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So im still relatively new to pick up but i have been reading a lot of stuff with the main purpose of working on my inner game. Im 24 and have been in love twice in my life and those relationships crashed and burned badly so i definitely have needed to work on myself. Also i have hit a point in my life where i wanna just meet a lot of girls. While i do lurk various forums, the bulk of the stuff i read and use is from fastseduction and david deangelo. And i dont spend a dime.
Now to the task at hand. The girl im interested in now is someone from art summer course on campus. Im 24 going on 25 and she is 20 going on 21...if age will help anyone reading this. When i first started the course two weeks ago i scanned the room and was def attracted to this chick right away. But for some reason whenever i saw her walking around i assumed she wouldnt be interested in talking to me. And let me be honest...my insecurity made me think that. But im progressing past that, and moved my focus onto this chick after getting the LJBF treatment from my hookup of the last few weeks.
So last week i noticed the girl from class added me on fb. Which surprised me since we had never even smiled at each other or anything before...so we exchanged greeting comments and then spoke on chat over the weekend. While we spoke she seemed to hint at wanting to chill sometime and mentioned that she liked hiking. So i said that we should def do that sometime and then before the convo was done she outright asked me if i wanted to hike in the mountains near campus after our next class. So i said cool. She seemed to be a go getter but i know i should learn to be more assertive myself. Esp considering whenever a girl chases me and doesn’t let me do the chasing, I tend to get less interested, even in this case.
So we got breakfast after class and then walked around the mountains/park for a couple hours and just talked and chilled, getting to know each other and what not. Then she asked me if i wanted to go with her to her friend’s house which was a few towns over because she had to help her friend move a chair out of her apt. Her friend is moving out soon and we ended up moving more than just a chair...which she apologized for...but i said i didnt care. I knew I had nothing to do all day because we live in the middle of boring suburbia and everyone’s gone home for the summer.
So we got that done around 8 and then we stopped at her place and ending up decided wed drink and chill out and play some nintendo 64 haha. I met her roommates etc Let me just mention that i had been using kino, flirting, and teasing during the day and things seemed cool. Anyways it was getting dark and she mentioned her friend was coming by and wanted to chill as well since he was leaving for colombia(the country) ina couple days. She went on to complain about how hes always been into her but she doesnt see him that way and that he mooches and is unmotivated. She flat out called him unattractive but nonetheless a friend despite his apparent feelings. She made it a point to tell me hed be sleeping on the couch since he was staying over after he made the long drive up to chill.
So he came by and was a chill dude but i obviously felt this tension because he had to know something was up with her and i. I mean we had witty banter going, teasing, play fighting, and tickling going on all day so I was letting things progress themselves. So at one point i needed to charge my phone and she asked him to check his car to see if his charger matched mine and while he was gone she leaned in and kissed me. And throughout the night whenever he left whatever room we were in, her and i would make out. And a few times when we kissed and id pull her into me suggestively she would always back up a bit and go “not yet, I just met you”. But trust me she was enjoying herself and initiated half the time.
Anyways i ended up leaving at around 2 am and she expressed interest in hanging out to study the next day but i made plans with my housemates and said id get back to her. So I was with her from 1pm in the afternoon until 2am. She was very chill so it just happened i guess.
So the next day she calls me to study but I was busy finishing things I had to do around town. Then I got home later than I said I would so when I called her she had to meet her gal pal. I called her a few minutes after that convo just to ask her if she wanted to go to the mountains and hike again today (Wednesday) and she said she was going with her chick friend but ask me if Id wanna come. So I said sure.
However she called me this afternoon and said shed call me in a half hour to let me know she was in town so we could carpool into the park, but that call never came. And I was a bit pissed because we had definite plans and had spoke about it in class and then on the phone after that. So for her to not call me back at all I felt was very weird. So I thought to write this and ask what you guys would do. Why make out with me all night one night, then make it sound like youd def like to chill again, but then flake?
I normally write off someone who disrespects me by flaking and not even calling to cancel…but then ive read some dudes say use the two strike rule, or some guys say that girls do this even when they like you. So im very confused. I do feel disrespected though, as if she couldnt give a flip about what I would think or that she doesnt care that I could have made plans to do other stuff given how hot, humid, and boring this area is during the week.
So im still relatively new to pick up but i have been reading a lot of stuff with the main purpose of working on my inner game. Im 24 and have been in love twice in my life and those relationships crashed and burned badly so i definitely have needed to work on myself. Also i have hit a point in my life where i wanna just meet a lot of girls. While i do lurk various forums, the bulk of the stuff i read and use is from fastseduction and david deangelo. And i dont spend a dime.
Now to the task at hand. The girl im interested in now is someone from art summer course on campus. Im 24 going on 25 and she is 20 going on 21...if age will help anyone reading this. When i first started the course two weeks ago i scanned the room and was def attracted to this chick right away. But for some reason whenever i saw her walking around i assumed she wouldnt be interested in talking to me. And let me be honest...my insecurity made me think that. But im progressing past that, and moved my focus onto this chick after getting the LJBF treatment from my hookup of the last few weeks.
So last week i noticed the girl from class added me on fb. Which surprised me since we had never even smiled at each other or anything before...so we exchanged greeting comments and then spoke on chat over the weekend. While we spoke she seemed to hint at wanting to chill sometime and mentioned that she liked hiking. So i said that we should def do that sometime and then before the convo was done she outright asked me if i wanted to hike in the mountains near campus after our next class. So i said cool. She seemed to be a go getter but i know i should learn to be more assertive myself. Esp considering whenever a girl chases me and doesn’t let me do the chasing, I tend to get less interested, even in this case.
So we got breakfast after class and then walked around the mountains/park for a couple hours and just talked and chilled, getting to know each other and what not. Then she asked me if i wanted to go with her to her friend’s house which was a few towns over because she had to help her friend move a chair out of her apt. Her friend is moving out soon and we ended up moving more than just a chair...which she apologized for...but i said i didnt care. I knew I had nothing to do all day because we live in the middle of boring suburbia and everyone’s gone home for the summer.
So we got that done around 8 and then we stopped at her place and ending up decided wed drink and chill out and play some nintendo 64 haha. I met her roommates etc Let me just mention that i had been using kino, flirting, and teasing during the day and things seemed cool. Anyways it was getting dark and she mentioned her friend was coming by and wanted to chill as well since he was leaving for colombia(the country) ina couple days. She went on to complain about how hes always been into her but she doesnt see him that way and that he mooches and is unmotivated. She flat out called him unattractive but nonetheless a friend despite his apparent feelings. She made it a point to tell me hed be sleeping on the couch since he was staying over after he made the long drive up to chill.
So he came by and was a chill dude but i obviously felt this tension because he had to know something was up with her and i. I mean we had witty banter going, teasing, play fighting, and tickling going on all day so I was letting things progress themselves. So at one point i needed to charge my phone and she asked him to check his car to see if his charger matched mine and while he was gone she leaned in and kissed me. And throughout the night whenever he left whatever room we were in, her and i would make out. And a few times when we kissed and id pull her into me suggestively she would always back up a bit and go “not yet, I just met you”. But trust me she was enjoying herself and initiated half the time.
Anyways i ended up leaving at around 2 am and she expressed interest in hanging out to study the next day but i made plans with my housemates and said id get back to her. So I was with her from 1pm in the afternoon until 2am. She was very chill so it just happened i guess.
So the next day she calls me to study but I was busy finishing things I had to do around town. Then I got home later than I said I would so when I called her she had to meet her gal pal. I called her a few minutes after that convo just to ask her if she wanted to go to the mountains and hike again today (Wednesday) and she said she was going with her chick friend but ask me if Id wanna come. So I said sure.
However she called me this afternoon and said shed call me in a half hour to let me know she was in town so we could carpool into the park, but that call never came. And I was a bit pissed because we had definite plans and had spoke about it in class and then on the phone after that. So for her to not call me back at all I felt was very weird. So I thought to write this and ask what you guys would do. Why make out with me all night one night, then make it sound like youd def like to chill again, but then flake?
I normally write off someone who disrespects me by flaking and not even calling to cancel…but then ive read some dudes say use the two strike rule, or some guys say that girls do this even when they like you. So im very confused. I do feel disrespected though, as if she couldnt give a flip about what I would think or that she doesnt care that I could have made plans to do other stuff given how hot, humid, and boring this area is during the week.
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