Phone calls

[becker]

Let me clarify, she did tell me during our first meeting that she was going to go visit her parents on the east coast soon. That's where she's from, and it's father's day so it fit perfectly. Sorry, didn't make that part clear.

Anyways, Legend, good post, I hear ya, and know where you're coming from. It's sometimes easy to lose that perspective, but in general I agree with you. Problem often comes from the fact that I haven't exactly been in the dating arena for a while since I broke up with my last girl. Sort of laid low for a while and chilled, not really ready to jump into anything else. I kept myself pretty busy with other stuff besides women, so it hasn't been on my mind.

This girl came along, and she's pretty awesome, so I'm going to see her some more. She's smoking hot too, which definitely makes it easier.

 

[qazwsx19]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Yeah I tell her I'll call her back.

Say it's Tuesday night and I call her. I get voice mail. *Click*! That's enough for the night. Call more and you will seem desperate.

Then maybe I'd call again on Thursday. Voice mail? *Click*! No more calls that night.

I wait until Monday. I call on Monday. Voice mail? Go ahead and leave a brief message. If she doesn't call you back throw away her number. She is clearly not interested!

There you go Becker. Hope that helps!

yeah never leave a message , and nly call three times ..and if she dont replay throw away the number

 

[everywomanshero]

I have to call more than once just to get her to call me back, which is a pain in the arse.

I was messing with a girl that has a killer body. She stopped returning my calls half the time. I had basically given up. Without my knowledge something really bad happened in her life. I decided to get busy and I was going to go for it. I was going to make her tell me to **** off or I was going to get her. I called more often and she agreed to meet me. When I got there, I didn't act like a nice guy. I found excuses to touch her. You know what? By the end of the night she was all over me and asking me about staying next weekend.

I say keep pushing until the girl says no. **** it, if it doesn't work, then she wasn't serious anyway. However, I am very cool about how I find excuses to touch. I also make sure to joke and talk alot. In this way, I come across as an outgoing person and it seems natural for me to be touchy to the girls. Try it. I bet it works

 

[mikel]

How does it add mystery? She is going to know you called anyway if its a cell phone or she has any sort of caller ID, might as well be man and step up and tell her to call you back on her voicemail. Chances are, leaving a voicemail or just leaving a missed call aren't going to change the outcome of this.

I think he didn't make a move, now he has waited to long and entered the friend zone. Girls are only going to wait on you so long to take it to a romatic level before they say 'next'.

Legend is right, do what you feel is right and you wont be acting desperate. Also, if you had more girls in the dugout then you wouldn't be hung up on this one. Get out and get more numbers and you wont worry about it.

 

[Legend]

becker sorry things didnt work out with your ex gf. Also thats good you laided low and just chilled for awhile. Everyone needs some time anyway for people to clear there heads. It sounds like you're all cleared up and moving on.

Im glad to hear that you knew about the girls trip before it happened. If not that would have been a big negative sign.

To be honest i was surprised seeing this post from you. You have given me great advice in the past. Sounds like your ex situtation knocked you down a little bit. It may feel like way but in the long run it def. makes you a better person.

You def. have the skills to keep this new HB.....dont blow it because of lack of confidence from your past relationship.

Good luck man

-John

 

[becker]

Originally posted by Legend
becker sorry things didnt work out with your ex gf. Also thats good you laided low and just chilled for awhile. Everyone needs some time anyway for people to clear there heads. It sounds like you're all cleared up and moving on.

Im glad to hear that you knew about the girls trip before it happened. If not that would have been a big negative sign.

To be honest i was surprised seeing this post from you. You have given me great advice in the past. Sounds like your ex situtation knocked you down a little bit. It may feel like way but in the long run it def. makes you a better person.

You def. have the skills to keep this new HB.....dont blow it because of lack of confidence from your past relationship.

Good luck man

-John

Hey, Legend, thanks for the support and advice, I appreciate it. I have to say that of all the relationships I've had, this last one knocked me flat on my a$$ because it threw all the rules out the window. I couldn't have chosen a safer girl to go out with, and this is the one that turned out to be the craziest one of all. Go figure. Needless to say it really turned me away from women for quite some time. It worked out pretty well because she left the country after we broke up, to go see the world. Since she wasn't even around, it was easier to just get her out of my head because I couldn't even see her if I wanted to.

Anyways, you definitely lose a bit of momentum when you step away from the dating scene for so long (it was about 3 months that I didn't do anything but maybe casually go out with a few girls who I treated as friends more than anything else). Strangely enough, it was these girls who seemed to show interest in me. Bad timing though.

This girl right now came at a great time, and we both just got out of relationships. We'll see what happens. I'm supposed to do something with her next weekend, after she gets back from seeing her folks. I'm playing it cool though, and I'm not planning on making too many moves until it is clear that she's interested, and I think even after that I'm not going to push for anything too serious. This girl is much older than my last one, who was pretty immature, and really seems to have a great head on her shoulders. Keep your fingers crossed for me!

 

[Legend]

hell yeah man....I wish you the best