People who don't call back.

[itishe]

I noticed something last night, it's something I've thought about sub-conciously in the past, but it really hit me last night. A good deal of my non-close friends don't call me back when they say they will.

For instance, I called a friend I party with occasionally and he was working. I told him of a party, and he sounded very interested. He said he'd call me after work. Twenty of minutes after his shift, no call so I call him back and he's still working. I call a few other friends to see if anyone else wants to go. About ten minutes of phone calling I call one of my friends who happens to work at the same place as this kid, and he tells me everyone got off work just a minute ago so I expect a phone call soon. He never called. My friend who told me everyone got off work never called me back either.

I'm not trying to win some popularity contest here, but if a man tells me he's going to do something I expect his ass to do it.

 

[Macca]

yep I've had the same in the past! Try this: don't call them or speak to them for a week or 2 ...they'll start calling you to see what you've been up to etc. If they don't then they are not your friends!

Don't chase after people, deny them what they deny you...popularity!

 

[DJDamage]

I'm not trying to win some popularity contest here, but if a man tells me he's going to do something I expect his ass to do it.

Your friends are exectly like you.

Everyone has selfish interests. Your interest was to hang around your friends, while your friends interest was to do something else, so as a matter of fact it is a popularity contest and being selfish, since your happiness and fun depends on whether or not your friends show up. If you had something better on your plate that night , you wouldn't choose hanging around your friends either.

The point of all this is what you decide to do that night or any other night, should not be decided on whatever your friends show up. You should already have a mindset on what you want to do that night and do it regardless if your friends show up or not. Happiness is depended on what you do, not what your friends do. Friends just increase your happiness but you can't depend on them solely for your happiness (this concept also apply to women you choose to date).

 

[itishe]

Macca I think I know these "friends" are just that, "friends"

They never call unless they know I'm at a party/having fun and want to go along.

P.S. DJ Damage, thanks.

 

[LA_Chico]

yea bro, real buddies call u back

 

[Mental]

I noticed something last night, it's something I've thought about sub-conciously in the past, but it really hit me last night. A good deal of my non-close friends don't call me back when they say they will.

For instance, I called a friend I party with occasionally and he was working. I told him of a party, and he sounded very interested. He said he'd call me after work. Twenty of minutes after his shift, no call so I call him back and he's still working. I call a few other friends to see if anyone else wants to go. About ten minutes of phone calling I call one of my friends who happens to work at the same place as this kid, and he tells me everyone got off work just a minute ago so I expect a phone call soon. He never called. My friend who told me everyone got off work never called me back either.

I'm not trying to win some popularity contest here, but if a man tells me he's going to do something I expect his ass to do it.

I get the same thing. It's odd, but I think all my friends are interested in only hanging out once every 3 to 4 months, the amount they call back.

If someone tells me he's going to do something, I expect him to do it.

Bingo. I expect the same.

Women especially are horrible at this, which makes me doubt their friendship. I've got some women friends who NEVER go out with me. I'm only invited about twice a year to something, and if I can't make it, THEY get annoyed... I schedule certain friends for once a month or so. And I alternate between groups, so they have an option to hang out with me once a month. They've never taken me up on it (ok, once, about 2 years ago), and yet expect me to come and run when they decide it's convenient. Forget it.

There are friends who don't call. There are friends who will drop you the second they start dating (duh), there are friends who won't call for months on end (some even years) and out of the blue, they're "your friend" again. Riiiiiiiiiiight.

So, they're on my "do not call" list. Lol. I'm tired of calling them. And if I'm busy, so what if they're upset? They can call me up with those little fingers of theirs (that only get a work out by calling their friends that they actually care about), and ask me for a change. Oh well.

I make time for friends. Being social is important to me. I own my own business. I could waste my time making up excuses about being busy (hey, I AM) like they do, or go out anyway.

Some people just have no clue.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I'm not trying to win some popularity contest here, but if a man tells me he's going to do something I expect his ass to do it.

Here comes Last Man Standing "Hostage intervention extxradonaire" to the rescue ....Alright kid, put the knife down and back away - we don't want anyone to get hurt!! Calm down...everything is going to be ok...it's not worth hurting anyone over a unreturned phone call...this is only a temporary setback - you have to think about your future..the life with your future children and Hor. errrrrrrrrr, I mean, wife!! It'll get better...just hand me the knife and we can all go back home and watch TV and watch our fat wifes get bigger!!! Everythung is going to be OK...everything is going to be ok...

 

[itishe]

Now that we got the random irrelevant post out of the way..

 

[itishe]

It's weird. Ever since I broke up with my ex it seems like I have less and less friends calling on a regular basis, feels like I'm always calling them and they never want to do anything/don't have money/etc.

Have I become a loser or what?

 

[Raikojo17]

i'm this way with my friends. they call me, i hardly ever call them. it's jus cuz im not a big phone person, and i see them almost everyday so no need to constant communication. doesnt mean that i dont think they deserve my time or i dont like them or that we're not friends anymore. but when they do call i give them my time. dont take it so personal man, even sumtimes when my friends say they will call back later, they dont. i dont take it too personal. i have other stuff i could be doin instead of waiting by the phone all day

 

[Charm]

You just haven't met the right kind of friends yet. I've gone through probably 100 people in the last 10 years that I considered a friend of some kind that hung out with me for various reasons (social, intellectual, common interest, etc). The ones that stick with you and turn out to be best friends and do actually call you back are the ones that see a high-value in being your friend. For me, these are friends who share a common belief in healthy living (being at the gym), having a successful career or giving it your best shot, being active and doing new things (culture). Don't limit yourself to the friends you have now, go out and meet people at social places and eventually you may find people you get along with well.