I am going to try to document more of my approaches and field reports here. This is mostly for me, but also hoping others can benefit if anyone cares to read them. Feel free to comment with any critique, feedback, whatever.
I'll try to update this fairly regularly. Both good and bad. Won't do all of them, though. Ok, here we go:
Went out Saturday night with my buddy, his new girl, and 2 of his friends. I was frustrated with some recent nights out of no (good) approaches, so I was pretty pumped to try and reverse that. Right away, we are walking towards these two really cute girls (a 7.5, and an easy 8 in my book). I'm trying to listen to what they are saying and one of them asks the other where this bar is. So as I was walking by, I said "it's this way. I'm on my way there right now". So we start talking a bit and the hotter one (Megan) starts pushing me by my arm and saying she's gonna "fvck me up" if I'm lying to her, and asks if I can take them there. I said "only if you two can hang with us doing shots". Megan tells me it's her 21st birthday and she's meeting friends at this bar, and they start following me.
Get to the bar and there is a line. I start stepping up the kino a bit. Putting my hand on her lower back as I'm talking to her, playing with her necklace, etc. She's not moving away at all, at one point starts rubbing my back, my arms, and my head. She randomly mentioned that her boyfriend just broke up with her. Then one of my buddy's friends tried to c0ckblock me and busted in on the convo, but she wasn't having it. Kept talking to me, telling the bouncer she just made a new friend and he needs to let me in with them. Didn't work. He said he couldn't let 7 people in at once, and I didn't wanna be that desperate dude ditching his friend like that for a girl he just met. So, she grabs my hand and tells me to come find her in the back.
We finally get in there and I'm just walking to the back, see her on the way and just kinda tickle her side. She turns and gives me a hug, and I just kept walking past her. She followed us, so I talked to her for a minute until she went back to her friends.
Little while later she comes back over where me and the two guys my buddy brought were standing. Now, these two guys are both insanely ripped and have girls constantly telling them how hot they are. So, the other guy tried c0ckblocking me this time. This is the bigger, better looking guy. I'll be honest, I thought my chance was gone at this point. Next thing I know, she's grinding her ass against me, dancing with me, and completely ignored him. We all got on the subject of those shots we were talking about, and she said she wanted a birthday shot. Gold-Digger red flag started creeping in, so I made sure to be careful here.
After some talk, I told her I would get the first round, grabbed her hand and lead her to the bar. Turned to her and said "Only problem... I only buy shots for girls that are good kissers." She gives me this little smile and says "So, you are saying you want to kiss me?" and I just said "Hey, I'm just following the rules..." So she gives me a peck on the lips. I asked her if she was my grandma, and what the hell that was. Bartender asks me what I want so I ordered the drinks, turned back to her and said "I can easily give this to my buddy, I know he's a good kisser". She laughs, grabs the drink, we take the shot and she says to me "I really shouldn't, though. I have a boyfriend." I said to her "We just met, and you are already lying to me? You told me outside you just broke up" and she's like "but we still love eachother". So I give her this little smile and went in for the kiss, she grabs me and starts making out with me.
So she heads back to her friends, I head back to mine. We decide we are going to head out. I knew this chick wasn't leaving her friends, so it was time to move out. So I start walking by her and she says "Are you leaving!?!?!" and I said "yeah, what's your number?" and she takes my phone and puts her number in.
What I learned:
- Stop thinking and start doing. Too many times when trying to open I sit back and debate what to say, how to say it, when to say it. When I do what I did here and simply rush in the second I have an opportunity, it always ends better. Just need to stop psyching myself out.
I'll try to update this fairly regularly. Both good and bad. Won't do all of them, though. Ok, here we go:
Went out Saturday night with my buddy, his new girl, and 2 of his friends. I was frustrated with some recent nights out of no (good) approaches, so I was pretty pumped to try and reverse that. Right away, we are walking towards these two really cute girls (a 7.5, and an easy 8 in my book). I'm trying to listen to what they are saying and one of them asks the other where this bar is. So as I was walking by, I said "it's this way. I'm on my way there right now". So we start talking a bit and the hotter one (Megan) starts pushing me by my arm and saying she's gonna "fvck me up" if I'm lying to her, and asks if I can take them there. I said "only if you two can hang with us doing shots". Megan tells me it's her 21st birthday and she's meeting friends at this bar, and they start following me.
Get to the bar and there is a line. I start stepping up the kino a bit. Putting my hand on her lower back as I'm talking to her, playing with her necklace, etc. She's not moving away at all, at one point starts rubbing my back, my arms, and my head. She randomly mentioned that her boyfriend just broke up with her. Then one of my buddy's friends tried to c0ckblock me and busted in on the convo, but she wasn't having it. Kept talking to me, telling the bouncer she just made a new friend and he needs to let me in with them. Didn't work. He said he couldn't let 7 people in at once, and I didn't wanna be that desperate dude ditching his friend like that for a girl he just met. So, she grabs my hand and tells me to come find her in the back.
We finally get in there and I'm just walking to the back, see her on the way and just kinda tickle her side. She turns and gives me a hug, and I just kept walking past her. She followed us, so I talked to her for a minute until she went back to her friends.
Little while later she comes back over where me and the two guys my buddy brought were standing. Now, these two guys are both insanely ripped and have girls constantly telling them how hot they are. So, the other guy tried c0ckblocking me this time. This is the bigger, better looking guy. I'll be honest, I thought my chance was gone at this point. Next thing I know, she's grinding her ass against me, dancing with me, and completely ignored him. We all got on the subject of those shots we were talking about, and she said she wanted a birthday shot. Gold-Digger red flag started creeping in, so I made sure to be careful here.
After some talk, I told her I would get the first round, grabbed her hand and lead her to the bar. Turned to her and said "Only problem... I only buy shots for girls that are good kissers." She gives me this little smile and says "So, you are saying you want to kiss me?" and I just said "Hey, I'm just following the rules..." So she gives me a peck on the lips. I asked her if she was my grandma, and what the hell that was. Bartender asks me what I want so I ordered the drinks, turned back to her and said "I can easily give this to my buddy, I know he's a good kisser". She laughs, grabs the drink, we take the shot and she says to me "I really shouldn't, though. I have a boyfriend." I said to her "We just met, and you are already lying to me? You told me outside you just broke up" and she's like "but we still love eachother". So I give her this little smile and went in for the kiss, she grabs me and starts making out with me.
So she heads back to her friends, I head back to mine. We decide we are going to head out. I knew this chick wasn't leaving her friends, so it was time to move out. So I start walking by her and she says "Are you leaving!?!?!" and I said "yeah, what's your number?" and she takes my phone and puts her number in.
What I learned:
- Stop thinking and start doing. Too many times when trying to open I sit back and debate what to say, how to say it, when to say it. When I do what I did here and simply rush in the second I have an opportunity, it always ends better. Just need to stop psyching myself out.