatorsaurus... exacly make ur attempt and move on, the move was never made cuz he didn't get a hold of her.


ANyways I guess this is beating a dead horse now....

Better luck next time Matt

 

[squirrels]

That "work schedule" thing is used pretty often as a cop-out.

Next time, tell her to ask for the night off...or check with her manager and let you know by xxxday.

If you don't hear from her by then, take someone else.

Don't take any "well, I may not know by then, blah blah blah" excuses. If she tries that, just tell her, "too bad...maybe we can get together another time. How about..." Even if her excuse is legit, you don't want to be waiting around for her to get back with you.

If she's interested, and you give her a reasonable amount of time to recontact you, she WILL recontact you in the time you allotted. I've had girls who have even called in sick from work to spend time with me.

Don't play "phone games." The phone is not for games.

 

[becker]

Just had this lame experience with a girl. She usually called me back, but I think that I got thrown into the phone game without really even trying to be, just because I didn't call her all the time after going out with her the first time.

She started playing sort of hard to get. She agreed to go out with me, and told me that she wanted to go out, and we even set up a second date, but she ended up having to flake because she had too much stuff going on in her life, which is true, but at the same time a bit sketchy Then she said we shouldn't do anything anymore.

Crazy. I haven't heard from her since.

 

[jakeyboy]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=62449

please read if you will. thanks. nuff said now

 

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, good post jakeyboy.

I phoned her this evening and left a message. She hasn't got back to me so I am giving up and moving on to another prospect.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Well, she actually replied to my answerphone message sending a text message saying "Sorry I haven't callled. I still want to go to the hockey game with you, but I have work on Sunday 4-10. What time is the game?"

I received this at 9 in the morning.
What shall I do now? I want to cool it off and make her wait for me to call her, as I came on far too strong initially.