ready123
Master Don Juan
if you can make eye contact for at least a couple seconds, the nuancies are not gonna be a make it or break it thing
good eye contact is just a subset of good body language, which cultivates attraction. you maintain eye contact it shows confidence and trustworthiness. you hold it too long and you'll come across wierd. if you hold it longer than the girl and she's interested, the dominance makes your value go up. but to put it all in perspective, if the rest of your body language sucks, it doesn't matter what you're looking at
now in certain interactions, if you break it and your timing is good, you can subcommunicate that she has to work to get you and make her realize you're higher value than she thought you were. the thing is this is totally dependent on the dynamics of the situation. the girl has to be curious about you and has to be gauging your value as equal or lower than hers. does this happen all the time? of course not. regardless this is just a little interaction-specific nuance of non-verbal communication and even if you f*ck up the only way you can't recover from it is if you're socially retarded
maybe Payton Kane has this type of situation happen to him all the time but most guys won't. which is why guys shouldn't follow gurus who can't explain the social psychology behind what they preach
also, I agree with Randallpink - just get enough experience so things like good eye contact become natural and subconscious. then you never have to worry about this sh!t ever again even if the next guru who wants attention brings it up
good eye contact is just a subset of good body language, which cultivates attraction. you maintain eye contact it shows confidence and trustworthiness. you hold it too long and you'll come across wierd. if you hold it longer than the girl and she's interested, the dominance makes your value go up. but to put it all in perspective, if the rest of your body language sucks, it doesn't matter what you're looking at
now in certain interactions, if you break it and your timing is good, you can subcommunicate that she has to work to get you and make her realize you're higher value than she thought you were. the thing is this is totally dependent on the dynamics of the situation. the girl has to be curious about you and has to be gauging your value as equal or lower than hers. does this happen all the time? of course not. regardless this is just a little interaction-specific nuance of non-verbal communication and even if you f*ck up the only way you can't recover from it is if you're socially retarded
maybe Payton Kane has this type of situation happen to him all the time but most guys won't. which is why guys shouldn't follow gurus who can't explain the social psychology behind what they preach
also, I agree with Randallpink - just get enough experience so things like good eye contact become natural and subconscious. then you never have to worry about this sh!t ever again even if the next guru who wants attention brings it up