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[JohnElDonJuan]

Yo whats up everyone,

Is it me or is it that the more and more I read the more I seem to end up disagree-ing with some of the concepts on this board? It seems people are too easy to next and no one has patience for women come on if you next every girl that's not perfect how are you ever going to date anyone. I believe when you date a person your not only dating them but their bad habits too and everyone has them even :you:. correct me if im wrong but I believe when your looking for THE ONE you should find a girl with bad habits you can put up with your whole life(or a portion of your life) not a girl with no bad habits because if you find none shes probably hiding a really ugly person inside. So remember girls with a few bad habits should not be automatically be nexted just the ones that cross the line of respect and cheating.

also stop *****ing about women with emotional baggage because every single guy on here has it or they wouldn't be here.

 

[Starman]

I think some of the guys are a little too trigger happy with "nexting" chicks..I dont think they consider that the girls in question are somewhat special to them..and apply the zero tolerance of disrespect in Nexting

Surely, a real man wouldnt tolerate ANY disrespect from a woman or anyone for that matter

any yes, everyone has flaws/bad habits..but I dont agree that you should just accept or "tolerate" other people's habits..because eventually when your tolerance wears low..the $hit will hit the fan

 

[DJ Jr.]

Yea, I agree I think it boils down to alot of different age groups...Highschool kids can NEXT a girl anytime because theres dozens more for them to move on to.

College kids can Next even easier because theres hundreds they can move on to.

But once you start getting older and tired of picking up women in bars your options are much more limited. I think how fast you next is directly relative to your age group and surroundings.


Its not to say you should ever stick around if a woman is disrepecting you because that will only make you seem desperate but if you think your going to find a 'perfect' girl and so you NEXT the one your with because her little toe is longer than her middle toe then your going to lose out in the long run.

Besides by keeping them around you can practice your DJ techniques and only become a better person from it as long as you can keep your emotions under control. Especially on the LI level ones

 

[JohnElDonJuan]

I believe it shouldn't be tolerated 100 percent maybe warn the girl about the habit but don't I don't believe you should next people over it either. We got bad habits too and if we are talking about relationships. A habit be it bad or not that people hid in the first few dates will eventually come through when they get comfortable, come on it's a relationship theres some pluses and minuses I am just saying as you accept the pluses you should try and tolerate the minuses. maybe if it's a habit you really can't stand nexting would be understandable but nexting a girl just because it was a habit a person on this board can't stand shouldn't automatically make it a reason for you to start to hate it either, thats if you could tolerate it in the first place. Again im not saying you should tolerate disrespect....

For example a poster on here, forget his name, posted about a girl not talking about him and everyone called her an attention *****. I say if she still puts out in the end and still shows affection everythings cool. It seems no one practices persistence too, they easily confuse it for one-it-is.

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Yin-Yang

Originally posted by Starman
any yes, everyone has flaws/bad habits..

What was that one saying...

The devil himself has no shadow.

 

[Starman]

most of the women the guys write about in here are flakes who dont return phone calls, play mind games, use guys , or send mixed signals (flirting with them one day..then ignoring them later)

these are all reasons to NEXT them..Im not sure if you consider those "bad habits" that should be tolerated..but life's too short..and the abundance of woman too MANY to be sitting around tolerating b.s. from one women

 

[TesuqueRed]

As for next'ing--IMO--there's what I think of HARD next'ing and SOFT next'ing.

The difference is that a HARD next means you cut off any thought of getting with her, move on, and reject any future opptys to get with her or overtures for attention from her.

SOFT next'ing is a mental shift--kinda like letting a bad pitch go by and waiting for a good one to come along. You 'soft' next girl #1 if she's getting flakey and move to girl #2. If girl #1 realizes she overplayed the bit and comes back around, see what she's about. Or maybe girl #1 is in a confused place (between guys) or needs a little pursuing but isn't really biting that night or that week. Move on, but don't close the door here.

Usually I have a sense from a guy's post which one he's thinking about here (or I think I do.) Being ready to move on (a soft next) is often a good thing since it goes a long way towards taming any desperation you might show. This isn't necessarily a slam-the-door-forever next.

-- I dunno, does that offer anything to the next'ing question--???

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by Starman
most of the women the guys write about in here are flakes who dont return phone calls, play mind games, use guys , or send mixed signals (flirting with them one day..then ignoring them later)

these are all reasons to NEXT them..Im not sure if you consider those "bad habits" that should be tolerated..but life's too short..and the abundance of woman too MANY to be sitting around tolerating b.s. from one women

Ironically though, these reasons you cite, are EXACTLY the thing we are tought to do right here on this board. What if we all got nexted for playing the game? Nah, I suggest raising the stakes a little before you overtly NEXT them. Not all girls are clueless to these games. And some again, just want to protect themselves from being hurt. Play the game before you next.

 

[bugsquish]

Tesque, that's perfect. Soft nexting.... hmmm

 

[DJ Jr.]

Ya I am soft NEXTing a girl right now LOL