Perhaps the secret is to not care?!

[Demonicale]

At 30 I've had one girlfriend that last like 2 months. And while i consider myself to be average in looks, with a huge amount of confidence and no trouble talking to women. I'm not pulling in the results i desire.

What i am noticing, that the guys who aren't as good looking or confident getting all the women. And i ask myself "wtf?" ... and i swear it's because they just don't give a ****, and don't see women as that big of a deal.

Maybe all this time, us guys who have got game, but don't get the women we want is because we care too much?.

Maybe I'm just talking ****?!.

 

[Kidquick]

Women are the most interested in men who's feelings are unclear. Being a challenge and maintaining an air of mystery are some of the core tenants of attraction.

 

[spiegel549]

The whole "I don't give a fcuk" attitude I feel a lot of people take out of context. Yeah you can't show that your really needy and desperate but you have to show interest.

At 30 I am sure you have a job where you are making money (hopefully saving) and pushing to go even higher up the ladder and make MORE money!

You said you are confident with women. That's FANTASTIC. You seem like you have the mindset, maybe its time for a change with some other things!

-Been going to the SAME places? Try some new spots
-Do you normally game women at night? Try some approaches during the day! I get MUCH better responses during the day then at night (they don't expect it then)
-Do you talk to ALL women, fat, short, skinny, hot, ugly JUST to practice your game? If not you should! On average I talk to 3-8 girls a day. Doesn't mean I am getting phone numbers and banging them but the MORE you practice talking to the opposite sex the less you will start to care.

It sounds funny but because I practice talking to ALL and ANY female I can literally have a conversation with any female and not care about the outcome. I don't care if she is 400lbs or a Supermodel. I really don't care about the outcome because I know I am going to meet another 8 new girls tomorrow lol. You start to develop an "aura" if you will and they pick up on that...they start to "open up" to you and show that they are interested with little signs that women do. If the interest is there you pull the trigger. Don't just focus on 1-2 females on a weekend, talk to EVERY SINGLE MOVING LIVING BREATHING WOMAN YOU CAN!! EVERYDAY!

I have conversations with fat house wives at the super market all the time and I have a blast, who cares!? lol.

Like a lot of men say on this site. --->> Either they are interested or not. Simple as that.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Women are for entertainment and reproduction. So I only deal with women who can entertain me (since I'm not trying to have kids just yet).

YES.. I believe you care a little too much. Women can pick up on even hint of desperation. If she senses you need her approval her p*ssy will dry up like burnt toast.

Also.. its not all about being confident and fun --> Its also about having something she wants / needs.

Women are ultimately out for PROFIT when dealing with men. They are out to TAKE from him. It can be resources, experience, security, genetics, attention, commitment, etc. But the woman must believe the man has something valuable she can profit from. Smart men use their "value" to f*ck women without actually giving her what she is really after. This is likely what these men who "don't give a f*ck" are doing to get so much success --> Lying their asses off :yes:

And why not? If you don't give a sh!t about women.. then you don't give a sh!t about lying to them.

 

[Mr Wright]

It's all about the power balance.

At the start whether you like it or not, nature dictates that men will care more because they approach the woman. As far as she is concerned you could be a piece of sh!t on the ground. So that means after you do approach her, as soon as she shows some interest in you flip the script get her to chase you, it sounds counter intuitive but we are wired to desire the things we cant have. If you then walk away from the girl, she may not chase you but in her mind shes going all Titanic, blowing her little whistle and whispering "come back" and sh!t. If you're the most interesting guy she speaks to all night she will remember you when you go back later, it'll be easy, especially if shes seen you talking to other women.

At the start it will be hard to do because you do not trust the woman will come back to you but she will, this is all I do in clubs. Walk up to the girl I find the hottest, flirt and tease her hard for five minutes. Play smart and they will come.

Long term, I actually allow myself to care a bit because I went through a stage where I felt nothing towards girls and it worried me, so I dont block out the emotions anymore and it feels a lot better. Long term you just need to know that you have options, thats it.

 

[The_411]

It's not about not giving a damn but rather not giving a damn about women.

"Desperation is a stinky cologne."

The key is care about that which you can control and not care about that you can't.

 

[Darth]

Yes, not caring about what other people think about you is attractive to women.

Exhibit A: Dean Martin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jc-WFPHcvGY

 

[G-Source]

You probably obsess about keeping them and it shows in the way you act and talk even if you don't notice it. Try to relax a bit, and enjoy the relationship. Have fun, keep it interesting and at the same time, try to deepen the connection.
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