I wish I could say you’re wrong but you aren’t. During my last breakup had a couple of family members actually take surprising stances towards me regarding my decisions with the ex and how I felt. Looking back I shouldn’t have mentioned to them at all. I guess situations can vary but I’d agree with you overall and going back wouldn’t have involved my family at all.
YES! Folks can literally attack you for getting fvcking attacked! People have narcissism too, even in your family. So let you come outside of the "zone" they allow your image into, they will get PISSED and try to correct it.
I also stayed friends with my old marriage counselor from years ago. We joke about how bad a job she did since my ex-wife and I obviously got divorced, but it wasn’t the counselor’s fault. I still talk to her about life in general and she’s actually much better for this type of thing than family because she has such a detached, non-biased outlook on it and she can be brutally honest with me. You’re spot on.
One of the female dating coaches mentioned an 80/20 rule. The 80/20 rule means the man or female your with usually has around 80% of what you need. Others have the 20% but not the 80%. So the 80/20 rule came about to explain that there is usually some extra that is nice to have. But if you have the 80 you should be grateful. On the show they joked and preaching to the females to date the 80 and the 20 at the same time. So the 80 is the one guy who cares about her, more emotionally supportive, more stable, will help financially and consistent. And the 20 is unreliable. Doesn't care just there for sex. Fun to party with but toxic overall. Wont help her.
Indifference. She will be indifferent to you. Irrelevant. Insignificant.
In general the "ex back" industry is a SCAM. But we never gave DJ dating advice on it. Say you get cheated and your advised to break up with her. Move on with your life. Get several new females. Your not allowed to deal with ( no calls, texts ) her unless shes coming thru for sex. They always come back sniffing around later after you got yourself into a good situation.
Agree 100%. Woman does something very disrespectful (especially cheating), she's gone. Not even having a conversation with her about it.
There is a sort of "logic" involved. The logic of emotions. And the logic of situations and manipulation.
Not the kind of logic these marriage counselors knew, and were trained for.
My counselor had street smarts. She knows.
yes, for the howto part I found the book recommend "practicing the power of now" by Eckhart Tolle to provide a mechanism to be able to do it. it was a recommended title from this formum.
This exactly!
This is so true
You'll learn their social fabric will allow the "sky is cyan" viewpoint and they saw a UFO right after the sun set. They usually have people outside of themselves which help to maintain this rewritten history.
They lie and twist so much.
