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Don Juan
From [Zen-Articles]
Talking on the phone to a strange woman you met at the bar the night before can be awkward. Your primary goal is to make the conversation as light and fun as possible. Your secondary goal is to secure a date. Here are some tips to guide you along the way:
- Call the night after you get the number. The three day rule was invented by someone who never got laid.
- Bring up something you were talking about the last time you met. If you met her at the produce section of the supermarket, talk about how you just found the perfect watermelon or ask her how to tell if a cantaloupe is ripe or not since you just bought a bad one, or ask her if she's ever eaten something at the supermarket before she paid for it, etc.
- Have something witty to stay right off the bat. You need to break the ice again. Just because she liked you enough to give you her number when she was three drinks deep at Sharkeyz Bar doesn't mean she: a) is single b) actually likes you (maybe she just wanted to give you her number so you would leave) c) will agree to a date if you don't keep the conversation interesting on the phone.
- Keep it short, no longer than 15 minutes: "I'd love to stay and chat, but I'm swamped today."
- Don't leave voicemails. Its hard to not come off sounding needy or insecure on a voicemail unless your Inner Game is very solid (or you've been in sales for a while). For now, hang up when you get her machine and call back later. I like calling between 8 - 9 PM on a weekend or on a Sunday afternoon.
- If a roommate picks up, try talking to them and finding out something about them (connect with them [link]). It's a lot easier for you to secure a date if her roommates like you.
- Always assume she remembers you. When she answers the phone, simply say, "Hey [name], this is [your name]." Wait for her response. If there's a long pause or if she asks you who you are, say "You don't remember me? I saved your life from that pack of ninjas last night!" Don't tell her who you are, make her remember.
- Be standing, smiling and walking when you're on the phone. It boosts your energy and she will be able to pick up on your good vibe from the other end of the receiver.
- Leave on a high note if you can. As soon as you set up the date you should excuse yourself and hang up.
- Always be the first to say goodbye and the first to hang up.
- Don't be discouraged if she gave you a fake number, it happens even to the most seasoned of Players.
- At least at first, I recommend pre-scripting bullet points of what you want to say during the phone conversation. It eliminates those awkward pauses on the phone.
- You only call to set up dates. You don't call her just to say "what's up." In order for her to hear your voice she has to see you. That means no calls or texts in-between. Don't take calls or texts from her either (especially if she's a textaholic or at all needy). This quashes attachment (read: dependency) in both parties and leads to a freer, healthier, and more independent relationship.
- Good phone game is an art in-and-of itself, and for some it can be even more difficult to master than meeting women in real life. If this is the case for you, I recommend getting both her phone number and e-mail address when you initially get her contact information. Send a couple e-mails back and forth first before you make your initial call. Your conversation will go much smoother and your chances of getting a date will increase exponentially just because you've already established a baseline of comfort and trust.
Here's a template e-mail you can use after you get an e-mail address:
**************************************
Hey [Name], (if she has an e-mail address like CutiePrincessDancer84, make sure to address it to that name mockingly)
It was good meeting you last night! You were very cool, especially considering you had toilet paper stuck to your shoe the whole night... JUST KIDDING (I think it was paper towel).
Anyway, I gotta jet in a couple minutes but I wanted to let you know I was thinking about our conversation [insert previous conversation topic here] about finding the best produce in the supermarket and [since I'm a nerd like that] I found an awesome website that has a legend for picking the best piece of fruit! Here's the URL. You'll never have to eat an unripened melon again. You can thank me by bringing a fresh fruit salad over to my work, hah!
Hope all is well with you.
[Your name]
Talking on the phone to a strange woman you met at the bar the night before can be awkward. Your primary goal is to make the conversation as light and fun as possible. Your secondary goal is to secure a date. Here are some tips to guide you along the way:
- Call the night after you get the number. The three day rule was invented by someone who never got laid.
- Bring up something you were talking about the last time you met. If you met her at the produce section of the supermarket, talk about how you just found the perfect watermelon or ask her how to tell if a cantaloupe is ripe or not since you just bought a bad one, or ask her if she's ever eaten something at the supermarket before she paid for it, etc.
- Have something witty to stay right off the bat. You need to break the ice again. Just because she liked you enough to give you her number when she was three drinks deep at Sharkeyz Bar doesn't mean she: a) is single b) actually likes you (maybe she just wanted to give you her number so you would leave) c) will agree to a date if you don't keep the conversation interesting on the phone.
- Keep it short, no longer than 15 minutes: "I'd love to stay and chat, but I'm swamped today."
- Don't leave voicemails. Its hard to not come off sounding needy or insecure on a voicemail unless your Inner Game is very solid (or you've been in sales for a while). For now, hang up when you get her machine and call back later. I like calling between 8 - 9 PM on a weekend or on a Sunday afternoon.
- If a roommate picks up, try talking to them and finding out something about them (connect with them [link]). It's a lot easier for you to secure a date if her roommates like you.
- Always assume she remembers you. When she answers the phone, simply say, "Hey [name], this is [your name]." Wait for her response. If there's a long pause or if she asks you who you are, say "You don't remember me? I saved your life from that pack of ninjas last night!" Don't tell her who you are, make her remember.
- Be standing, smiling and walking when you're on the phone. It boosts your energy and she will be able to pick up on your good vibe from the other end of the receiver.
- Leave on a high note if you can. As soon as you set up the date you should excuse yourself and hang up.
- Always be the first to say goodbye and the first to hang up.
- Don't be discouraged if she gave you a fake number, it happens even to the most seasoned of Players.
- At least at first, I recommend pre-scripting bullet points of what you want to say during the phone conversation. It eliminates those awkward pauses on the phone.
- You only call to set up dates. You don't call her just to say "what's up." In order for her to hear your voice she has to see you. That means no calls or texts in-between. Don't take calls or texts from her either (especially if she's a textaholic or at all needy). This quashes attachment (read: dependency) in both parties and leads to a freer, healthier, and more independent relationship.
- Good phone game is an art in-and-of itself, and for some it can be even more difficult to master than meeting women in real life. If this is the case for you, I recommend getting both her phone number and e-mail address when you initially get her contact information. Send a couple e-mails back and forth first before you make your initial call. Your conversation will go much smoother and your chances of getting a date will increase exponentially just because you've already established a baseline of comfort and trust.
Here's a template e-mail you can use after you get an e-mail address:
**************************************
Hey [Name], (if she has an e-mail address like CutiePrincessDancer84, make sure to address it to that name mockingly)
It was good meeting you last night! You were very cool, especially considering you had toilet paper stuck to your shoe the whole night... JUST KIDDING (I think it was paper towel).
Anyway, I gotta jet in a couple minutes but I wanted to let you know I was thinking about our conversation [insert previous conversation topic here] about finding the best produce in the supermarket and [since I'm a nerd like that] I found an awesome website that has a legend for picking the best piece of fruit! Here's the URL. You'll never have to eat an unripened melon again. You can thank me by bringing a fresh fruit salad over to my work, hah!
Hope all is well with you.
[Your name]
